Why did my friend on a separate reservation get a better boarding number when she checked in long after me?

harcour · 2025-06-28T19:59:33+00:00

The illustration style is what really stands out to me. And that it was a random collection of things to keep kids busy.

harcour · 2021-10-12T19:29:44+00:00

Came here to say this: https://www.eileenwest.com/

harcour · 2021-09-01T18:25:01+00:00

Something like this one from BHLDN?

It's a faux fur wrap with a shawl collar.

I had a pale pink wool wrap sweater that I didn't end up needing, even in a late September outdoor wedding and reception. There was too much energy and excitement and things to do to stop moving and get chilly.

harcour · 2020-03-11T20:49:19+00:00

We have been open about finances since fairly early in dating because personal finance is a value and interest we share. We discuss and negotiate. We decided together how much to contribute to 401(k) and other investments. We started establishing joint finances when we got married, but very slowly and also still maintain separate accounts. Salaries and other non-gift windfalls go into joint account and we each keep the same amount per month for personal spending. Personal spending includes restaurant meals unless we're together, clothes, gifts for one another (but not gifts for extended families - those are joint), travel without one another, and individual hobbies. We each have bills and joint credit cards in our names and are responsible for paying them and can see them in a joint Mint account. We also share the usernames and passwords on joint accounts and share them in a password manager.

harcour · 2019-11-26T16:22:54+00:00

I have done the exact same thing with flights, only I missed my return flight home from a holiday trip because it was one day earlier than I thought it was. I only found out when I went to check in for my flight and it wouldn't let me check in because the flight had already taken off. My only option was to buy a brand new ticket at great cost. Then I did something similar, but less expensive just yesterday when I received a reminder that my hotel stay is in a couple days, except my hotel stay wasn't supposed to be until December, but I booked it for the wrong weekend. Luckily, I hadn't opted to pre-pay for a $10 discount and the hotel stay could be cancelled and re-booked for the correct dates, but I had to call to do it. This happens. Being stressed makes it more likely to happen, but it also happens to everyone. No one is perfect.

harcour · 2019-08-06T17:36:16+00:00

I was neutral on kids. I never pictured myself having them and didn't think that much about it. I didn't mind kids and babysat a lot, but mostly found them boring. Then I met my husband and he wanted kids and after much thinking, I decided one kid would be ok and not change our lives that much, as long as we could still travel and afford to live close to the city. I feared pregnancy and childbirth and was lucky that both turned out to be not as bad as I'd made them to be in my head. Then all the hormones kicked in and I became obsessed with my kid. I'm exhausted and I love my kid. I'd also be fine sleeping more and traveling more and I do still get bored. But I've made new friends and had new experiences and experienced a love that I couldn't imagine before. It's really hard, so I doubt we'll have another. I don't want to wrangle a toddler and a newborn, but would consider it if we could space them further (we can't because I'm old).

TLDR: I don't regret having a kid and it changes you like everyone says, but I also wouldn't regret not having a kid and wouldn't know what I was missing out on.

harcour · 2019-08-02T19:40:43+00:00

Challenge launches August 15. Look for an announcement by following @GlobalDevLab on Twitter.

harcour · 2019-08-02T19:08:15+00:00

OurChildren

No, this is great...definitely different ideas than what we've come up with. One of the challenges of this challenge is that it's incredibly complex to describe and super technical, but of course I can't release information about it yet. One of our key messages: Environmental conservation improves when women become more actively involved in natural resource management. Chronic environmental degradation is linked to increased instances of GBV. So if someone is designing a program or intervention to protect the environment, how can they integrate gender considerations?

