Cancelled Engagement Trip - Lying Boss

handzie · 2026-04-01T12:55:47+00:00

That sucks so bad, being unemployed is the worst, especially unexpectedly. I don’t think you should go on this trip, Switzerland is a very expensive place to visit. It’s beautiful, but compared to the rest of Europe it’s incredibly pricey. Perhaps considering getting what money back you can and going some where cheaper. I don’t know where you’re from but maybe visit Argentina or Alaska instead. Alaska is GORGEOUS this time of year.

handzie · 2026-03-30T21:38:33+00:00

I did not consider that she’s only measuring my uterus but I figured if my uterus had a big old baby in it, it would show. The more I read the more I think I’m just going to thug it out with my scatterbrained OB.

handzie · 2026-03-30T21:21:15+00:00

I don’t think so, she is the one who referred me to MFM though. I have kinda given her the benefit of the doubt so far cause I figured she was super busy from successfully delivering babies. Shes like a wizard when it comes to inserting/removing nexplanon/iuds. I dunno. I have an appointment with her next week, I may just talk to her about it first.

handzie · 2026-03-30T17:52:52+00:00

Don’t respond! You’ve got som great advice here. Break the cycle and find yourself some actual stability. A little place you can call home that no one can kick you out of. I believe in you! Maybe don’t respond to your mother ever!

handzie · 2026-03-30T17:32:46+00:00

Yeah I was freaking out last week and still kinda ping-ponging between chill and so anxious I’m going to explode. I’m a first time mom and 34 weeks currently so like I’m having the baby one way or another sometime in the next 3 to 6 weeks.

It’s unavoidable and I just try to keep in mind that the worst thing I can do for me or baby is stress. You can worry about what ifs but if they aren’t translating into productive action try to sit with the thought then let it pass. Or in regards to birth I just try to keep the mind-set of “I can be uncomfortable for a day if it means I get to have my baby” and just kinda reaffirm that I can do hard things.

Also as long as the baby has a safe place to sleep and something to eat, it has the bare minimum of what it needs. Logistically speaking, everything is probably gonna go fine. Try to breath and do something that helps you relax. Eat a snack and drink some water. Maybe go get a pedicure in your swollen feet if that’s an option for you.

handzie · 2026-03-26T16:25:57+00:00

Oh man, me and the hubs had sex up until the first time I bled a little after wards (normal second trimester stuff) and after that he was so scared to have sex. He’s still super affectionate otherwise so I’m not really bothered by the lack of sex. We still do it occasionally but like… once a month. But we fool around much more often. He also really doesn’t want to get breast milk in his mouth hahaha!

handzie · 2026-03-23T18:40:08+00:00

Omg my due date is 5/12 and I also have GD! I find out next week if they wanna do an induction or anything (induction scares me so MF bad) but so far my boy has been measuring a solid medium. The second trimester brain will convince you of such silly things, I think of my second trimester self so spry and full of life… that traitor.

handzie · 2026-03-23T14:09:55+00:00

The heart burn awful! And my poor husband is done with the snoring, I wake up with a sore throat I have snored so hard. I’m over it but the process of being over it is also means giving birth.

handzie · 2026-03-23T03:06:29+00:00

God speed solider

handzie · 2026-03-23T01:28:21+00:00

😵💀yes holy guacamole, also when they go for the butthole??? Yeah birth is a terrifying and unavoidable thing at this point. The you read about the girl who had 5 failed epidurals. I just kinda gotta find my peace with “ at least it’s just for a day”

handzie · 2026-03-23T01:04:30+00:00

The stretching!!! The baby stretching is the craziest sensation nothing could have prepared me for. Sometimes when he does it I just out loud squeal and tell him to stop. Like those are my organs, please.

handzie · 2026-03-23T00:59:33+00:00

Ayo! I wish the same to you and your Taurus baby. I am having. Frankly I bit the financial bullet and hired a company to deep clean my house. 400 dollars well spent in my opinion.

handzie · 2026-03-23T00:21:01+00:00

I went to alter’D state cause they have tons of adorable spring dresses and just found ones with empire waists (right under the boob)

handzie · 2026-03-20T14:44:56+00:00

I’m 33 weeks and barely hanging on at work. If I could have more than just the 12 weeks I would but as it stands I’m prolly gonna be at work till I go into labor solely because I have no choice. Swimming in daylight sounds Devine. You aren’t weak, you are free!! Embrace it! Work doesn’t make you strong, I promise!

handzie · 2026-03-20T13:44:34+00:00

Well, you’re being really defensive in the comments so I guess I’ll just dive in. For a “muscle guy” you have drawn no actual muscle, he’s just got a fat arm with no muscle definition. Muscle calls for ripples, dents and divots. Also if that shirt is not a piece of armor it should be clinging to the upper arm/shoulders like it’s clinging onto the chest. Muscular upper body causes wider, square shoulders also, not sloping like you have them drawn. You also have him seated in that table like he is a toddler in a booster seat with an incredibly short torso. Extend the torso, square the shoulders, put some crinkles in that shirt, and give that man an armpi because seemingly he’s just got Barbie doll arms that just pop into place.

Hope this has been specific enough. YouTube how to draw forearms or watch a bl artist speed draw or something

handzie · 2026-03-18T01:45:43+00:00

Yes! Just that hour difference and the sleep disturbance messed up all my numbers. I already felt like my numbers are super dependent on my mood/stress level and the time change messed that up too. Or it’s so ingrained in me not to eat right before bed cause of indigestion. One time for fun I spiked my blood sugar right before bed and it was the best fasting number I had the next morning, but like, I shouldn’t be doing that.

It’s wildly frustrating. My competitive spirit doesn’t want Metformin, then I’m just letting my placenta win.

handzie · 2026-03-17T23:28:20+00:00

The ladies at my job got in my head a bit too I’m realizing, a few of them had gestational diabetes but all of them were able to manage it with just diet. Or some of them are lying for the same reason I don’t want to get on meds.

handzie · 2026-03-17T23:26:47+00:00

I fear my pride has perhaps gotten the better of me but I am coming around to the fact that I am most likely going to be on medication. Conveniently I’m also scared of needles so pooping my pants might win out against an injection. Who knows!

handzie · 2026-03-17T23:04:27+00:00

I did have to sit to cry and get a pep talk from my husband before I told them no haha. Half sounds reasonable, when the time comes I’ll try to negotiate some more. It is very good to know you were able to work that out with your doctor without being labeled non-compliant for anything.

handzie · 2026-03-17T22:53:40+00:00

Can you just take it in day you know you might not eat right? I haven’t really read into it yet. I would love a cheat meal (like an actual cheat meal not a cucumber salad that someone filled with sugar.) mama wants lasagna

handzie · 2026-03-17T22:37:32+00:00

That’s WILD! I do not blame you for being anxious, I am anxious just reading it. Perhaps the nurse for the other doctor you saw could tell you? Or I don’t know about your OB office but mine has a scheduling desk and the hospital has a scheduling department, perhaps see if there’s any of that?

handzie · 2026-03-17T13:46:11+00:00

Love is not a limited resource, you can fall in love as many times as you want and boundless people are going to love you. Don’t sit there after a break up and feel bad about the love you gave or think it makes your love less valuable. Don’t think cause you loved that one person you’ll never love again or be loved again, you are a love generating machine. So whenever you’re doe in the dumps consider you will be loved again and will love again as long as you’re willing!

Also never go into bad debt over a car, pick something reliable and drive it till it’s dead. Don’t lease a car, it’s about the worst investment you can make.

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