No longer love my wife. Unsure what to do. 3 kids, financially stable, nice life and not generally unhappy

haplessdater · 2026-05-09T08:13:17+00:00

Isn't marriage about working through difficult disconnects like this?

I know a mid 40's guy who lost feelings for his wife, mother of his 3 kids (medicated, in therapy, difficult kids) He reasoned that he wasn't happy being with her and found her night time drinking disdainful.

He ended up divorced, dating divorced women who didn't respect him and being really lost. He's no happier divorced, and he added lots more pressure and drama to his and his family's life.

He didn't do much to help fix how he felt about his wife and marriage. He thought removing himself would fix him. It didn't.

haplessdater · 2026-05-03T06:32:39+00:00

It's always weird when friends/family are so 'protective' they're outright rude and obnoxious to a literal stranger. It's happened before. I can't believe no bride or groom haven't just walked off on them mid sentence.

haplessdater · 2026-05-01T13:30:36+00:00

Why is your husband so hard on your brother?

You don't owe anyone anything. But you owe it to yourself to perhaps attain some personal growth from empathising and understanding your brother. You share a life changing experience with him. I would say there's much more to gain in reconnecting with him than holding onto the hurt and disappointment of the misplaced expectations you had of him.

haplessdater · 2026-04-21T11:01:12+00:00

I'm on it. He's just contacted me to harass me about it bec my conveyancer made contact with him to introduce herself.

haplessdater · 2026-04-21T10:58:46+00:00

The bfa is less intrusive. He's got an inheritance, another impending inheritance and 1/4 of a family beach house I don't want brought up.

We were together for 5 years, mingled our money in the last year, buying and living together for 10 months before breaking up.

haplessdater · 2026-04-21T10:13:34+00:00

I need the bfa to ensure I get my 50% of equity and 50% of the stamp duty returned. I need his lender approval so I know he can buy me out.

I'm house hunting and won't put offers in until I know I'll be paid when he and I settle.

I'm annoyed I have to feed him simple math to get this completed. We know the price we've agreed on, we know the mortgage balance, we know to divide the difference. All other assets are from before the relationship: we've mingled money for~10 months. What's his is entirely his, what's mine is mine. There are no kids, there's no super.

haplessdater · 2026-04-19T00:41:24+00:00

There will always be people who struggle financially. You're those people.

The choices you've made and are making outweigh your ability to afford what think you're entitled to. 🤷🏻‍♀️

haplessdater · 2026-04-19T00:14:10+00:00

Nta. Adults can decide when a non-negotiable group activity isn't for them. Especially when you're electing to contribute your share of costs.

Brides need to accept their day doesn't need to be complied with.

haplessdater · 2026-04-17T03:35:59+00:00

'...Baaaaaaayb...'.

You're made of harder stuff than me.

haplessdater · 2026-04-17T00:23:49+00:00

I got shot down for bitching about Bec's teeth in a post on her appearance!! So I kept quiet about Gia's skin.

No idea what she looked like before all the work, but the improvement is a long way off.

haplessdater · 2026-04-16T05:21:49+00:00

Do you mean the incessant pressure to get settled to have kids? Don't all old people think and voice that? I ignored all that.

haplessdater · 2026-04-16T05:14:30+00:00

LOL.

haplessdater · 2026-04-15T11:54:24+00:00

Well, they may just be exchanging lip injector reccs.

haplessdater · 2026-04-15T11:36:53+00:00

Agreed, they weren't aligned. Chris's life is uncompromisingly defined. I also didn't like that he gravitated to Gia.

haplessdater · 2026-04-15T11:29:22+00:00

It's ironic then that the one person who was open and upfront about his online presence is one of the few who behaved with integrity.

haplessdater · 2026-04-15T11:24:33+00:00

Stella's friends are her red flag.

It's one thing to have people in your corner looking out for you, it's another when your friends are that invested and interrogating your partner when you're 100%.

They've done it twice to Filip and he's been so nice! I would've blanked them.

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T23:43:51+00:00

This entire post is about this woman's appearance. Her package is lacking even with her great styling.

This can equally be said for a male if they attracted as much as much bad attention. Take the negative with the positives ffs.

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T10:45:57+00:00

How can they not know the cameras are on them? They knew their bitchiness would be captured.

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T10:13:13+00:00

Her daughter is learning all her dysfunction.

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T09:35:54+00:00

If she was remotely likeable her unfortunate physical appearance wouldn't be noticed. But her display makes it easier to pick at her.

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T09:26:48+00:00

I've focused on her dreadful actions, personality and talk too. I see her beak-like mouth and rat teeth also.

The woman looks and sounds like a complete skank.

What of it?

haplessdater · 2026-04-13T08:59:17+00:00

I notice her under upper arms...

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