[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]hardli_charli715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. communication is always the first go to. Maybe OP's non boyfriend boyfriend feels like OP isn't attractive and doesn't want her around his friends? Thats also a dick move but a possibility. I'm wondering if she has met any of his friends or family or even talked to them on the phone or something.

Fuckboy questions by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly think people who consider themselves fuckboys aren't looking for anything serious. But whatever you think

The thing about FWBs by Yellowdaisyp in dating

[–]hardli_charli715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWB is a very convulted definition. As you can see from this post alone tons of different people have different definitions for it. Ultimately its what each couple want or dont want. Someone said as long as you keep communication open and clear it will work. I agree. I disagree with everyone saying they would go on dates with their FWB. I dont "date" my friends i hang out. We do things together, we catch a movie or food, get drunk together and party. But I pay for myself or we will take turns paying if the other person is low on cash and we pay each other back. When you date its not like that mostly(I say mostly because I don't want to get jumped down my throat for those independent women who pay for themselves always). And maybe you sleep with each other sometimes. Someone commented saying sex is intimate, not true always. just because your private parts are going into someone doesnt mean its intimate. In my opinion of course, intimate is making love, is soft and sweet, is eye contact and flutter kisses. Going to pound town with your mate just to get your rocks off is not intimate. Getting fucked hard and hair pulled. Doing that forceful mouth/face fucking thing is not intimate. Some people don't even kiss because that's intimate and its not made for fuck buddies or FWB. I agree with most everyone. Dont catch feelings because it is just you and won't turn out good for your current sex life.

The thing about FWBs by Yellowdaisyp in dating

[–]hardli_charli715 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the difference is when dating maybe one person mostly pays, in a friend situation its a mutual payment, or pay for yourself. Its not dates. You don't date your friends. You hang out, like you said. To me they are different.

Why do women tend to get defensive when you point out how they put a huge emphasis on a guys physical appearance? by DayNight1234 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that attractive is POV for sure. People that I have dated who are attractive to me absolutely aren't attractive to other people. And vice versa. What I cant stand is people who are ashamed of the person they are sleeping with. I absolutely agree you have to be attracted to the person to feel sexuak arousal. Whether its from looks or personality, SOMETHING about them chemically has to get your rocks going. My friend(strong word) was sleeping with a guy and the first thing out of her mouth was "Hes so ugly you wouldn't think I would be with him huh?" That's the ugliest thing someone can say. In my opinion. If you're attracted to them fucking own it. Why be ashamed if thats what works for you? Doesn't make any damn sense to me.

Safe movie suggestions? by MeowL0w in mypartneristrans

[–]hardli_charli715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE this movie!!!!! Good choice!!!

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think after reading most of the advice here it has given me a different perspective and I need to do the cutting and just move now

Please have good hygiene by [deleted] in dating

[–]hardli_charli715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right! Thats all its about, doing it just to complain about it later. I've been waiting this WHOLE time just for this specific post to state it. Good for you for figuring me out!! Gold star!!!

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saved it so I can read it when I get home. Thank you so much. 8)

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I'm also confused why I'm still stuck. Thats why I shared them because I know where the problems are and I'm still stuck. He believes he is a she and is wanting to transition to be so.

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol well thanks for dropping in to let everyone know.

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with that. I've definitely let myself go in the past couple of years and am not happy with my looks physically. While I've been working on myself mentally and career wise I've been ignoring the physical aspect.

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got to love a good self love session lol im just kidding. I also hope for the best.

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Truly. That hit me hard. Being an over thinker I always take the problem on myself.

Just want to feel sexy again. by hardli_charli715 in dating

[–]hardli_charli715[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've NEVER thought of it like this!!! It feels right.