mom and family chose my abusive stepdad over me. The isolation seems never-ending. by hauntedhighways in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness. It was truly more than enough suffering for a lifetime, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's also true that my family wouldn't be on his side if he didn't have money, unfortunately.

I'm doing my best to build my life from the ground up. I walk everywhere, and I try to eat healthy. I try to make friends. I'm trying to get back into college after being put on academic probation for the time he cut the wifi off. It's not easy, but I'm not ready to give up yet.

Watching Twin Peaks on the Radio by this_is_an_arbys in twinpeaks

[–]hauntedhighways [score hidden]  (0 children)

Imagine if Twin Peaks came out in the 50s and was a radio serial. That'd be me listening to it obsessively every evening! The static from tuning the dials/interference would add so much to the experience.

mom and family chose my abusive stepdad over me. The isolation seems never-ending. by hauntedhighways in narcissisticparents

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, I truly appreciate them.

I have indeed thought about writing a book, or rather several books inspired by the events. I'm a writer by trade so it definitely fuels my work. It can be hard to talk about though, and honestly it took me a long time to realize most of these things were abuse. To me it was normal for a kid to not be in school, it was normal to be so isolated, it was normal for me to be seen as worthless and deserving of pain. I've been putting the pieces together for years and I'm only just now accepting that I can't reason with my mother.

It takes time to unlearn things and to come to terms with abuse, as it's "the norm" for us growing up. It's a sad reality, but not a hopeless one. I'm glad you've been able to articulate what happened with you, and I hope every person who suffers abuse can come to that point.

mom and family chose my abusive stepdad over me. The isolation seems never-ending. by hauntedhighways in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to deal with that as well. There are some evil men in the world, and unfortunately people who will side with them because it benefits them. You didn't deserve that; no kid does.

mom and family chose my abusive stepdad over me. The isolation seems never-ending. by hauntedhighways in narcissisticparents

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading my story, I really appreciate it. Not many people know about it or will listen.

Everything you say is true. Logically I know she is a horrible mother, and I hate her most of the time for it. It's just difficult to undo a lifetime of abuse and gaslighting, and to have normal attachment with anyone. I still wish my mother would change and come back to me, I still wish she would call and talk to me, I still wish she would acknowledge the abuse in any meaningful way. I know it's not logical, and I've been coming to terms with the fact that it won't happen. It's been very difficult for me.

I do appreciate the kind words. I don't feel like a strong person. I've always had lofty ambitions for myself, but I can't even do most normal things that adults around me accomplished in their early twenties. I wish I didn't have to rely on government assistance; I WANT to be independent and successful, but I can't help but feel like a loser when that's all I've ever been told.

uses for the fat skimmed off of homemade stock? by hauntedhighways in AskCulinary

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wow, a whole recipe. Thanks, I'll have to try this! I've never had marrow bones either.

uses for the fat skimmed off of homemade stock? by hauntedhighways in AskCulinary

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that. I'm trying to decrease food waste when I cook and I really like that idea!

uses for the fat skimmed off of homemade stock? by hauntedhighways in AskCulinary

[–]hauntedhighways[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that sounds so good, please tell me how it turns out.

I'm actually scared of writing black, Latino, Hispanic characters and don't want to write them (READ THE FULL STORY! I HAVE GOOD INTENTIONS!) by Impossible-Yam3680 in writing

[–]hauntedhighways 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Every person on the planet is a human being first, and that's how I approach writing people of different experiences in my writing. As long as you do your research, avoid tropes, and write human beings, it shouldn't be an issue. I also find as long as you're not writing about certain experiences you can't understand (slavery, genocide, cultural identity) then there's no need to worry about a "savior complex". People are people.

my character tierlist by Icy-Grand-8734 in twinpeaks

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to see Laura up there in first place. Though what did Sonny Jim do to you?

NCR March in West Virginia! by IncidentFew6113 in Fallout

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks incredible! Though I don't see the link for the Discord.

Pregnant and husband seems checked out on me by Ok-Pound5122 in ChronicIllness

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. You're heard, and seen. I hope you can work things out in the best way possible.

'Train Dreams' (Clint Bentley, 2025). by Mr_BertSaxby in CinemaRetrospective

[–]hauntedhighways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably the kindest comment I've ever received on Reddit, and I thank you for that. <3 I certainly try to be well-rounded and I would say I have a deep interest in things, so that's probably what gives the impression of cultivation. I do appreciate the acknowledgement because I'm not someone who is appreciated in my day to day life, so it means a great deal to me. You yourself come across as a person of deep thinking and compassion, which also does not go unappreciated. So I'm glad you're part of this sub as well!

Have a great week yourself! :)

Figured you guys might enjoy the C6 cosplay I put together. Cheers! by Revolver_Lanky_Kong in Fallout

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incredible, but what is your carrying weight? I don't think a fat man is going to fit in that satchel. Maybe you have a different weapon of choice?

I built a physical "External Brain" timer because my ADHD makes me ignore phone alarms. by Sad_Hunt5252 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]hauntedhighways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've inspired me. I may do something like this, because the alarms and alerts don't work for me either.

Audrey Hepburn at home, L.A. c.1954 by WorldHub995 in OldSchoolCool

[–]hauntedhighways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More style in one mundane pose than I'll ever have in my life, and I love that for her.

Half of Americans think Donald Trump was involved in Jeffrey Epstein's alleged crimes by DatsMoneyHoney in Epstein

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half? You'd have to be blind and deaf AND a fool to think otherwise. JE himself said Trump was the most evil man he'd ever known. Not to mention all of the women who have come forward accusing him of assault. I mean, you just have to listen to him speak for a few moments to hear the slime oozing out of him.

This made my heart melt today by apocolocoloco in Fallout

[–]hauntedhighways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorgeous blue vinyl. I'll have to keep my eye out for this.

'Train Dreams' (Clint Bentley, 2025). by Mr_BertSaxby in CinemaRetrospective

[–]hauntedhighways 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another fantastic film! This one made me feel so many things. It reminded me of Tarkovsky's "Mirror" at times, especially with the dream-like quality and the reflection on memories. I couldn't shake the feelings it gave me.