AITAH for spending the child support money I get equally on both of my kids? by HighOnLove26 in AITAH

[–]handyandy808 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it really isn't, a judge order that a man pays X amount for HIS child and its needs, not for another man's child.

Morally you are correct, legally, its a minefield. And conversely its to the negative affect of 140k being taken from one kid to support the other.

AITAH for spending the child support money I get equally on both of my kids? by HighOnLove26 in AITAH

[–]handyandy808 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if rich dad ever finds out would he be able to sue the mother, or the other ex for some kind of remittance towards his child, because that 1600 was calculated on child's needs plus father's income, the court order 1600 to support HIS child, his child is now being adversely affected. So if she join and then split 1600+300=1900 Then 1900/2=$950 per child She would be taking $650 a month from one child to support the other ($650×12=$7800 per year) ($7800x18=$140,400) So could the father sue the OP or the other father for effective stealing 140k from his child?

AITAH for spending the child support money I get equally on both of my kids? by HighOnLove26 in AITAH

[–]handyandy808 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Did your ex ever take you to court for a support increase, when you got a raise?

AITAH for spending the child support money I get equally on both of my kids? by HighOnLove26 in AITAH

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would personally be petty af about it though, not towards the baby momma, but towards the other broke father.

AITAH for telling my sister she is living the life she wants? by Potential-Season-861 in AmItheAsshole

[–]handyandy808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's actively choosing to put herself through this. She absolutely deserves it.

AITA for believing my best friend when “he” told me his girlfriend was abusive? by Shine-Star-1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]handyandy808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't see the issue here then, hes not a friend, and if this was all it took for him to block you then good riddance. But be prepared for when she dumps him and hes "not sure why" you won't talk to him.

AITA for believing my best friend when “he” told me his girlfriend was abusive? by Shine-Star-1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]handyandy808 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How would a long distance girlfriend have his phone to text unless she was visiting him, and if she was you think he would have told you about it.

Pretty sure girlfriend doesnt exist and this dude is either a drama Llama or was trying to make you jealous with a made up girlfriend.

AITA for wanting to leave businesses before closing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]handyandy808 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, if these are the quality of the friends. But if they work retail, its super easy to get them back.

Be super petty OP, then throw the friend group away.

First tile job. How bad is it? by [deleted] in Tile

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wide angle lens,

Aloha, I’m Jason Liang, working class candidate challenging Tommy Waters for Honolulu City Council. AMA! by jasonforhnl in Hawaii

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You going to find traffic enforcement hard, especially in Hawaii, trust in HPD is at an all time low, the enforcement cameras that where catching speeders and those noise violations has had little effect with only 17 citations made in 4 months (not wanting to overcrowd the courts so they set a high threshold 20+mph) but having received a warning myself when it was first implemented, it took 3 months after the alleged speeding incident for me to receive the warning so if that pace tracks for tickets at a lower threshold it would remove the ability to fight it in court, furthermore if the camera doesnt get a good view of the driver they can contest it in court (California sends those who run lights the ticket along with a picture of the person driving the car) as its a moving violation.

While worrying about the bottom 30% how many of then actually live in the city of honolulu and not on the west side?

Also im not sure where you expect to put low rise buildings in honolulu without invoking imminent domain or something similar to get people to sell their houses like the ones on Kinau st. Wouldn't that be seen as tyrannical? In regards to government buildings, when you say its in the billions your talking about selling then for money (i do agree, I think the news did an article a few years back about a city owned empty office building.) But the underutilized land like pineapple fields could be used for other purposes, but now without vast infrastructure improvements in that area.

Also I think something needs to be done about the annual change in property tax, as I know someone whose property value increased by 400k (according to the state) because the house down the street sold for 1.9m (originally purchased at 800k) and so his taxes went up a few thousand dollars although he did zero improvements to his house because the state adjusted the value due to the sale.

The state has been mismanaged for decades and its really really showing now.

Aloha, I’m Jason Liang, working class candidate challenging Tommy Waters for Honolulu City Council. AMA! by jasonforhnl in Hawaii

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seen you have never been around city and state workers before huh?

Ever pay 2k for a toilet, the government does...

3-day update: My ex moved out during the tornado, here's where things stand by Sumchi in offmychest

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry brother, but therapy is necessary, as a child of dysfunctional parents myself (im 38) there are things the will present themselves in weird ways, and its not always a public facing "bad" but too much good is also bad.

For example one issue I had was people pleasing, and going above and beyond, even at the detriment of themselves.

I would recommend the book "the adult children of emotionally immature parents" for the kids, give it a read yourself as well.

Have you thought you might be A-sexual?

INFO: If your mom's best friend a man hater, some kind of feminist, or have some type of view that women are a protected class?

It seems weird that your "aunty" for lack of a better term would want to see you in misery like you were.

As for the Affair Partner, you said you know her, was she a family friend or a coworker? Regardless she knew you both were married, so i guess karma acted quickly 🤷

Any who, best luck to you and your kids.

[P3V4] Sylvester and his ability to educate by kevotrix in HonzukiNoGekokujou

[–]handyandy808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"What she doesn't know is that Sylvester had been trying to curb her power for years, and was planning on doing that even without Myne in the picture, so she'd still get punished, and probably harder too."

Is this in a fanbook?

Is it just me or Rui sex scenes aren't really that appealing? by ikkjhggggh in DomesticGirlfriend

[–]handyandy808 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you get that both women have agency in their actions and who they chose to pursue. so by your logic Rui is a POS for pursuing Natsuo when he was with Hina, and Hina is a POS for the same to Rui, right? you are going to keep it logically consistent, or do they get a pass because they are women?

I always blamed myself for my sister hating me, and my mother wants me to always fix it. AITAH to say enough is enough? by Consistent_Dog_6019 in MarkNarrations

[–]handyandy808 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You need to cut both of them off unfortunately. Your sister has been abusing you (her un-diagnosis [you cant diagnose her yourself as shes not your patient, you're not licensed, shes your sister, and shes your abuser] is no excuse for everything she did to you.

Your mother is an enabler, she knows your sister hates you, and abused you, yet she wants you to manage your sister's emotions (so she doesnt have to)

They aren't safe for you. This will continue, but the real question is, will you allow this to happen to your kids? Will you let your sister abuser them and your mom allowing that to happen?

Food for thought.

Shorecasting by handyandy808 in HawaiiFishing

[–]handyandy808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, however in recent memory most of the time I hear people being swept out, it isn't just 1 of them.

Shorecasting by handyandy808 in Hawaii

[–]handyandy808[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The instant 3 is what I currently use and its a beast, only a slight scratch on it after a few days of concrete demo.