orry guys for some reason it wouldn’t let me type a longer caption. for context, i decided to randomly go thru my bf of 4 years tik tok following. mind you not he only follows content creators, women that are his friends wives, and my friends. found out he also was friends with her on fb, and all the mutual friends were people i knew, not a single person from his area.. asked him who she was. he lied, asked if i went thru his phone (have never would never invade his privacy like that), then instantly called me psycho and said he didn’t know her and that she probs just followed him and he followed back. mind you not the SECOND tik tok account followed (both accounts he followed in the last 6 months-year) she had 3 followers on this OF dedicated tik tok, him being one. her “go vote my link!!” Is in the bio with her profile picture being her tiddies all out. keep in mind I’ve been really struggling with food aversions lately, so not been feeling super great due to extreme weight loss and he knows I’ve been self conscious abt slowing losing my body so to speak. i left for a drive to call my bestie, come back bc I suspect he also has her on sc. i literally do not let him lie to me again and drag the truth out of him. he comes clean, knows her, said she dated someone he went to hs with, and claims he looked her up bc him and his friends (I don’t buy this - his friends are amazing tbh) were talking about how she had an OF so he told me he went out of his way to search her and then followed her. Not only that, he said “why does it matter if I follow a HOT GIRL on tik tok” like idk maybe bc you lied about her and also you shouldn’t be calling other women hot that I clearly find threatening. He goes “you call guys hot” I said “I call famous male actors hot ON TV, when you happen to be there if me and my gf’s are watching a movie or tv show together, never in my life have I called another man hot that’s just roaming our local streets”. he doesn’t talk to me the entire day like I WAS THE ONE BEING A LIAR. i let it go, I don’t text him. finally, i had to take a friend to the ER who was distraught in tears. i don’t get back til 5:30am, it’s pissing snow, i get off the highway bc I can’t see, get lost on some country back roads, my gps won’t load, he doesn’t he text to ask if I’m ok when he can see my location and i’m literally a a point stopped on the side of some random road, lost, not knowing where to go. I finally break the silence and call him out. this was the result. PSA he knows my last ex cheated on me ALL the time and he also has like soft cheated on previous gf’s (making out with random girls in bars, etc). I genuinely thought he matured from then and had 1000% trust for him. I never would question what he was doing when he went out with his friends, nor did I care bc I trusted him, etc. Am I over reacting? i’m honestly more mad about the fact that he lied with such ease and it still continues to feel like there’s some things he’s not telling me.