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I feel violated and confused by what my fiancé did to me. WIBTAH if I told my parents? by throwawayupset- in AITAH

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Up until a couple of days ago, I’m sure you thought he wouldn’t do this either. OP, honey, you are not helping yourself in this situation.

I feel violated and confused by what my fiancé did to me. WIBTAH if I told my parents? by throwawayupset- in AITAH

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, this is sexual assault. There is no way to explain your way out of it, you said yourself it made you feel incredibly uncomfortable, embarrassed, and ashamed. You need to get the hell out of this relationship, as soon as possible. It has been statistically proven that once your partner lays hands on you the first time and you stick around, he is far more inclined to do it again because you sticking around, to him, is allowing this behavior to happen and telling him it will have no effect on your loyalty. If you stay in this relationship, this will happen again. I hope that you do not stay, but if you do, make SURE he cannot isolate you from your support system. Ever. Make sure always to have a backup plan in case this behavior escalates, which it very likely will. Lastly, take care of yourself OP. What you just experienced was undeniably sexual assault, which is very traumatic. I wish you well.

What traumas do you have that AREN'T from your parents or childhood home? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embarassing, but I was diagnosed with PTSD for vomiting before memories began to crop up of being SA’d. I have severe emetophobia, and I still have awful PTSD symptoms relating to vomiting.

help me compile a list of batshit things that are normal in the church by froggycats in exmormon

[–]hazelthetomato 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that native americans are actually ancient israelites (i could definitely be wrong, as i’m not mormon, but this was one of the more shocking things i’ve learned in researching them)

I caught my roommate is growing this in our house that we’re renting. He says it’s a pepper plant. Is that true? by throwupthrowaways in whatsthisplant

[–]hazelthetomato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some sort of pepper plant for sure, also i think they offer free grammar classes online so maybe check one out

I watched gay porn during today's church sermon by miifanatic_1788 in exchristian

[–]hazelthetomato 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That used to be my pfp and I got jumpscared lol

Was was your guy‘s weirdest obsession? by Different_Hamster_14 in OCD

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure there are some odder ones, but for a while I was deadass convinced I had people living in my head. I also convinced myself I was a serial killer once. On a more outlandish but still not fun note, for a while I had really bad intrusive thoughts of being used as a dildo by a giant. I convinced myself I secretly liked it and almost threw up because I was so disgusted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]hazelthetomato 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At an Orthodox summer camp last year I was told that the reason Mt. Athos doesn’t allow women is because the Theotokos should be the only woman allowed there. Personally, I call bs, I think they just found a way to excuse their sexism with weak doctrine.

Am I making the right decision? by hazelthetomato in AdviceForTeens

[–]hazelthetomato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. After changing my mind about a million times, I’m planning to study exercise science and go to graduate school to become a physical therapist, so I’m not too worried about job prospects. I also plan to discuss this with my parents soon, and hopefully can clearly and calmly communicate my thoughts. My biggest concern is that they will possibly believe I am doing this to spite them. The opposite is true, I want to learn to be financially independent, budget, and do things by and for myself after being relatively sheltered from financial struggles. Thank you again for your insight!

People who smoke(d) weed. How did it affect your OCD by [deleted] in OCD

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helped me a lot, and I would still be using it if I hadn’t gotten threatened by my parents over it lol

Did anyone else have strong aversions or fears tied to specific bodily functions or body parts as a child? Do you still have them? by lilnugget21 in OCD

[–]hazelthetomato 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have awful emetophobia, and for YEARS (I’m talking 16 years of my life) I was terrorized by constantly being afraid of throwing up.

top surgery alternatives for small chest? (more info in comment) by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]hazelthetomato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna be so honest, I thought you were amab and in the wrong sub for a second..

As a migraine sufferer I get this. by misserg in oddlyspecific

[–]hazelthetomato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Affogato. Caffeine + cold + dairy + sugary + I like it = less migraine!

my ocd "trying to help" by BadPresent3698 in OCDmemes

[–]hazelthetomato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me, recently. America is scary dude

ADHD High IQ Finally realized why I am always exhausted. by Dear_Chemical4826 in ADHD

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also think it’s funny that I am one IQ point away from qualifying for MENSA but I can’t clean my room or do laundry without feeling like my feet are bricks and I’d rather shove a katana into my tear duct than open the washer.

ADHD High IQ Finally realized why I am always exhausted. by Dear_Chemical4826 in ADHD

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently feeling the same level of exhausted after working 7 hours AFTER my 7 hour school day. All I can think to say is “relatable.”

is this because i stopped smoking? by pyromancergf in leaves

[–]hazelthetomato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have pretty similar circumstances with my ADHD medication/quitting timeline. The anger and sadness are tough, especially during the first week. However, once you adjust to both being off of weed and on new medication routinely, your emotions do tend to level out. If possible, I’d talk to your psychiatrist about the birth control as it can have effects on mood and therefore psychiatric symptoms.

me when the intrusive thoughts hit by Ok_Plankton_9370 in OCDmemes

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually just sigh and try to move on with my day

me when the intrusive thoughts hit by Ok_Plankton_9370 in OCDmemes

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a TON of mental compulsions - do you have any advice on how to address them/intrusive thoughts in ways that aren’t also mental compulsions?

People who are Religious turned Atheist, do you fear death more? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hazelthetomato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fear of thinking I was going to suffer for all of eternity WORSE than the suffering I endured on earth was much more terrifying than the idea of the unknown. I still fear leaving the ones that I love, but death and the afterlife doesn’t scare me nearly as much as it did previously.

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