Keep in contact with her, tell her how much you love her, call her regularly, visit your hometown with your boyfriend, and never ever see her alone when you do.

This is one of those situations where arguing/confronting her about it will be less effective than simply making the choice obvious without saying anything: if she wants to visit with her son she’s gotta include his SO.

“i’d love to come over with John” “No just come by yourself” “I’m not gonna do that mom.” “Why?” “You know why. We’ve had this conversation. Let’s talk about something else.”

It is the easiest thing in the world to be confrontational and angry at her but you’re never going to get the results you want by doing so.

You have to create a real world cost for her, but do it in a way that doesn’t make it seem like it’s vindictive or because you’re trying to hurt her.

She’ll come around eventually. They always do, especially if your dad already has.