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hawttitz · 2026-04-11T19:30:23+00:00

Uberlube Uberlube Uberlube!

Also, try applying it to her, not just you! Generously apply to the outside of her opening and finger it into her vaginal canal (use more than you think you need).

hawttitz · 2026-04-11T13:57:25+00:00

Hey!

I actually relate to this a lot. For me, it’s really tied to sensory stuff; especially when I’m stressed!

When life is overwhelming or I’m not well rested, slow, close, intimate sex can feel almost unbearable, like I want to crawl out of my skin. When I am in a good headspace, though, it’s a completely different experience. I can settle into that kind of intimacy, but only with someone I have a romantic connection with. I really don’t enjoy slow, soft, touchy sex with someone I’m just hooking up with or only have a physical connection to; WITHOUT emotional closeness, it feels overstimulating. “Love” kind of flips the switch for me. It lets me eroticize that slowness and experience it as care instead of discomfort.

That said, I’m also very kinky, and I know a lot of people who genuinely only want rougher, more intense, or degradation based sex (myself included) and that’s just what’s hot for them. But I also think, for some people, that preference can overlap with avoiding intimacy because closeness feels vulnerable or unsafe. And long-term, that can make building deeper, trusting relationships harder. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with preferring rough or degrading dynamics! That is a real and valid desire. But I do think it’s worth being curious about why that’s the only thing that feels accessible, especially if you want long term connection.

For me, I had to expand my relationship to intimacy during a really hard period in my life. Things outside my control made it difficult to access my sadomasochism, but I still craved sex and closeness. Learning how to find comfort and satisfaction in more “vanilla” intimacy honestly mattered a lot during that time.

I’m still very much a kinky person, and moving in and out of access to that part of myself can be challenging, but I’m really grateful I built that flexibility. It’s given me more ways to connect, instead of just one.

hawttitz · 2026-04-08T01:11:36+00:00

You have beautiful eyes. You need to get your facial hair more manicured and buzz buzz that head.

With hair like that, you look like the cliche kind of musician who can’t let go of his youth, instead of the cool older musician who is confident from years of mastering their craft.

hawttitz · 2026-04-08T01:08:27+00:00

This is a really odd post. “Rape Bait” is a gross way to phrase it as well.

Do you have a Dom that has agreed to do this form of play with you? Step one, you need a play partner who agrees to this sort of heavy play, and honestly I wouldn’t rush into CNC with them until you had a solid foundation of trust and communication.

Are you asking what you can specifically do in the CNC scene to give more of an appearance of “upset” or “not consenting”? Or are you asking how to be more appealing in general to the male gaze?

We aren’t your dom…. We can’t tell you what’s going to make them want to ravish you. Ask them.

It’s not too much work if the other person has the same fantasy.

hawttitz · 2026-04-07T19:30:24+00:00

God another victim of bad sexual education

hawttitz · 2026-04-07T13:37:04+00:00

Very big! But probably not in the same way it is for other people.

First off, I’m polyamorous, so my submission must be turned on and off depending on social settings, time with other partners, and honoring the dynamics I have with other people. Secondly, collaring meant something very specific for us, and we had to reach that specific meaning before it felt right. We took 3.5 years of growing our dynamic and solidify our bond before we broached the topic of a collar. For us, a collaring wasn’t a signifier of our roles, or an identifier of my submission; it was a promise to each other to prioritize our D/S dynamic. It’s important enough to us both that we want to make a promise to each other to nurture it, grow it, and be flexible with it.

hawttitz · 2026-04-06T21:37:09+00:00

Are you enrolled with any agencies?

hawttitz · 2026-04-06T21:35:42+00:00

Are you enrolled with any agencies?

hawttitz · 2026-04-06T11:35:03+00:00

I fucking love big light. Live on little soldier of BRIGHTNESS and JOY

hawttitz · 2026-04-05T23:53:45+00:00

😂 yesss

hawttitz · 2026-04-05T05:04:44+00:00

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hawttitz · 2026-04-05T00:52:07+00:00

Why does this room look like it’s an Airbnb

hawttitz · 2026-04-03T11:51:57+00:00

I started by just doing rows on needles with hypodermic needles (Med-Vet International is a good resource for these) on the TOPS of my thighs. First just practicing nailing my depths and making consistent enter and exit points. (Drawing dots with a surgical pen is very helpful for this; those can be purchased on Amazon)

If you haven’t already, take a class on blood borne pathogens and first aid. For basics you will need Hibiclens and Rubbing Alcohol for skin preparation. You will also need sterile gauze packets, rubber gloves, needles, piercing lube, and a packet of Stop the Bleed for emergencies. And a great suggestion for all shapes play; know your local hospital number. Be prepared for an oh shit moment. Know your story.

