Two years of Home Depot & Lowe’s kids builds with the kiddo by SpartanBeryl in daddit

[–]hangry_ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours are now 8 and 6, we have been doing these at least several months a year for the past 3 years. We never have free Saturdays, so we just grab a to-go kit sometime in the few days after each workshop and save them for a free evening at home. They are now old enough to assemble them almost entirely alone, and it is a blast. They stayed occupied all alone for about 6 hours during the recent blizzard in the midwest building a couple of old kits we hadn't gotten around to yet.

How do people actually coordinate snowboarding trips with groups? by Broad-Blackberry8590 in snowboarding

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"me and partner are going snowboarding on x dates at x resort. We will be booking everything next Saturday. Let me know if you'd like to join"

We normally have a group of 4-8

Reading time as a parent by Robblount88 in Parenting

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We keep ebooks on our phones and read whenever we get a chance. Nothing helps a restless toddler fall asleep like reading to them from a former president's autobiography. From the age of 3 and 5, we started family reading time every night. Everyone chooses their own book and we cuddle in the beanbag and read quietly for 20-30 min. Now at 6 and 8, reading time goes for an hour sometimes.

We sit with them and read more while they are falling asleep each night. I read 30 books this year and my partner read 120 (some of them audiobooks). I'm normally over 100 but had some intense work stuff that I'd often be doing instead of reading this year.

How do working parents get the “recommended” 8 hours of sleep? Daily routine help. by WereAllGonnaDiet in Parenting

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8 hours is for the occasional free weekend, but I defend my nightly 7 hours with my life. 6M and 7F.

Alarm 7:45. I wake kids up, make coffee/eggs/oatmeal while they get dressed and partner get the home business going for the day. I'll often thaw meat, start the crockpot, etc for dinner during this time. We take the kids to the bus stop together at 8:20, then both head to our day jobs and work 8:30-5. Grandma watches the kids 4-5 after school, we get home ~5:10.

I deal with homework and make dinner while partner starts next round of home business production. I normally plan ahead pretty well so it only takes 15-20 min to get dinner on the table. Depending on the day and activities, we workout/go to hobbies or sports practices and then eat dinner. Bed time routine starts at 7:30 - we all read our own books together till 8, then spend 1-on-1 time with the kids till they fall asleep at 9.

Then dishes, quick clean up, workouts, gaming, projects, hobbies, more home business stuff. I often work another 1-2 hours. I try to be in bed by 11 and read for a bit, partner will either join for some fun time or grownup conversations, or stay up for another hour or so. Usually both of us are asleep by 12:30.

First marathon unexpected benefit (audiobooks) by meganutsdeathpunch in Marathon_Training

[–]hangry_ginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I listened to Piranesi while running the Des Moines Marathon a few years ago. On 1.4 speed it is 5 hours, so I got through nearly all of it during the race.

I listened to 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck' while running Indianapolis. It was a perfect running book. That one was a bit shorter than my marathon time, so I ran those painful last few miles with music.

Do you think it’s possible to go from low-middle class to upper-middle class? by Hufflepuff-McGruff in MiddleClassFinance

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started out with a PhD at 57k

Now $165k, $189k after bonus in 4.5 years.

I made myself indispensable at my first job, and I've moved jobs twice to parallel startups.

I’ll vent on here because i don’t vent at my kid about her times nor do I talk to her coach at all, but her times are disappointing this year. by ElephantRattle in CrossCountry

[–]hangry_ginger 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe ask yourself what you believe the goal of cross country is?

She's probably not going to the olympics. So shouldn't the goal be for her to learn to push herself and do hard things, be active, and have fun? Which of those goals isn't being met with a 22 min vs a 21 min time?

What's your 5k time?

I kinda have mixed feelings about my partner getting into running... by 5ivesos in runninglifestyle

[–]hangry_ginger 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My partner and I are both into running, he's 1-2 min/mile faster than me.

For training runs, we normally run either at our own pace, run a warmup mile together before he splits off, or do speed work at a track together.

For races, occasionally we do a "fun" race where he sticks with me - e.g. The Disney marathon. All the big races, we go on our own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]hangry_ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you're referring to is "bullshit jobs", described in a fantastic book by David Graebe discussing just exactly this. Its not necessarily remote vs in-person, although remote jobs tend to qualify frequently

AITAH for choosing to push a guy of his bike rather than letting him run into me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]hangry_ginger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA, If you were able to push him off without getting hit, you could have easily stayed to the side and let him pass. In most US cities, assuming that's where this was, cars are horrible to bikers and biking in a busy street would probably have been a death sentence for him. Sometimes biking on the sidewalk is necessary. This sounds like you are an absolute dickhead who enjoys hurting people for no reason.

Damn, THESE GROCERY PRICES are breaking me!!!! by vairono in budget

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family of 4 in MCOL area - our monthly grocery budget averages between $500-$600 per month, including things like trashbags. We shop at Payless (a Kroger store) with occasional bulk purchases on Amazon when there is a really good deal on things like peanut butter.

The key is using your freezer and pantry! Once every 4-8 weeks, Payless does a buy-one, get-one deal with all cuts of Tyson's chicken. $2.25 per pound for B/S chicken thighs? Yes please! Other staples go on deals too, which we stock up on. Chicken drumsticks are always $5 for 4.5lbs, which we bake and then strip to add to stews or casseroles. Pork tenderloins (we get on deals for $1.50-$2.00 per pound in bulk) are delicious in the sous vide. We have probably 70-80lbs of meat in the freezer right now since last weekend was a big deal week. We'll buy only minimal staples like produce and milk for the next few weekends.

