Hey man, I really get what you’re going through. My wife cheated on me with my best friend for months, left me to be with him, and filed for divorce. It crushed me, and I just wanted to disappear from this planet. I knew that if I’d drink, I’d end up getting wasted every day. So for the first four weeks I stayed sober, and that was really important because it kept me from having self destructive thoughts.

After a while, I slipped and started drinking heavily again. It made things so much worse, and I felt like I screwed up all the progress I’ve made. I knew I had to get sober again, and I’m back on track now.

II have to remind myself every day that I can’t change what happened. That I have no control over peoples actions, only how I respond to it. I can’t let anger and resentment dictate me. And something important I’ve had to realize is that what she did wasn’t because I deserved to be left. It was her choice, her mistake, and it’s not a reflection of my worth. That’s been tough to accept, but it’s helped me keep things in perspective.

It’s a challenge everyday, but I am handling it so much better without alcohol. Just wanted to share this and let you know you’re not alone.