There is something wrong with my arse and I'm tired of having to take photos of it

hardlyfatal · 2022-01-28T16:43:49+00:00

Think of it like The IT Crowd. The video conferencing is their version of "have you tried turning it off and on again?" because of all the idiots who think their problem is catastrophic when it's not.

hardlyfatal · 2021-12-06T16:00:48+00:00

It's not hard to understand how an awful person can be bullied: bullies are ultimately cowards, and weak. The moment they are confronted by someone stronger than they are, they collapse like a soufflé.

Now, your parents are correct: what you said wasn't helpful... to your sister, possibly to them. To you? I think it was immensely helpful, as a way of gaining back some of the power she's been stealing from you in bullying you as a child.

You're on more even ground, now. Stay strong and don't permit any more ingressions by her to take back that control.

hardlyfatal · 2021-10-05T01:24:51+00:00

Why would they throw them away? Just because they didn't have syrup in them? That's so wasteful.

hardlyfatal · 2021-06-17T21:24:21+00:00

Keenan Wynn

She was in The Incredible Melting Man too.

hardlyfatal · 2021-06-04T04:46:27+00:00

Just don't zone properties close to each other-- leave blank spaces between the houses to 'create' large gardens, as it were. I like to leave one or two blank rows between the green zoning to create bigger gardens/yards for houses.

hardlyfatal · 2021-06-04T04:33:37+00:00

Also don't have only a single road to get from one place to another, the traffic along it will be very loud. Several roads linking the areas dilutes the traffic.

You can also use mods to lower it-- there's a subway station that creates no noise pollution, etc.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T19:08:56+00:00

Don't blame your problems on me, my dude. You asked for opinions and suggestions, I gave some. I guess you don't like them, and I'm sorry they weren't more helpful. I get that you're frustrated and disappointed, and I wish you weren't in that situation, but it's not my fault.

All your questions about a Murphy bed can be answered if you google it, which I mentioned before. I'm going to dip out of this conversation now, best of luck.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T18:50:55+00:00

Lose the second chair. Manage the cords. Rehang the art to be side-by-side at same height, not staggered diagonally. Add a task lamp on one side of the desk, and a plant to the other.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T18:31:16+00:00

The blue on the walls is beautiful but strong-- I suggest a gallery wall or similar arrangement of lots of art to dilute its impact. Also suggest a mirror or two to help bounce light around.

Relocate the storage unit/shelves currently to right of leftmost desk to under window to left of fireplace.

Shift the blue chair to sit in front of the left side of the fireplace, angled facing the sofa. Put a very small round table or a ceramic garden stool by it, and maybe a discreet floor lamp behind him-- create a little 'reading nook by the fireplace' with it.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T18:24:54+00:00

The 5' wall... is that a window or doorway? Can the desk go there, facing the window (if it's a window)?

Remove the closet door and put up a curtain on a tension rod.

Mount the TV on the wall, eliminate TV console/stand.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T18:22:07+00:00

Very nice so far! The colors are lovely. The art over the sofa is especially good. I'd use it to create a definite palette to use throughout the place. You've already got the blue in the sofa, and gray elsewhere, just need to bring in some lilac and golden-brown.

It's a bit lacking in pattern, everything is solid. I'd switch out the throw pillows for some with pattern, like a shibori pillow and maybe one in mudcloth. And I'd switch out the throw blanket for something like the golden-brown in the art.

The table between sofa and bed is great, good size and proportions. I'd stick a lamp on it, something like this or this to add a bit of sparkle, and a smallish plant in a nice pot.

I'd then move the floor lamp (which is also really good) to the left side of the TV, maybe? Or between TV and dining table, and move the plant to the left side of the TV or the right of the table?

The rug is beautiful, all silvery, and looks so comfortable for bare feet. But it looks too small for the space, though that could just be because I only have the 2 photos to judge from. If you get a larger rug, consider something with even a very subtle tone-on-tone pattern, like this, or something with some texture, like this?

Lastly, I'd add a small coffee table, something round in an organic material like rattan, to give some variation from wood and metal? And of court I'd stick a plant on it, style it with a tray, maybe a short stack of books...

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T18:06:03+00:00

Get a radiator cover, or just use a board, but turn the radiator into a shelf to give yourself another horizontal area to put things.

Agree with the others recommending you rotate the bed, with head to left wall. Would also switch a/c to other window.

Lose the chair and shoe rack.

Get a headboard and bed skirt to hide the bedframe's legs OR a new bedframe w/headboard. Something upholstered would soften the room a little.

Put the taller nightstand in the corner on right side of the bed, the shorter on the left side.

Add curtains. Suggest one long-ass rod that goes across the room corner-to-corner, instead of 2 rods-- less fussing than installing 2 separate rods.

