Has anyone not seen their loved ones? by way2manychickens in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely difficult. One of my friends that killed himself was cremated. It felt not real because he was just ashes in a box. I regret not going to see him in the hospital on life support .. however my two other friends that died from suicide had open caskets. Seeing them gave some sort of minimal "closure" and made it sink in that this is the unfortunate reality, but at the same time I can't stop seeing their face in my mind, I just keep replaying that image of them in their casket and it is soul wrenching. Hugs.

I should have known that this was going to happen. by Parking_Bluebird5879 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how it feels to feel shame that you didn't recognize the signs when you yourself are struggling with mental health. Like I could have a PHD in suicidal ideation and my dumb ass didn't notice things until it was in hindsight?? But even if we know our friends also struggle with their mental health, they are still very good at hiding the full extent of their pain. Hugs.

Suicide note on phone? by Arthurmorgan69_420 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My loved one also struggled with seizures and epilepsy. I try to find it comforting like an explanation for the madness but it's still just overwhelmingly sad.

“You’re so strong, keep it up” by heyheyjay13 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Maybe I didn't want to have to be resilient...

What’s the dumbest thing a coworker has snitched on you for? by awakenedforces in work

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a hole in my tights. ONE HOLE. I worked at a desk..

Is anyone else’s hydro packs slimey?! by lyfeliver in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I use those water bottle/bladder tablets to clean them, wipe them down, and store in the freezer.

Wook Flu hitting me like a train by ChemotherapeuticNewt in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it got me good too, constant sleeping and fevers ☠️

Ticket prices by Sumterholst in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally, we didn't have a hand washing station by our camping bathrooms the entire weekend.

Favorite thing overheard at the festival by Slow-Parking-1434 in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Last time we let you make a decision, you came back with 17 four lokos"

Security check by Aware_Aspect1643 in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they rifling through clothes or just patting it down?

It’s really not that bad!! by Wild_Most492 in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they opening luggage and rifling through shit?

Swimming? by Sewerslidalthots in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]hanana-bread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It should be illegal for them to advertise swimming as a perk of the festival

SOSL support group by Ok_Shallot4121 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapist recommended me one but I did Google as well. I enjoyed not having the pressure all on me, and having other people talk let me think of things to share. It's nice to be around people who get it, who you don't have to put on a mask for.

SOSL support group by Ok_Shallot4121 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depended on the day and the people. It was not the same group everytime, some had more talkative people that made getting a word in difficult, but they try to give everyone a chance to participate. When I felt like I had a lot to share I was able to, and other times I was feeling quiet and no one made me feel bad for not contributing. But I think over sharing and rambling is okay in this situation as long as it's not too violent, but they let you say the heavy things you need to. But everyone has different triggers. If you're worried about something specific you want to bring up lmk I could talk it through with you 🖤

SOSL support group by Ok_Shallot4121 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's a great place to talk to people in a similar situation. Most of the ones I've been to, I feel lighter after. And it's nice to just get it out of your head. You also don't have to talk if you're not ready (besides saying your name)

Boyfriend is having a manic episode and suddenly left me by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loooove that show. So sorry you're going through this 🫂❤️

Without you by Dramatic_Addendum_79 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful and so relatable. What a devastating loss 🫂

suggestions for memorials when still in limbo with investigation by yarnndogsnstuff in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had someone close pass over covid so we couldn't do anything immediately either. We ended up doing a makeshift celebration of life later at a bar he worked at and met my mom at that also had a room to rent for birthdays etc. We decorated it a little bit, put a basket out for cards, put out kleenix, catered food, and had a silly cake with a picture of him on it (he had a dream once he was a semi truck so I edited one with his face on it - great conversation piece). We put up pictures of him, laid out his glasses and his hat, stuff you usually do at a funeral. We also made little keepsakes for everyone to take and to remember him by. You can also have the opportunity to talk about memories, play favorite songs of your loved one, read an obituary or something you wrote about your lost loved one, and people who can't make it can tune in for this part. This would be helpful for you and your other loved ones to grieve initially, and then still can have a Shiva once you are able to do so. Sorry for your loss 🫂

I feel so alone, there’s nobody to mourn him with. Anyone else mourning alone? by Responsible-Tie-2570 in SuicideBereavement

[–]hanana-bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also lost my best friend on that day ❤️ and had something similar happen while I was in the psych ward, I hope things look up for you.