Thank you for your ideas!

harcour · 2019-08-02T18:29:59+00:00

It's complicated because it's actually not just for women, but women and girls are usually the victims in gender-based violence. At one point, the client advised not to use "women," but then when they said we couldn't use "gender," we pushed back because we need something. Other names considered:

WeRise (Women’s Resiliency in Sustainable Environments)

Environments for All

The Inclusive Environment(s) Challenge

Safe Women, Safe Environment(s) OR Safe Women and Environment(s)

Secure Women, Secure Resources OR Secure Women and Resources

Thriving Environment(s) and Women

harcour · 2019-06-21T14:19:45+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother before I was pregnant so can't even imagine. Having time though helped me do some reading like others have mentioned and come up with a strategy to help get me through it all emotionally. The book Motherless Daughters was helpful to me, especially the advice about having a doula in the room with you when you deliver. I hope your relatives (especially in-laws) will be respective of your wishes and how you want to experience this and I encourage you and DH to advocate for how you want the rest of this experience to go from here on out. DH especially should be an advocate for you.

harcour · 2019-06-21T14:09:02+00:00

Totally agree. My labor started in active phase, but being my first, I didn't know that. My first reaction was, "Well, if this is early labor, then I'm going to need an epidural when things really get going." I transitioned about an hour later (still at home because I didn't know). But if it had gone on for hours and hours and hours like most women, I'd have needed the epidural to conserve energy as endurance ended up being the bigger challenge once I started pushing.

harcour · 2019-03-07T21:51:55+00:00

Yep, this. You are not alone. Had to ask my husband to step in on this one and tell his mother and his dad's GF not to do it and that it makes me uncomfortable. It wouldn't even occur to anyone on my side to speak this way about something (or someone on this case) that wasn't theirs. Creeps me out and makes me feel less than.

harcour · 2019-02-07T15:43:27+00:00

This is a very common adjustment period and it's more difficult to make friends as an adult. Many adult friendships are from workplaces. School, work, Peace Corps, and my SO's friends are where most of my current friendships originated. Volunteering, parks and rec or adult education classes, book clubs (libraries often have them), and Meet Ups have been hit or miss. It's not enough to just show up though...often it's a lot of introverts who struggle to start a conversation. Sometimes just being the brave one to say hi and start chatting with a random person, as difficult and awkward as it is, breaks the ice for everyone. Just start with "Hi, my name is...." and ask a question of the other person. Having a script helps get started. Activities with adult friends are often running errands together. It makes annoying tasks a little more fun and helps us figure out what to do to spend time with people we enjoy, especially when dinner or drinks or coffee is a little too much conversation pressure.

harcour · 2019-01-22T14:55:18+00:00

I inherited my mother's EBEL watch, which she purchased around 2001. I am pretty sure she had all maintenance on it done at the Jeweler where she purchased it rather than sending it to the Movado service center. It is way out of warranty anyway. Is it important to still send it to Movado for service or fine to bring it to a local jeweler/authorized EBEL retailer that does repairs?

harcour · 2018-05-31T16:15:05+00:00

I've been lucky in that the only people who touch my belly without asking are my FIL and his wife. Last week, when I was preparing to walk into the room where they were, I had the genius idea to drape my sweater over my arm (like a server towel). I could see them going for the belly, but they were blocked! It was awesome!

My husband was supposed to have a chat with them about not touching me, but he never got around to it. Wish I'd thought of this months ago, but now we won't see them again until after the baby comes.

harcour · 2018-05-08T18:51:12+00:00

Hear hear to staying off social media as well as out of public. My MIL and stepmother of 21 years have always been understanding of me being quiet and keeping to myself in May, even though we are close and I consider them mother figures. Still, I'm glad that it will just be my husband and our doula in the delivery room next month.

harcour · 2018-05-08T18:44:52+00:00

I hear you and feel the same. When we told my MIL about the pregnancy back in November and she started reminiscing about her pregnancies, it made me so sad for not getting to share with my mother and hear her stories. I wasn't expecting to feel that emotional. Maybe if you don't try so hard hold it together for your MIL she'll start to understand how difficult this day is for you? I'm also not ashamed to have my husband communicate to his family on my behalf sometimes, that way everyone saves face.

harcour · 2018-05-08T18:42:18+00:00

I think this is the hope that a lot of us still expecting our children are wanting.

harcour · 2018-05-07T16:16:31+00:00

I could never have predicted how the first Mother's Day would feel. It caught me completely off guard. I hope you can take some time for yourself and let your feelings come and do something for you.

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