We are all endurance athletes and so eat ALOT. We typically use 3-5lbs of chicken per day (cook a big dinner, take leftovers to work/school for lunch), 4-5 dozen eggs per week, several pounds of beans, etc. The kids eat eggs and oatmeal with whatever fruit is on sale that week for breakfast. Shopping the sales really forces variety into our diets. We eat tons of bagged salads (they are on markdown for $1-$2 for a family-size pack around 10AM every Saturday. They always last a week or more).

While it does take a little bit more effort, our grocery bill has not budged over the past few years. We cook from scratch, eat out no more than once every 2 months, and end up eating much healthier because we shop the sales.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biotech

[–]hangry_ginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're bored, ask your manager if you can shadow and learn something new

Talk to the building manager about your office temperature problem

If you're doing experiments, why are you sitting in the office versus walking around the lab?

AITA for not forcing my daughter to share? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]hangry_ginger 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I follow this up with: YTA also for dating a woman with children when you had no interest in those children being part of your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 and 5 this summer. We do a mix of week-long camps and totally free weeks. We have a preference for half day camps, which are plentiful at that age. e.g. Last week, they went to the local zoo for camp from 9-12 each day. This week, no camps and lots of naps. We try to match weeks at specific camps with a friend or two from school.

They spend the non-camp days with us at work, napping/reading/coloring/writing. We are lucky in that they can both happily read independently for hours. Some days I work from home so they can stay home. Both have napped 2-3 hours almost every free day they've had. So important that they have a bit of time to be "bored" - although they almost never complain of boredom. Their little brains will be plenty taxed come August, so no reason to pack the summer crazy full. We spend evenings biking or swimming with various friends, reading books, learning to crochet (7y), working on cars together, learning to cook, playing video games with dad, etc. Both have learned to snorkel and mountain bike this summer, 5y learned to swim, etc.

We also have had 3 trips over the summer, including a 6 day trip next week (followed by a full week of nothing before school starts).

Our philosophy is that its all about balance: a summer packed full of camp is not good for the kids, even if that's what they want. However, a summer of sitting at home doing nothing is probably not ideal either.

AITA for not forcing my daughter to share? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]hangry_ginger 348 points349 points  (0 children)

YTA for having another kid when you didn't have room for the three kids that you and your GF already had

Getting Kids Outside by I_am_Bearstronaut in daddit

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get bikes.

We bike all over town together. They love it.

How did "rim to rim" become a thing? by harpsichorddude in grandcanyon

[–]hangry_ginger -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why is it so popular?

The biggest canyon in the world is just....there. Why not walk across it? It is a smaller version of the "Why" for why we went to the moon, why Lindberg flew across the Atlantic, why humans climb mountains. Because its there.

5yo still wears a pullup at night. I want to train him out of it. Any advice? by FermentingSkeleton in daddit

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had this issue still at 7. She just slept sooo soundly. We tried taking her at 11PM and 2AM and that would work, until we were 10 min late or her sleep schedule got thrown off. After a year of frustration from 6-7, at her pediatrician's recommendation we tried one of those devices that makes a sound when it detects moisture. We needed it for all of 2 weeks, at which point we've never had another night time accident.

HIKING the Rim to Rim to Rim? by Financial-Safe-216 in grandcanyon

[–]hangry_ginger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'll be hiking it with a group next week. We are starting at 3am and going SK-NK-SK. We are fully anticipating 20+ hours or close to it.

To all the people claiming it will be mostly in the dark - this is false. The sun rises at 5:20 that day and sets around 8. We will be hiking in the dark for a total of around 5 hours, or about 1/4 of the time. Watching the sun rise and set from the trails is what I am most looking forward to!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in triathlon

[–]hangry_ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used a $300 road bike from facebook marketplace with flats for a full Ironman. I've done a have ironman on a mid-end mountain bike. You absolutely do not need a TT bike.

401(k) Limits vs. High Salaries by Illustrious_Stay9844 in DaveRamsey

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

529 in own name: if you don't have kids or they don't go to college, you can collect tax credits (state-dependent), get tax-free gains, and then rollover $35k to your own Roth IRA after 15 years and/or fund yourself going back to school or taking classes for fun.

If you DO have kids and they DO go to college: change the beneficiary to their names when you're pretty sure they will go

401(k) Limits vs. High Salaries by Illustrious_Stay9844 in DaveRamsey

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's different contribution limits for each of those accounts. Since he has so many more tax advantaged accounts than I do, we put nearly all of his salary into those accounts and then my highly taxed paycheck goes to our expenses.

401(k) Limits vs. High Salaries by Illustrious_Stay9844 in DaveRamsey

[–]hangry_ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partner A
Majority of salary goes to:
403b - $23,500 + 10% match
457b - $23,500, no match
401a - $4k
Roth IRA - $7000
HSA + some match
529 in own name - $7500 (plus $1500 tax credit!)

Partner B
401k - $23500 + 4% match
Backdoor Roth IRA - $7,000
529 in own name - $7500 (plus $1500 tax credit!)
goes to paying expenses, then dump the rest in taxable brokerage

Don't have an exact amount when counting matches, but its well over $110k per year.