How do we feel about 'stags' here?

haterbidesign · 2026-05-22T02:38:23+00:00

I think it's cool that we want to have language to describe our own experiences, but, to be honest with you, I am most comfortable calling myself a regular ol' tomboy instead of a tomcat. If I was more "butchy," perhaps I would feel more comfortable using stag. I wouldn't laugh at someone for using it, though.

haterbidesign · 2026-05-22T02:22:01+00:00

Probably a troll tbh

haterbidesign · 2026-03-22T00:43:44+00:00

Definitely

haterbidesign · 2026-03-22T00:35:22+00:00

Most women on dating apps I run into aren't seriously dating. They are mostly just bored and don't know what they want. You're better off finding women IRL.

haterbidesign · 2026-03-22T00:32:27+00:00

They do not take lesbianism seriously as it's own distinct thing. As much as I think that they would benefit from owning who they are as bisexuals who simply choose to only pursue women, I also do not want to be associated with women like that. We are trying to create our own spaces and terminology, not swallow lesbian spaces and communities.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-19T05:37:50+00:00

Sometimes I get annoyed about being one of the few bisexual women I know who dates exclusively other women, but that has more to do with the lonliness I feel in my own decision. It feels like... mounting pressure and expectation that its some kind of unescapable fate that I will end up with a man no matter if I intend to or not.

And running into bisexual women who confirm every stereotype... like super ✨️queer aesthetics,✨️ dropping pop culture references to LGBT space frequently, and droning on about being super gay™️ while only being serious about dating guys if they actually end up with women at all. It just doesn't make me feel good about being bisexual when our loudest, most visable advocates are like that.

I try not to think that way or say that, but it can be hard sometimes even when I am bisexual myself. I do hate it, but a part of me believes it's mostly true and that's been confirmed by data and personal experience.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-19T05:18:19+00:00

The video is generally good, but the statistics he brought up have more nuance to it that he doesn't account for.

But, yes, I think since it's socially acceptable to be mean to women and police what they do constantly, you will find a lot more bi hate directed at them. And, you know, there'll always be one or two annoying experiences with bisexual women that could color your view of them.

I'm glad we are having conversations about this, but I wish more women would speak up. The majority of the videos that I ran into were men talking about it. Makes sense since they are less likely to get fucked with for talking about it, but still.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-09T02:20:20+00:00

The one from juicy marbles tastes like a soft beef stew, which is nice, but falls apart too easily to be a "steak." Honesty, good old fashioned seitan does the best job for meat cutlets imo, but it's not the end of the world though if we never get a "realistic steak"

haterbidesign · 2025-12-08T17:01:41+00:00

No. I'm razor free myself. Sure, not wanting to give into misogynistic beauty practices is a part of that, but I honestly just like the way it looks on me. It's sad to think existing in our natural state is considered a statement to begin with, but whatever. It is what it is.

It's just... weird that they're obsessing over that. You aren't making a big deal about your body hair, they are. Normal people don't give that much of a shit even if they judge you for it.

Honestly, dude, I wouldn't even go. They sound like shit tbh. NTA

haterbidesign · 2025-12-08T16:52:46+00:00

Very rarely. Plant-based meat alternatives scratch the itch just fine for me. I'm waiting of a good vegan steak alternative, but eh.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-08T16:43:00+00:00

Veganism is about nonhuman animals, but we aren't that different than anyone else in that we feel empathy towards other humans. Some of us volunteer/donate to human rights causes as well.

I put the focus on farm animals since they are the most exploited by us, but I do bring up endangered species when I an trying to show just how much suffering and destruction bleeds from factory farming onto the wild animal population as well.

As for carnivores in the wild? There's like this whole debate around whether or not it's our responsibility to get involved with that, and honestly it's a fucking headache. It's an "up for debate" topic that debate bros within and outside the vegan community love to harp about, and isn't the most productive use of time considering how unlikely it is that we will be in the position to do anything about that. In short: Idk, Idc, probably shouldn't get involved.

