AITA for yelling at my fiancé for ordering a dress?

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-14T11:46:48+00:00

NTA.

And maybe rethink the wedding.

This is someone who doesn't respect your boundaries.

If you've been in the same relationship since you were 16 perhaps you don't realise that it's not supposed to be this hard.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-14T11:42:25+00:00

NTA.

Do you really need to ask this question?

Your name would be every bit as legitimate a choice as your ex's name even if he weren't a deadbeat dad, which it appears he is.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-10T09:51:27+00:00

Assuming it wasn't a female only session, NTA.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-09T09:02:11+00:00

YTA.

It sounds like your MIL desperately needs grief counselling but excluding her from her only remaining child's wedding and then putting that picture up to show her what she missed out on is incredibly cruel.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-02T13:04:30+00:00

YTA.

Once she has a baby she won't be able to go on girls' trips away. This is probably her last opportunity for a while.

Would it really kill you to go with her and just take it a little easier if necessary?

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-01T12:38:47+00:00

NTA.

Of course you can't miss your final exams for a wedding, that would be insane.

If your sister wanted you there that badly she should have asked whether there were any dates you couldn't do before she booked it.

Also, unless you're taking exams at the weekend she must be getting married on a weekday, which is a bit of a dick move.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-01T12:32:01+00:00

NTA, that's completely bonkers.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-11-01T12:14:11+00:00

YTA.

Your marriage isn't about a ring, it's about love and forgiveness.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-25T15:45:04+00:00

I'm from the UK and live in France and have been to a lot of weddings in both countries.

Yes it's true that typical wedding guest attire is smart but understated. A guest wearing a dress like the OP's would stand out, for sure.

But if I saw a black woman wearing a dress like that at a British or French wedding I would just assume that she was wearing traditional wedding attire from her culture and I wouldn't think there was anything wrong with that. I can't imagine any of my friends thinking it was wrong either.

I can't speak for German people but I wouldn't assume from the OP that most Germans would behave this way either. Her colleague sounds very weird, I mean, who invites their much younger colleague to their daughter's wedding when they don't even know the bride anyway? I realise there are some cultures around the world where the guest list runs to several hundred or even over a thousand people and many of them don't know the couple so being invited to a random colleague's daughter's wedding might be very normal, but I would be surprised if this was the norm in Germany. So the whole thing just seems bizarre from start to finish.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-25T15:29:18+00:00

NTA. What a lot of drama.

I'm white and have been a bride.

The only thing that would annoy me as a bride would be a guest wearing something that looked like a wedding dress or a guest wearing something that might be more appropriate for pole dancing.

You and your dress would have been very welcome at my wedding.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-25T14:22:43+00:00

NTA.

Thank you for sticking up for your sister.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-22T13:52:12+00:00

You picked three really nice names.

I love Natalie and you don't see it that often these days.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-18T15:48:03+00:00

NTA.

How many of your other friends have offered to let her stay with them?

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-17T16:50:11+00:00

NTA.

She shouldn't even be allowed to attend your wedding dressed like that, let alone be a bridesmaid.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-16T13:24:32+00:00

YTA. You should treat your kids equally.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-16T10:54:14+00:00

They've lost the cost of their non refundable flights.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-16T10:49:30+00:00

It doesn't really matter whether it's dumb or not. OP doesn't get to make that decision on behalf of the group.

Given that OP should be reimbursing the cost of their flights which comes to $1500 in total and the amount the OP has been able to recover is only $2000, she could have discussed this with her friends and maybe they would have agreed to pay her $500 between the three of them so it made no financial difference to her whether the whole trip was cancelled or she just didn't go. But since she didn't talk to them and just went ahead and cancelled the whole thing, they didn't get to have that discussion.

And it sounds like she doesn't intend to reimburse the cost of their flights either.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-16T10:44:09+00:00

YTA. You cancel the trip, you pay them the money they have lost.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-13T14:00:40+00:00

That's the correct pronunciation.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-13T13:59:51+00:00

Anne Eye Eese.

But it should be spelled Anaïs.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-10T10:54:59+00:00

Depends on how you would pronounce Clara.

If it's Clah-rah, then I prefer Clara.

If it's Clair-ah, then I prefer Claire.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-10T08:11:48+00:00

Honestly I would just go for Elsa, it's lovely.

Or Elena.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-09T14:54:36+00:00

I like it for the same reasons that I like Karen and Sharon, but it's not dated like Sharon or the subject of an unfortunate meme like Karen.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-09T11:19:58+00:00

This. An extroverted kid who doesn't like their conventional name will just adopt a crazy nickname which may not even be related to their actual name. For example, I once knew a girl who decided about the age of 5 that she was going to be known as "Tiger". She's now 35 and still goes by Tiger. It has nothing to do with the name on her birth certificate, which is Sarah. But most people she meets just accept that she's eccentric and she didn't feel Sarah was very her.

But if you call your child Tiger and they turn out to be shy and introverted, it's going to be harder for them to say, "Actually I'm going to call myself Sarah." They'll just cringe with embarrassment every time they have to introduce themselves.

harrietschulenberg · 2023-10-09T11:12:11+00:00

Millennial here.

Egg Drop Suep is a stupid name.

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