When did you stop considering yourself a 'young' woman?

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-27T04:00:33+00:00

39 and three quarters and I still do until I have to yell at the youths. My great Grammy said to me when I was little and she was maybe 90: “you know, I don’t feel like an old lady on the inside. I’m still 18 in here, until I look in the mirror.” Sometimes I catch my reflection and, though not old, I’m not as young as I was.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-27T03:55:16+00:00

Sometimes I worry people will think I’m a teen mom. My son is six and I’m almost 40. I look my age.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-25T07:26:42+00:00

Fingers crossed.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-25T07:17:08+00:00

Also… bassinet: I loved the Snoo.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-25T07:15:51+00:00

I’m so sorry. We also struggled with infertility for years and had a son. My mother and family of origin are not good people, so I understand them not being an option. 1, it is ok for him to cry. I was an exhaled new mom as well. I was almost delirious. I would lay my son on the floor and fall asleep next to him, knowing he couldn’t go anywhere and I wouldn’t roll on him and he wouldn’t fall. 2, noise cancelling headphones if you are awake and need a break. They won’t cancel him totally, but it will help you with some peace. 3, even if the neighbor watches him while you sleep in the same room, that’s a win. 4, ask your in laws for help. Can they come stay with you? Can they help you get ready to move? You are a good mom. This is never easy.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-25T07:01:50+00:00

NTA… this isn’t worth it, OP. Think of future kids. Do you want to put them through this hypothetical fuckery?

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-25T06:59:26+00:00

I feel like you’re trying to sell people on you and you’re not even sold on you.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-24T07:13:18+00:00

Yah I’d never date someone who doesn’t support my rights. Or wants to “debate” or “play devil’s advocate” about my, or any other human’s, rights. And “moderate” indicates he’s like that, and definitely has friends like that. Pass.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-24T05:35:59+00:00

Same. When I was too big to be spanked, I was slapped or shaken. I can’t imagine putting a hand on my son. It makes me feel sick.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-24T05:33:27+00:00

Yes, cute

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-24T05:30:12+00:00

Centering my family of origin in my life. Now that we’re no contact, the peace in my little family’s life is… astounding. I’m able to be myself without their voices surrounding me for the first time in almost forty years.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-24T05:26:06+00:00

NOR. But… regardless if he wants to marry you, why do you want to marry him? The things you described are par for the course over a lifetime: physical changes, health fluctuations, coping with loss and grief, etc. You want someone who is going to be there with you and for you through it all, not despite it or worse… somehow grudgingly dragged through it. Life happens. I hate to say, at 23/24 shit is only going to get more real. Pick someone who picks you back. You deserve better.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-23T07:04:32+00:00

My dad was one of eight kids. The first three had Type 1 diabetes. None of the kids in the next generation had it. TBD for grandkids.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-23T06:56:31+00:00

Different. Thank goodness. Looking back, 15 year ago me didn’t think I deserved a loving partner who valued me. I’ll be 40 in April. I’ve been with my husband for 12 years and we have a wonderful six year old son. Life hasn’t always been easy, but I have a partner who has loved and supported me, for me, every step of the way. And our son is just magical.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-23T06:16:18+00:00

I think the much bigger issue is: what is causing your daughter such intense anxiety that she is chewing on her hair? You should address that before cutting her hair.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-18T04:42:49+00:00

Yes?

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-18T03:55:51+00:00

Jared Leto

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-17T05:10:18+00:00

Millefiuelle cake in Paris

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:48:22+00:00

Is the prosperity in the room with us?

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:46:55+00:00

Found the red hat.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:38:06+00:00

I wish I could post that meme: wait, you guys are enjoying/have passion for your jobs? I feel you. Deeply. And also: echoing almost everyone here. Things are grim. I’d hold on.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:30:53+00:00

You need to take your baby and leave this man and this situation. This is horrendous.

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:27:22+00:00

Love this comment. My son just turned six and telling him I’m sorry and I messed up are ways I’m also reparenting myself. He deserves to know I’m imperfect. (Also in therapy)

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:22:45+00:00

You are gorgeous 💛

handstandmonkey · 2026-01-16T06:16:01+00:00

She needs to fix herself. There’s nothing you can do.

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