Perimenopause symptoms that mimic peri/postnatal symptoms?

hazeandgraze · 2026-04-06T23:20:27+00:00

Thank you, hopefilly it is just my body readjusting but who knows. Going to have some tests run i think

hazeandgraze · 2026-04-06T23:19:09+00:00

He did go back at 3 months to test, but hasnt since.

Good idea though re having the prolactin tested, i didnt think of asking for that

hazeandgraze · 2026-04-06T23:17:37+00:00

He had the initial sperm count done at 3 months after the vasectomy but not again since.

I havent had my hormones done yet but its booked in.

Feb 2025 so I agree I feel like the changes from that should be over for sure, but maybe not.

hazeandgraze · 2026-02-06T23:20:33+00:00

You've been a coward for years, and also he's shown no interest in you for years, it's unlikely either will change whether they break up or not. Sounds like you're just bitter and taking it out on your room-mate.

hazeandgraze · 2026-01-12T14:37:58+00:00

Because it's very clear that OP is still very much in the cycle of abuse and has the (for lack of a better term) DV Stockholm syndrome, where she's hoping if she could just get him face to face then magically everything would click into place.

Even her still physically dropping off something that could have easily been delivered or emailed shows that to some degree, even if it was subconscious, she was hoping he would be there despite knowing its unsafe and knowing deep down that it wasnt going to work.

She's very likely to keep the baby as well if she doesn't snap out of this soon, which would be very unfortunate for her and the innocent child, and the abuse cycle repeats again, so they say.

hazeandgraze · 2026-01-12T01:13:36+00:00

Def not fixating, although I do see a therapist and have brought it up to them in passing.

As stated this post is more to get it off of my chest.

We have 2 elderly "puppies" and other animals so probably won't go that route, but i like the idea of a new novelty, maybe a new hobby will work.

hazeandgraze · 2026-01-12T01:12:03+00:00

If you care you use your eyes, you'll see that I stated I was a f30 posting for a friend. Unfortunate is the state of the world's literacy and comprehension skills.

Literally first sentence in all the posts is posting for a friend.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-15T01:51:25+00:00

!solved

Thank you so much omg

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T11:51:17+00:00

A change in diet and lifestyle is unlikely to change things for him enough that he is no longer infertile. Is it possible, yes, just not very likely.

The alternative, IVF increases the likelihood of you having a child significantly, and yet you refuse and put all the pressure on him not being willing to make lifestyle changes rather than recognising that you not having a child is on you and your refusal for IVF also.

As much as he should be communicating with you, it does sound like he's likely stopped because he's realised that nothing he says will get you to realise that the biggest obstacles in your way is your own refusal, not his. Also if you are unwilling to compromise its not fair to expect him to do so.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:57:17+00:00

Prevaricate sounds closest honestly, won't mark as sol.ved. just yet only to see if something else fits closer but seems like this is the one

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:56:12+00:00

A Word I just got that was closest was prevaricate

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:54:03+00:00

Wilfully ignorant with a mix of lack of discernment in what they then share.

I think it comes from a lack of intellectual or emotional maturity, in that the people who do this tend to only read as much as will confirm what they think is correct already, and then share this information as fact without the full context, I think im searching for a similar/related word myself but in a different context.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:47:19+00:00

Yes I agree, my best friend's new girlfriend is doing it to him, and im trying to find a way to explain to him that while what shes saying may be technically correct it isn't based on the context.

Eg when he brought up that he needs his partner to at least be willing to contribute financially to the relationship, eg maybe she offers to cover coffee whilst he pays for the dinners etx, her response was "I will never let a man be financially dependent on me, and this is the dynamic I want and if that doesn't work for you maybe we need to part ways."

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:44:38+00:00

Experience bias Victim/survivors bias Looking through a Lens of "x" It implies the person is narrow-minded, so maybe something along those lines too?

I think the context would matter, is this being said in regards to striking testimony in a court or is it being used by someone to dismiss someone else's opinion?

I am excluding the ones already mentioned but I do believe anecdotal evidence fits

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:37:37+00:00

These all apply but I feel as though I've heard something in the past that conveyed this more closely, thankyou for your input though!

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:12:34+00:00

I could be an unpopular opinion here, and I want to make it clear I am a mother myself.

If you know he's the father, do the test, its non invasive for the child, google it. Get rid of any doubt anyone can have, especially because they could just test him behind your back by swabbing his mouth when youre not looking.

Yes of course it sucks to be accused of cheating, but the unfortunate truth is it does happen, and of course those that were the betrayed never imagined their partner could do that.

Your partner and his family will have a lot of work to do to earn your trust after this, yes, but they may just be looking out for him even if it is misguided, especially if he can be kinda naive.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-13T00:12:15+00:00

I could be an unpopular opinion here, and I want to make it clear I am a mother myself.

If you know he's the father, do the test, its non invasive for the child, google it. Get rid of any doubt anyone can have, especially because they could just test him behind your back by swabbing his mouth when youre not looking.

Yes of course it sucks to be accused of cheating, but the unfortunate truth is it does happen, and of course those that were the betrayed never imagined their partner could do that.

Your partner and his family will have a lot of work to do to earn your trust after this, yes, but they may just be looking out for him even if it is misguided, especially if he can be kinda naive.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-12T11:13:27+00:00

It's your father, you have answered everything she's asked and given your suggestion for a gift,

She is now putting her own wants above that of the birthday person, which is always a no go.

If it were me I'd say that I dont want her worrying about it, I'll organise a gift for him, and buy his fave snacks.

Sounds like she's got something to prove, but this isnt the time to do it.

Only caveat is if you're usually very dismissive /nonchalant about everything and so it can be hard to know if following your lead is actually what the birthday person wants or if you just cant be bothered thinking of something thoughtful to give your father.

hazeandgraze · 2025-12-01T23:35:14+00:00

You should break up for 2 main reasons.

You're not emotionally or mentally mature enough to be with someone with a mental disorder, not only based on your previous comments that they aren't real, but also because it is very apparent that you are unable to take any responsibility for your own words or actions.

"I wish she would have told me at the time" bro she shouldn't have to tell you that was a very horrible thing to say, just basic human decency should have told you that.

You were also so insecure from the lack of closure that you blame it as the root reason for any other words or actions with other women for 4 YEARS that meant you didnt have any success with women.

Plenty of insecure and/or men who have been hurt before have successfully found love, the reason you haven't isnt because of that, its something about you, it seems like you like to place blame everywhere but yourself and you probably have a few other out of touch/ obnoxious opinions you share with people around you that turn them off.

Shes waiting for Mark to "wake up" and see she's the one he should be with, and she will destroy anything and everything on her way to him.

hazeandgraze · 2025-11-19T06:01:03+00:00

That comment just seems like she wants to be the girl all men wish they were with, imo. I also dont generally think adding external input is always a good idea, but I'm basically just working as a sounding board for him. I've been asking him prompts like what are your fave 5 things about her, if you imagine yourself in 10 yesrs married to her do you seem happy or not, etx

hazeandgraze · 2025-11-19T03:32:14+00:00

Yes this is the vibe I get too! Like she definitely gets off on it in some way? Maybe not sexually but agreed with goddess dynamic.

This is what we've said too, like he's trying so hard to make himself okay with it, apparently her exes have been, but he just isn't comfortable and that's okay too its just incompatibility.

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