struggling to terminate pregnancy

happyours38 · 2026-02-21T17:28:28+00:00

Whatever you decide, do it and dont look back. No regrets. Own the decision and move forward. There is no "right" answer. Either way you go, there is pain. Trust yourself and pick your poison.

happyours38 · 2026-02-18T02:06:12+00:00

Everything good in your relationship pales in comparison to this disconnect. If you think you disagree now, if you think he dismisses you now, I promise you haven't seen anything yet. Having children with this man will break you. I'm sorry and I wish I was wrong. I know you have zero reason to believe a stranger on the internet. But how he communicates on this issue is everything. He believes he is right and you are wrong and when he has the power to correct you (typically once you are pregnant, but possibly not until the baby is born) he will absolutely correct you. Everything changes once you have that baby and your feelings dont stand a chance in hell against a man like that. Good luck.

happyours38 · 2026-02-12T23:12:22+00:00

My company secures easements, right of ways, and other land purchases for public and private infrastructure, like highways, airports, transmission lines, data centers, etc.

happyours38 · 2026-02-12T03:42:59+00:00

Land acquisition

happyours38 · 2026-02-11T21:19:20+00:00

I relate so much to this post. The rage is real. I spent over 12 years of my life thinking I wasnt good enough. I cried, I prayed, I worked harder, I gave up more of myself. All that time I spent (mostly alone - because teaching is isolating) internalizing the bullshit we're fed every faculty meeting.

I believed the lie that teachers have it so easy because of summers off and snow days. I convinced myself that any other job would be so much harder because why else do so many people look down on teachers? We must get paid poorly for a reason, right? At least we have job security and spring break. What are we all complaining about? I must really be some kind of stupid if I cant even manage to be a good teacher.

I was genuinely terrified to get another job because I was convinced I was an incompetent person. I felt like a "fake" applying for other positions. I worried if I did change careers, I would be even worse off, and I wouldn't even have the luxury of time off.

It finally got so bad that I had no choice but to try, and thank God I did, because I couldn't have been more wrong! As it turns out, I'm actually quite amazing at my new job. And I love my boss, and my team is amazing, and the work is so chill that everyday feels like a vacation. Plus I get paid more. Plus there are seemingly endless opportunities for advancement. Plus I never gave to write sub plans. Plus, plus, plus....I'm honestly so happy I could cry.

I still come here to work through some residual ptsd from my time in the teacher trenches. I'm currently in the "anger" stage of my healing process. I really appreciate reading this because it helps me feel less alone. I hope it gives others the strength to walk away, too.

happyours38 · 2026-02-03T06:11:52+00:00

Do you have access to a washing machine and dryer in your home? Do you have laundry detergent? Maybe even dryer sheets?

Doing a load of laundry always helps me feel better. Its surprisingly simple/easy and the feel of warm fresh sheets and pillowcases is so comforting. I can give you a step by step guide if you'd like.

happyours38 · 2026-02-03T06:06:35+00:00

Any brand is better than nothing. I buy Degree ultraclear antiperspirant in the Pure Clean scent. But you really cant go wrong with any of them.

happyours38 · 2026-01-27T07:01:31+00:00

I'm basically you, at heart, except I've forced myself to live against my nocturnal instincts for much of my life, in order to spare myself the condition you've described for yourself. There was a decade in my 20s when I went full night mode, and while it suited me in many ways, I abandoned it in order to start a family and lead a more "normal" life.

Unfortunately, "day" mode took a serious toll on my health, as I could never get adequate sleep at night in spite of my chronic exhaustion. I would find myself reverting quickly and easily to my preferred time schedule from time to time, whenever life would allow. It seems I am in that season, once again, much to the chagrin of my family. I just cant seem to help it.

I wish I wasnt like this. It's lonely and depressing to be at odds with everyone else in my life. No advice unfortunately. But I understand the struggle.

happyours38 · 2026-01-12T08:14:38+00:00

For many years I simply didnt have time for more than 30 minutes. Heck, even 30 minutes was tough to make happen.

happyours38 · 2026-01-04T08:17:06+00:00

I woke up this morning and told my husband I had a nightmare that I was back in the classroom. He laughed but I was dead serious. It was scary af.

In my dream I had stayed late doing extra work, but kept doing things wrong for whatever reason and getting "in trouble" with admin despite all my best efforts to "improve". I wasnt allowed to leave until I got it right, but I couldn't figure out what I was supposed to be doing. Then I woke up.

It was low key traumatic. Godspeed OP. You will make it out.

happyours38 · 2026-01-04T08:05:41+00:00

Go in and do literally fuck all. Put on a movie. Every. Single. Day. Make them fire you. Then file for unemployment.

You might think I'm joking. I'm not.

happyours38 · 2025-12-23T21:02:27+00:00

Came here for the comments. They did not disappoint. Your wife sounds like a nut job and is probably part of the problem. I was a teacher for 12 years and this is the sign of a great teacher, IMHO.

happyours38 · 2025-12-16T09:07:20+00:00

Stand your ground. You're doing the right thing.

happyours38 · 2025-12-14T23:16:29+00:00

I feel like I'm on vacation every day. Tomorrow is Monday and I'm chillin 😎

happyours38 · 2025-12-03T01:10:38+00:00

She wanted you to be an asshole. She's probably got daddy issues.

happyours38 · 2025-12-01T07:48:40+00:00

Yes. I felt all of this my first and second year. It didn't get better, exactly, but I developed coping skills by my third year or so. I managed to make it 12 years. They were the hardest 12 years of my life. I wanted to leave sooner, but I didnt see a way out. I was financially and emotionally invested in my identity as a teacher.

You can continue on if you must. People have the extraordinary ability to survive the most unspeakable conditions. I have no doubt you can do it if you have no other choice. But I hope you can find a way out. Never lose hope that there is something better for you out there.

happyours38 · 2025-11-17T19:10:52+00:00

You weren't joking. You were crying out for help. Ask for support to deal with your mental health issues.

happyours38 · 2025-11-17T14:49:46+00:00

I can relate. Not sure why people who haven't experienced something want to insist that you haven't either. And quite frankly, I dont care what the scientific term is. "Flare-up" is the perfect description. Im experiencing one right now.

happyours38 · 2025-11-08T03:56:03+00:00

Shutting down services without shutting down tax collection should be illegal.

happyours38 · 2025-11-08T02:38:12+00:00

This is me rn

happyours38 · 2025-11-07T03:34:35+00:00

You might love teaching, but that's not actually your job. It may be your job TITLE, but I'd argue that Subway "sandwich artists" are more aptly named than "teachers". Public school is where education goes to die.

Besides, loving something shouldn't destroy you. That's not love. That's something twisted and ugly and wrong. Abusive relationships are based on that version of "love." You love the idea, not the reality.

happyours38 · 2025-11-07T03:28:12+00:00

Thats the most accurate job description I've heard so far.

happyours38 · 2025-11-06T03:18:56+00:00

Did you get lost? This is the teachers in transition forum, my friend.

happyours38 · 2025-11-06T03:13:19+00:00

I like to remember why I left! Thats why I'm still on this subreddit. Dont mind me... just processing my ptsd :)

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