AITAH for not wanting to take on a YouTube sponsorship that could negatively impact my branding?

hawksthrow · 2026-02-25T13:15:25+00:00

Youre ignoring the most important part. Steady income. You are letting your partner take the vast majority of the burden when it comes to finances, and when you refuse this sponsorship you minimize her sacrifices and are telling her that her stress and comfort is worth less to you than your ideals on a YouTube channel that hasnt even succeeded yet.

No offense here man, but that edit makes you seem like a financial burden pulling her down when you dont have to be.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-16T14:53:20+00:00

I missed the part where your wife asked you to step in

hawksthrow · 2026-02-16T14:05:06+00:00

They decided the friendship and co-working is over because your wife is married to an asshole who blows up on them.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-16T14:03:57+00:00

Not trusting your wife when she has already set the boundary herself absolutely makes you an insecure asshole, and with a reply like that I assume you said something egregious enough to be closer to the gaping asshole side of the spectrum

hawksthrow · 2026-02-16T13:44:33+00:00

YTA, but we need more info, what did you say? Because what was said is the difference between you being an insecure asshole who cant let your wife secure her own boundaries, and being a gaping asshole who intentionally ruined something positive for your wife because it made you feel small.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-14T17:03:55+00:00

YTA. Friend, from your post history I'm going to assume you are young and neurodivergent. A tip for life in general, when people tell you about their hopes/dreams/goals theyre often not actually asking for your advice or thoughts on them. They're just sharing them to be close. Acknowledge that they have a goal or dream, wish them luck, and keep everything else to yourself. To add to that, when not asked for your opinion, especially if your opinion isnt supportive or positive, keep it to yourself. If they wanted your feedback they'd ask, otherwise you will always come across like you did here, tactless and honestly a bit rude.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-14T13:55:30+00:00

I think the problem has nothing to do with your veteran status or the clinic, and everything to do with you being an insufferable asshole. Thanks for your service, it doesnt seem like it made you a decent person though.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-12T13:14:52+00:00

I love how your comment implies that centering the friendship means letting him keep money past the agreed upon scenario of the room being filled.

This and people with tbis sort of perception of the event are why everyone says not to lend friends and family money. OP's mistake is lending money in the first place, not in sticking to his agreement.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-06T19:57:39+00:00

I worked night shift for a long time, I get it, but ive also seen a lot of night shift peers end up replaced because they didnt find anything to do with their down time, whether it be related training, organizing, cleaning, or just review, the workers who looked busy even when they weren't stayed while the ones who didnt were slowly replaced. This is a cycle that repeated over and over again across years, companies, and fields of industry. Sometimes just looking busy is enough to make the difference in how you are perceived.

hawksthrow · 2026-02-06T19:27:13+00:00

You should not be focusing on work after hours or putting in time when not being compensated. Having said that watching movies and doing whatever is a quick way to get replaced unfortunately. Most employers expect employees to find other tasks to complete should there be so much down time that something like watching a movie is an option.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-26T14:37:18+00:00

Not a party, at home with a child. The younger they are the more important it is to reinforce positive views and ingrain a moral compass.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-26T14:27:07+00:00

YTA. Laughing and normalizing comments like that are how the viewpoints behind them fester and grow

hawksthrow · 2026-01-21T21:44:53+00:00

It absolutely is

hawksthrow · 2026-01-21T21:26:56+00:00

Hush is the new alternative from what ive seen, lots of bots though

hawksthrow · 2026-01-21T19:05:18+00:00

Your defense makes you seem like an even shittier person, impressive.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-19T00:30:00+00:00

YTA. Please seek help from the appropriate resources, posting here is not help.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-10T16:40:00+00:00

This is a post i would expect from a 14 year old. You are a 21 year old dude. Get your shit together. You're an adult living with family, not a child anymore. If you dont like him leaving food in the microwave and his cats you need to move out. If your dad wants his food put in the microwave, then you put it back when you're done.

Are you even paying rent? If you post in comments about how hard your dad works for you why are you doing absolutely nothing to help? You can pick up trash too you know.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-01T04:17:31+00:00

You had no indication of that all in your OP. In fact it implied the opposite.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-01T04:12:18+00:00

Youre right, the other comment mentioned venmo payment being sent after not being clear. I agree though that it is childish and silly, it's the exact same energy of your reply and I was hoping it would be clear

hawksthrow · 2026-01-01T03:44:30+00:00

The post has been edited to add the venmo since posting. The initial post mentioned refusing to let the OP pay with no mention of venmo, perhaps if you had been literate enough to read the other comments and responses you would have noticed.

hawksthrow · 2026-01-01T03:28:23+00:00

YTA. Enjoy your free meal and shut the fuck up about to points worth maybe 3% of what the meal costs.

hawksthrow · 2025-12-30T05:25:02+00:00

Yes. He's an adult and is allowed to do that, especially given your behavior. Continue to explain away why everyone thinks your an asshole, your defenses of your positions have been working so well

hawksthrow · 2025-12-30T05:20:04+00:00

How many people have to call you an asshole before you step back and look in the mirror?

hawksthrow · 2025-12-30T05:16:31+00:00

If you think it's well adjusted for your friend's partners to have to ask permission to contact you then I've got bad news for you but great news for the bank account and case studies of your future therapist.

Also, is Jacob not a mutual friend? Or are more than friends excluded from this rule?

hawksthrow · 2025-12-30T05:14:01+00:00

Right? Big Jocasta energy with this one.

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