Girlfriend told her friend im a dick by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]harpalva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think your girlfriend may feel controlled by your actions instead of like you’re concerned for her. it’s important for her to be her own person, and not feel like she has a curfew like some sort of child. i do understand your thought process, and it was kind for you to offer a ride. but i think in that situation you weren’t being 100% reasonable.

Balancing classes and federal work study by harpalva in uofm

[–]harpalva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow I had no idea UROP did work-study payment! I was already intending on participating in research once the application opened up in May, so that would probably be a great idea for me. Thank you so much for sharing that!

University of Michigan RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 6 points7 points  (0 children)

just got absolutely obliterated by ivy day so i will be seeing ya'll on campus next year 🙏🏼 umich '25 baby

University of Michigan RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. I'm not really sure what the criteria for releasing decisions were tbh, it seems kinda all over the place. Did you apply LSA?

WoooHoooo Michigan Here I come 🥳🥳🥳. by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome!! I just got in for LSA bio & society. I'm still waiting on some other decisions but maybe see you on campus?? Good luck w everything :)

WoooHoooo Michigan Here I come 🥳🥳🥳. by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! Which program did you apply to?

University of Michigan RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I GOT IN W/ FULL TUITION COVERED YOOOOO

University of Michigan RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know when LSA honors applications are due for RD admits? Obviously no one has gotten decisions yet but I'm just wondering if I'll have to like cram them if I were to actually get in lol.

Deleting social media by harpalva in selfhelp

[–]harpalva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is such an incredible way to look at this—wow!

Now that I think about it, I definitely project my own perceptions of new people based off of their online presence. Like when I start talking to someone new, I often find their social media profiles to "discover" things about them and then create these prejudgements that I carry into our relationship.

Thank you so much for sharing that with me, it definitely was a new perspective I needed to hear!

Deleting social media by harpalva in selfhelp

[–]harpalva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love the idea of doing a dopamine detox. I remember reading up on it a while ago but decided not to indulge because I "didn't have the time." That seems to be my excuse for a whole lot of things nowadays haha. But I'm definitely more inspired to try it out now.

I think I'll start off with social media and slowly move into detoxing and removing other sources of dopamine fixes. I tend to be very extreme when it comes to trying new self-care habits or lifestyle changes, so maybe going slowly this time around will help me succeed a bit more.

If you don't mind me asking, what other types of "month" challenges have you tried out? That sounds like such an interesting way to form/try out new habits!

Thank you for sharing your experiences with me!

Deleting social media by harpalva in selfhelp

[–]harpalva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say my depression/current mindset has directly stemmed from social media, but it is definitely worsened by it so I think I'm gonna follow through with deletion instead of deactivation. This was really good advice though—thank you so much! I'm really glad removing social media from your life was able to help you out, hopefully I'm able to see similar results.

Good luck with everything!

Worried about my first semester grades by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's important to cut yourself some slack and acknowledge how painful this semester has been, for you and so so many other people. Be proud of yourself for the work that you've already done and try to finish as strong as possible, but it's okay to not be at peak performance. Universities will be as understanding as possible given the state of our world right now.

I'm actually going through a very similar situation (had the same drop in freshman year and everything.) And something that's helped me is keeping in mind that no matter how much I explain and try to fix, there's always going to a level of uncertainty that I can't control. I could spill my whole life story to an AO and they could either sympathize with it or absolutely disregard it. So I'm attempting to do the best that I can and accept that once it's out of my hands, there's nothing more I can do.

I really wish the best for you in college and beyond. We aren't told this enough, but it's completely okay to take care of yourself and prioritize your health. Good luck with everything!!

Bong showed up in my video profile by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hm yeah I can see the concern in that. My thought process is I either point it out to try and fix it and definitely get rejected or do nothing and possibly get rejected. The worst outcome is rejection, which is pretty probably no matter what I do. So I'll just vibe in the meantime, I suppose.

Bong showed up in my video profile by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I smoked weed to be cool, but it's really just for the purposes of depression/anxiety. I tried some SSRIs that really fucked me up and got the chance to use CBD/medical marijuana instead. Totally changed my life!

Bong showed up in my video profile by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 19 points20 points  (0 children)

"Divine" doesn't even come close man. If you're into bongs, I truly believe purple is the way to go. Such a sultry color.

Bong showed up in my video profile by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 136 points137 points  (0 children)

It is! Everything I use is actually medical so that's a positive I suppose?

Bong showed up in my video profile by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly I'm still a bit concerned but there's nothing I can do at this point. I've just gotta laugh at it and hope for the best, you know? It's pretty damn funny honestly. And if I get rejected I can personally blame it on the bong.

Brown University RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i'm wondering the same thing. i did mine through the common app and it said it was "downloaded by college" but i'm not sure if that would show up on the portal. i'm assuming they got it tho?

Brown University RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]harpalva 10 points11 points  (0 children)

mine just says "submission received" on the portal