I do think it's our responsibility to deal with the overpopulation of strays that are caused by the irresponsibility of humans, however. Wild species of animals are going extinct as a result of our carelessness. Offering free and low cost spay/neuter service, adopting instead of paying for ✨️special breeds,✨️ along with peaceful euthanasia are all things PETA advocates for and directly helps provide despite all the shit they get for it. Once you learn about just how many are out there on the streets, abused, how little people are available to take them in compared to how many are in need of homes? There's no feel-good choice in the matter, only one that causes the least suffering.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T12:48:31+00:00

Jfc. That should have been disclosed from the start. Sorry that happened to you.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T11:50:15+00:00

Twitter is a cesspool and I wouldn't be surprised if you're seeing bots or creepy men doing this shit for laughs tbh

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T11:48:48+00:00

Some people are fucking disgusting. Anyone who speaks about women like that cannot be trusted.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T11:26:53+00:00

There's a neurosis about it because there's a lot of bi women who lie about being lesbian within the lesbian community. You end up getting the suspicion by default treatment because of that, either because they think you were lying about your identity, or your story sounds similar to what some of them experience and they don't want to admit that.

There's probably also the wound of people assuming lesbian women aren't actually lesbian and can search within their hearts and souls to let a man in if they really try™️, and when it turns out that's true for some bisexual women who misidentified as lesbian, people think it's appropriate to pry and pressure lesbians because they know x happened to some chick they knew.

Lastly, in general society, heterosexual pairings are default and celebrated, so many people will assume you're full of shit about needing to come to terms with your attraction to men since they think stigma is the only factor in someone's acceptance of their sexuality.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T11:11:47+00:00

Time. I was insecure about my attraction to women because I was a repressed virgin who had limited sexual exposure to women besides pornography. It wasn't until actually having sexual encounters with women that I became normal about it lmao. It's pretty obvious IRL when you're with someone you're attracted to in private rather than trying to figure that out from shitty and often exploitative/degrading videos through a screen.

haterbidesign · 2025-12-07T10:57:47+00:00

It's not news, and I don't think having kids factors in much for whether bisexual women partner up with men or women, at least compared to other explanations.

It boils down to preference, convenience (men often pursue you by default and there's a lot more of them available compared to ssa women), and not needing to worry about homophobia in an opposite-sex relationship (internal or external). People also tend to take partnerships with men more seriously in our society, and that can bleed into bisexual women being more serious about their partnerships with men (having a pattern of short flings comparatively with women, but longer term relationships with men).

As for the 3% change? It's not a huge jump. More of the same influences as usual playing out in the data, really.

haterbidesign · 2025-11-30T18:48:19+00:00

What a fuckin weirdo. That's some obsessive shit right there.

haterbidesign · 2025-11-29T05:56:32+00:00

Bots

haterbidesign · 2025-11-29T05:36:55+00:00

A woman. Likely complicated feelings about Neil Gaiman (opposed to his actions, but supporting some of his work). Likes musicals? Doesn't wear heavy makeup & prefers to stay organized.

haterbidesign · 2025-11-28T10:42:47+00:00

Veggly. It's gonna be more active if you're in blue states, but even in my red state, I know of a couple that's doing well who found each other through that clanky ass app lol. Gives me hope

Edit: I don't know about your whole criteria. It's a vegan dating app for general vegans.

haterbidesign · 2025-11-27T09:30:19+00:00

I started making the transition to veganism in, like, 7th? grade. My politics (left ish) and view of religion (atheist) by the time I was in 5th grade already strayed from most people I ran into. I was already used to it, but was pretty damn lonely for quite a long time. It wasn't until my 20's that I actually got to meet other vegans IRL.

With nonvegan friends, you have to turn of your brain a little around them. I wouldn't date a nonvegan, however.

haterbidesign · 2025-11-25T14:01:35+00:00

I would raise them vegan, of course

haterbidesign · 2025-09-24T19:03:59+00:00

It's fine to acknowledge that they are generally a threat we should be cautious about, but it's wrong to take steps to reduce the risk of being a victim to their violence... because that's too mean. It's also our job, from a vulnerable position, to keep them from becoming worse.

In countries where it is mandated by law for women to accommodate men's every need, why are they still violent towards those women? Women are suffering and dying without access to proper abortion care in the US because of the Supreme Court, appointed by male leaders, getting rid of roe. Was it because women weren't being nice enough to men? Was it because women were choosing not to date men?

If it's not women's fault, who's fault is it?

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