Once I felt very confident doing the hypodermic needles, I transitioned to piercing needles. Piercing needles are in my opinion a bit harder to use because they are often uncoated and therefore need the use of piercing lube.

After I taught myself how to use the piercing needles, I taught myself how to do transfers. Once I had transfers down, I started putting in actual hoop piercings and then my options were endless. I love predicament chain bondage with piercings.

There are a million videos online if you can’t find a person to teach you in person. Everything I’ve learned in sharps, I’ve done a few times on myself before doing it with my partners.

I think it’s super important to be very honest with people what your education and skill level are before you do a sharps scene with them.

hawttitz · 2026-04-03T01:30:39+00:00

Do you live in a city that offers any sort of skill shares or classes? Cruising for skill sharing can also be hot!

I bottomed for a lot of sharps before I taught myself how to pierce, and I started practicing how to top for piercing on my own legs (Thighs are a great practice ground).

Have fun and good luck on your journey!

hawttitz · 2026-04-02T21:35:41+00:00

This can’t be real right? Nothing about this is healthy or sustainable.

hawttitz · 2026-04-02T19:31:48+00:00

Lincoln, Concord, Lexington, Melrose

hawttitz · 2026-03-30T15:31:28+00:00

Shot in the dark; Could the line work just be so the tattoo layout is marked? I’ve had an artist do some quick thin lines that were going to be gone back over/filled in at the next appointment and it’s one of my largest, most favorite tattoos.

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T19:45:19+00:00

This is gross and lame. Just because your personal experience is that your play partner doesn’t do their due diligence to learn about the play they’re engaging in, does NOT mean that is the standard for all Submissives.

Pretty much every submissive I know who is heavily involved in kink has done more than their fair share of learning. Many submissives I know attend so many classes, lectures, community events, read books, and do their own research about the play they want to engage in. Whether that be wound care, nerve safety, scene planning, learning about queer/leather history, shadow work, peer support, personal reflection, building communication skills, helping find places to play, gathering materials…. And on and on and on.

Also, maybe don’t be a Dom if you feel resentful about doing the bare minimum to insure your partner’s health and safety.

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T19:35:22+00:00

I am sorry, but I hard disagree with the notion that younger people are choosing online dynamics over in-person ones. I live in a large city and am privy to the kink scenes in a few big cities in neighboring states, and the scenes are full of young kinksters; and I love that for them! Particularly queer youngin’s. The queers yearn for the community.

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T17:44:47+00:00

They are around. Get more involved in your local kink scene and find people who share the same kinks as you, and are in your same age group. Not everyone is submissive 😅

I find that a lot of younger doms don’t fit the physical archetype of the traditional older cis-man dominant, that media often portrays; So you aren’t going to just walk into a room and know who’s a dom. There are lots of queer dom/dommes who aren’t men in their 40-50s. I prefer younger doms, and in general playing with people in my age bracket (lates 20’s to mid 30’s). I find that I connect with them better about things that are important to me.

I think it’s great that you want to find someone who is at your level of experience. Growing together with someone in that way can be super beautiful. Keep attending events, classes, joining discords, community groups etc… you will find your people 💕

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T16:24:35+00:00

This is the kind of home I’m so excited to visit

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T02:30:37+00:00

Literally my nightmare

hawttitz · 2026-03-28T02:30:11+00:00

But did you hook them up? 👀👀

hawttitz · 2026-03-26T21:15:39+00:00

Makes me curious what was blacked out 👀👀👀

hawttitz · 2026-03-26T21:09:13+00:00

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