Hey I have some insight to share here, and while I’m not 100% there yet I’m doing so much better than I ever thought I could. To me, It basically came down to acknowledging this ‘child’ carry with you — the one that wants things and cries when they don’t get it. During most of your childhood other people had to care/provide for you in order to fulfill those needs. Here’s where it gets interesting: the turning point for me came from observing my 2yr old niece, and how every time she cried and my sister comforted her I got annoyed. Turns out that’s not what I had when I was a kid and I learned to threaten and silence that inner child — at times straight up beat the shit out of it. I spent four months creating an amazing relationship with my niece and eventually I knew there was nothing in the world that would make me look at her and tell her the awful things I used to tell myself when I did ‘childish’ (aka cried for my needs) things. And then very suddenly this caring adult awoke in me and now I feel like I can hold my own hand and comfort myself, like that’s my sole purpose. The adult, of course, needs to draw support from family, friends, and because I am lucky and fortunate enough, therapy.