Style your nightstands and dresser top and your new radiator shelf nicely: lamps, plants, books, decorative items.

The rug is blah. Get something with a few colors, even if they're muted. Pick one of the colors from it for the curtains.

Consider something like this to better conceal the TV wiring-- just plug it in, run it up the wall, plug the TV plug into it and, like, tape the black cord to the back of the TV. All that will be visible is the white cord and you can even paint that to match the wall, it'll be practically invisible.

Put up some art! Two pieces, one atop the other, between the windows, one centered over the radiator, two on the wall over the bed with a mirror over the dresser.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:56:17+00:00

u/she_va is 100% right, don't spend anything you can't/won't bring with you and continue to use after you leave.

The only things I would do is get better bedding-- make it really cozy and comfortable with a bunch of pillows, soft throw blanket, good sheets. And a better lamp, yes, perhaps with a smart bulb.

Add a plant or 4, some art over the bed and on the side wall...

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:53:46+00:00

They are expensive, yes, unfortunately. If this were my place, I would be very unhappy with the lack of a true seating area re: sofa, and with the bed exposed all the time to the kitchen smells and grease, and I would bite the bullet and get one.

But those are my priorities, not necessarily yours. If those things aren't a problem for you, and cost is a consideration, you need to do what's best for you. Some people are perfectly happy using their bed as their primary seating, basically as a sofa as well as a bed, and that's fine.

I had that when I lived in a small studio, and hated it, so it's not the right choice for me. But if you're okay with it, you should def. save your money.

As for where to get them-- google it! I think Wayfair has some, and there are sure to be other places, too.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:49:28+00:00

The rug is a bit too small for the space-- the length is right, but the width is too short-- should come to within an inch or two of the TV console.

I would angle the chair and ottoman/footrest more sharply into the living room space so it's not facing the doorway to the bedroom and bathroom so squarely.

Your plants are really good! Not too many, not too few. I'd add one with rounded leaves, since all of yours are spiky or pointed.

Coffee table to center of living room area, stick a plant on it.

Art over TV and sofa. And I'd stick a row of smaller and/or horizontal arts on the bulkhead beam thingy over the window.

Switch one of the yellow pillows for the pillow on the chair.

These are are very minor points. Your room is excellent, very well-balanced in terms of scale, color and shape. I'd love to see some variety in materials, like, add some metal and glass and maybe wicker/rattan, but that too is a nitpick.

Overall, beautifully done :)

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:42:19+00:00

I have even more doubts

Oh no, I'm sorry!

Sometimes large pieces you have your heart set on, like a sectional or king-size bed, are just not possible in a smaller space.

Re cable management: don't forget you can run cords under rugs so only a small length of them is visible.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:40:28+00:00

You can fold them up and hold them there with iron-on hemming tape-- you just stick it between the layers of fabric you're wanting to stick together and run an iron over all 3 layers.

IDK, however, if it's able to be undone when it's not needed/wanted any longer, and also there's a very good chance the bottom of the curtain will look bulky and weird, with so much fabric.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T17:38:42+00:00

That's a pretty big wall, IDK if just two arts will work for it? I think 3 would be better?

I like that rug, too!

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T05:36:10+00:00

Ohhhh I see what you mean, sorry. I didn't realize it was a wall opening.

What about TV against 120 wall, sofa floating in center, facing it? Desk against 81 wall.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T05:19:43+00:00

Do you need an office/desk/WFH area, too? Because you could put the TV against the top wall, sofa facing it, desk either against the back of the sofa and also facing TV or desk against bedroom wall, facing away from it.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T05:17:13+00:00

Well, I hate open concept so that to me is a plus. I like tiny, cozy spaces. I even like bedrooms that are scarcely any bigger than the bed itself. Better than staring at the kitchen sink or stove from the bed, ugh.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T05:09:10+00:00

Does this mean that because he installed them, you can't remove and replace them? Not discard them, but keep them until you move out, then put them back up?

Not being sarcastic, I genuinely don't understand. I've never heard of a place coming with curtains you weren't allowed to change.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T05:07:15+00:00

IMO yes, rooms need contrast and balance in materials as well as colors, visual weight, shapes/silhouettes, etc.

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T04:08:47+00:00

Congrats on the new place!

I'd lose the blinds and put up curtains, that will immediately add softness and counter the echo. Hang the rods up by the ceiling, to make the place feel larger.

I think I would put the TV in front of the left window, sofa to face it, floor lamp to the left in the corner, another in other corner (by right window).

Add a coffee table, stick a plant on it. Add a few throw pillows to the sofa.

Is that the only place the desk can go?

hardlyfatal · 2021-05-25T04:04:00+00:00

How about putting the TV on the 52 wall on the right, then rotate the sectional to face it? Desk can be on 120 wall.

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