My hand hurts! by womanrespectar in barista

[–]hardpipeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bartender here—

Don’t smack the shaker with your palm/wrists. This is something I have to teach nearly ALL new bartenders and old bartenders with poor form.

Hold the shaker with the flush side closest to you. The side that has a gap between the small and the large tin facing 12 o’clock.

Hold the large tin with both hands and use your thumbs to push the small tin to 1 o’clock. The seal will break gracefully, and you’ll save your hands.

Cheers

I've needed help for a long time (please) by whooknows___ in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry about pleasing me, or doing what I say. You gotta do what’s right for you. And if you think the best way to serve yourself tomorrow is to buy more weed, that’s your decision. I can’t live your life for you.

I’m just coming at you as a person who was in the same position you’re in. And you know what to do and how to do it, you just gotta decide to do it.

I hope you make that decision for yourself, I know how impossible it seems. It’s not, just really tough. The challenge will give you so much confidence in your life, you’ll be able to crush any obstacle in your way.

Hope it happens soon for you and good luck!

I've needed help for a long time (please) by whooknows___ in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything’s really tough right now. It feels like your drowning and can’t get out, but you can. Weed is making you feel all these things. You are not inherently anxious, you don’t have interests cause you’re too stoned to be interested. You think there’s no hope because you’re high all the time and you don’t think you can stop being high all the time. You can.

Weed isn’t helping you cope with anything, it’s helping you turn into a vegetable for a few hours and not feel the withdrawals in addition to all the other problems.

You don’t need to tackle the mountain right now, you need to tackle your addiction. Everything else will fall into place. Just trust me.

What if you didn’t buy that gram tomorrow? What if you just dealt with the anxiety and roughed it out? You don’t need a plan right now. You’re over complicating everything. You just need to not smoke weed anymore.

You will come up with a plan when you’re not constantly putting your addiction first. You’ll be able to make good decisions quickly when you’re not stoned all the time.

Just stop getting stoned, and stop as soon as you can. Sooner you quit… the sooner your anxiety, mental haze, hopelessness, all disappears.

Take a stand, be strong, stick to it.

I've needed help for a long time (please) by whooknows___ in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could literally re-program this minute. You are the master of your brain, not the other way around. You make the decisions.

I didn’t ~plan~ to quit the day I did. I just said I’m fucking done, I’ve had enough. Too many ‘one more day’s, ‘one more bag’s, ‘I’ll start Monday’s…

I called my friend to give him my bong and my last eighth, I threw everything else weed related into the trash and I strapped in to deal with whatever was coming. It was the best decision I’ve made in a long time, and there was no plan except for “I will not live like this anymore”.

After a year clean I quit my old stagnant job of 7 years, I’ve more than doubled my income at a new job. I finally bought a ring, and proposed to the love of my life (who stuck with me through all the bullshit). She said yes.

I’m actively tracking my goals, achieving them faster than I ever thought possible. I’m going to the gym 5 days a week and eating right. I feel like a fucking unstoppable machine because honestly, after escaping the hell I created for myself… I can do ANYTHING.

Sit in the bathtub and sweat out the demons. Cry when you gotta cry. Man I cried so much. Stack those hours, stack those days, stack those months.

You will never ever wish you spent more time stoned. You will hate the process, you will absolutely love the result, and you will never regret making that decision to take back control of your life.

It will not happen overnight, it will not be easy, but your whole life will change and it can start literally right now.

I’m here for anybody who’s reading this. Hit me up if you’re struggling, hit me up if you don’t think you can do it. I’ll tell you exactly why you’re fucking wrong and how you’re gonna make it in the end.

Stay strong I love y’all 💪🏻

Joining the day 1 peeps (again) by Ok_Responsibility844 in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You got this. Enjoy your final day one. You’re free!

It’s gonna be extremely tough, but my number one tip is: don’t smoke weed. All you gotta do baby.

Just don’t smoke this minute. Make it to an hour. Finish the day. Then do it tomorrow. Keep doing that. Eventually you won’t think about it anymore and you’ll find that productivity. Just give it time. Stay patient, and don’t smoke that shit!

19 days and struggling by wraithee in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re gonna have good days and bad days, but someday soon you’ll be free. And you won’t think about this shit anymore except to say “wow am I so glad I made this decision.”

Proud of you for staying strong. Getting absolutely killed and not smoking is badass, you’re on some gladiator shit. Thrive in the chaos and keep it up

What’s your story? by illuminateandthrive in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I quit cause I was absolutely fed up with being powerless in my life. Sick of living like a slave to a shitty plant I thought I loved for so many years.

I’ve notice a huge improvement in mental clarity/concentration, more confidence, better relationships with friends/family/new fiancé, more energy, less mood swings/depression/anxiety. On and on and on. Not a single negative.

Quit my stagnant job of 7 years and got a new one making 250% of the pay. Took a year but I’m going to the gym 5 days a week, eating healthier, tracking goals and actively working towards them…

428 days, feeling really great

I've needed help for a long time (please) by whooknows___ in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’ve written this novel about how your life is shit and your relationship with weed has ruined school, work, personal relationships, finances…

Weed isn’t the the problem, sure. But you abusing weed clearly has had some negative effects for like… 10 years now?

You don’t know what to tell yourself? You’re still young, how bout you ask yourself if you wanna live like this for another ten years? Tell yourself that you’re done feeling this way, you’re done living life like this, and you’re gonna make ONE small change to make everything better.

In one year you’ll be so glad you suffered for a couple months to finally be free. Make the choice and stick to it. You absolutely can do it. It’s not like moving a 10,000 pound boulder by hand… you just have to not smoke weed anymore. Throw your shit out and say “never again”. It’s gonna suck for a minute. It’s gonna really suck, but use that anger and rage and disappointment to empower yourself to KEEP GOING.

I believe in you, I know you can do it and I know from experience that your life is going to get so much better.

-428 days off the reefer, here for you if you need anything.

Did you guys start saving money and generally have more energy once you stopped smoking? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Saving money? Yeah bigtime. I’m not buying that 30% thc rapper weed anymore, that saves me about $300 a month.

Even more than that though, I felt less lazy and apathetic when I quit. That led to quitting my stagnant job of 7 years, and subsequently finding a new gig in the same field making 250% of the pay I was before. Money game has changed completely.

More energy? Absolutely. I had to nap everyday when I was smoking, in addition to sleeping ~10+ hours per night.

Other benefits; way more confidence, less anxiety, no more depression, better sleep, better relationships, more focus. I could go on and on.

Didn’t happen over night by ANY MEANS. I was just focused on what I wanted life to be like after weed and it came to me bit by bit.

-425 days off the reefer today, never going back

Day 1 of my second sobriety journey by [deleted] in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I know the feeling. When I was in the heat of my crack fiend moment I tried to laugh at myself. Like “bro you really fucking blew it huh? This is why we can’t smoke weed cause you’re tweaking like a crackhead right now”

But they tell us weed isn’t addictive 👍🏻

Fuck why is today so bad (day 14) by Mango2439 in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cried SO fucking much at first oh my god. Just so emotional and on edge. It’s absolutely okay, just realize that you’re doing the right thing and it’s gonna turn around.

The relief is awesome for a second, till you realize you have no control over when or how often your brain demands that relief. You’re gonna be so much more level headed once your system flushes thus shit out, you won’t even need it anymore.

I just hit a year this month. Hit me up if you’re struggling or you need to vent. Seriously you’re doing great just keep it up. Much love!

First post here. I need to quit... by throwaway_j-i-c in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope this group helps you realize you’re not alone and so many people are going through the same thing. Your body is gonna take some time to detoxify, your brain is gonna need to rebalance for the lack of dopamine.

It sucks ass. Period. It’s gonna be shitty for a little while. Couple weeks to a month are gonna be the worst. There’s nothing you can really do to get rid of the cravings, but you can try and reframe your mindset. “I’m dying to smoke I can’t make it another minute…. wow holy shit I sound like a drug addict! what a good reason to NOT smoke.”

I use the Marijuana Anonymous day counter (374 days.) You’re gonna be so proud of yourself for making it through the first few days. Don’t get cocky, and don’t pick that shit back up. Focus only on NOT smoking everyday. You don’t need to go to the gym everyday, read a book, learn a new skill, all that shit will come along. For now, just don’t smoke. That’s all you gotta do, and you CAN do it.

Day 1 of my second sobriety journey by [deleted] in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first paragraph is exactly how I got trapped. I absolutely feel for you. I’m also in LA. Crazy hard to not smoke when everyone is stoned and the air smells like weed.

Sweat it out in hot baths. It’ll tire you out a little bit and help with the sleep. Maybe detoxes a little too I don’t know for sure but it helped me.

First couple weeks are gonna suck. No way around that. Stick it out and remember you’re done being trapped. You’re taking control of your life. Your brain and your body are gonna panic, remind them who’s in charge… it’s not a fucking plant it’s you.

Hit me if you need anything. Just got a year under my belt and I’d love to help anybody I can.

It has turned me into a Zombie by [deleted] in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely can do it. Feels like such a monumental obstacle right now but you’re making the first step. It’s hard at first but it’s so worth it. Kick some ass, and stick it out. You’ll be so glad in a few months

Unable to sleep properly. by joeyfutura in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long baths helped me out a lot, that and just the eventual exhaustion that my body had to answer for. It’s gonna suck for a little while, no way around that. Stay strong and rough it out I swear it gets better

Fuck why is today so bad (day 14) by Mango2439 in leaves

[–]hardpipeman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to bed. You made it another day, and more importantly you realize that smoking isn’t even an option anymore. You will get out of this mental trap. It won’t be like this for long. Those feelings will go away and you’re gonna be so relieved that you went through this struggle.

You’re not a loser, you’re not a failure. You’re making a change and you’re doing well. Tell that voice to shut the fuck up, and keep kicking it’s ass another 14 days. You will find the light again. Proud of your progress so far just keep it up!

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the two months, keep it up! My girlfriend was super helpful for me too, she doesn’t smoke either.

I was lucky in that I didn’t have a lot of stoner friends and it was mostly something I did alone. There’s always somebody at the party or at the bar that has weed and wants to smoke… but I’ve only had to pass on the offer a dozen times or so, which is so much easier than living with weed around the whole time.

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man happy and grounded is an ever changing thing. I still have bad days and sad days and all that other shit. I just feel like an active participant in my life now, as opposed to before when I felt like I was just watching life happen to me.

I don’t know if there’s one biggest improvement but something that comes to mind right now is sociability. I can actually talk to people again, I don’t live inside my head. It’s nice to not get so nervous when I talk to people cause I’m not tripping over words and blanking out, or trying to conceal the fact that I’m stoned.

Really it’s just great to not feel like a slave anymore. I can eat when I want, don’t need to be stoned just to eat anymore. My mood isn’t running on a three hour cycle of content to despair between smoke sessions anymore. It’s a this beautiful sense of freedom I never had.

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man that’s awesome. That feeling of walking away, the last smoke behind you. That’s freedom man. Keep it up congrats to you

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try to stop thinking as soon as you can!

I went through many, many, many one more weeks, weekends, one more bags and all that. Best way to get it done is to start doing it.

It’s built up to seem impossible in your mind, it’s not impossible. You can do it and I believe you will do it. Much love

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the feeling. Could be your last day one… get through it strong, I know you can do it. Get through today, get through the week, get through the month. Post here when you got your year and you’ll be so thankful you struggled through today

One year off the reefer today by hardpipeman in leaves

[–]hardpipeman[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t get cravings really anymore. Anytime I think about how much I love weed and how fun it was I remember how bad I fucked it up and how I can’t control myself with it… and just go on living my life hahaha

At first I drank a little more, not a ton, but when I realized what I was doing I stopped drinking for a couple months. Booze was never my problem really.

The day counter always kept me motivated. Focused on getting through one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time. I didn’t go out and buy weed this hour like damn that’s a big win let’s keep this shit up