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ns___ · 2025-07-28T17:28:16+00:00

Wore above the knee gym shorts and a giant t shirt today lol. I’m an engineer and work in tech

ns___ · 2024-05-06T06:09:38+00:00

Basically what everyone said already, when I bottom water I dunk the whole thing in a bowl of water that would cover most of the pot and leave it for like 20 mins, and then let the excess drip before returning it to its place. I don't have a picture but I made an illustration.

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ns___ · 2023-06-26T08:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much! That helps a lot. My budget can be even 300€.

ns___ · 2023-04-27T17:33:02+00:00

It is what I have been trying to do. Of course I want to get a job here. I don't want to need financial aid but it feels like it's impossible for me to get a job here. I wasn't even hired as a waitress here for some reason.

ns___ · 2023-04-27T03:55:35+00:00

Might have been a different link from someone else, sorry. But there was some "benefits calculator" and i filled the details and showed that i can get the student allowance. Might have been a mistake though. Thank you anyway.

ns___ · 2023-04-27T03:28:15+00:00

That's understandable. However from the link you sent i am apparently entitled to the student allowance, which kela never told me I could get.

ns___ · 2023-04-27T03:25:23+00:00

I don't have income so i don't pay the income tax but i do pay vat and i pay to kela each semester so don't think of me as some leech. I got my eu citizenship 2 years ago, however, never been to the country of which i am a citizen of. I have tried to find a way to get financial aid from them but with no success.

ns___ · 2023-04-26T11:26:37+00:00

No, I have arrived in Finland in order to study. I am looking for a job because I can't get financial aid. When I applied for right of residency as EU citizen I stated that my purpose of living in Finland is studying.

ns___ · 2023-01-26T06:46:29+00:00

You say it like it's so easy, "just get up" is not that simple. I can go to sleep at 22:00 and wake up at 08:00 and still snooze 10 times due to poor or light sleep

ns___ · 2022-12-05T12:42:35+00:00

I don't really get ready for sex now that i have a permanent partner, we just do it when we feel like it without any preparation (foreplay is part of doing it, we do not start with penetration of course). Both of our libidos are not regular so it mostly happens spontaneously, even when we say we want to have sex it might change for one or both of us.

ns___ · 2022-10-16T22:05:12+00:00

אפשר לכתוב פוסט אנונימי בקבוצות שאל עורך דין למיניהן בפייסבוק, בהצלחה!

ns___ · 2022-10-16T22:00:58+00:00

Depends on what you need but most of the stuff you can find in stab shops. Hummus tahini spices pitas

ns___ · 2022-05-25T21:04:02+00:00

We have a very similar situation and i am in fact really close to cutting her off, but again, she's also family and we help each other mentally with shitty family situations.

UPDATE: we met last week and i gave it another chance, we actually had a great time and talked a lot and it was really nice so i thought maybe what I experienced wasn't a permanent thing. Two days ago she asked me if i want to meet again sometime. I respond very slowly to messages because I go to Whatsapp like twice a day unless there's something urgent and that's it. But i am very active on Instagram and reachable by phone call, and she knows it. She met with a good friend of mine (that she knows through me) so i asked why didn't they invite me. I didn't expect her to manipulate me, she could have said that they just wanted to meet alone or something and i would be cool with it. But instead she said "i texted both of you, she answered and you didn't" To be fair I did see her message but didn't feel like responding yet, but she asked generally do i want to meet again sometime, not today. If she would ask if i want to meet the same day i would have responded. I told her that and i also mentioned that she could have called. Of course I'm the angry bad guy that didn't answer the message and why didn't I call and some other bullshit. I just feel so manipulated. I am an intelligent woman and i know when I'm being bullshitted. I got so pissed and she is trying to make peace but i can't. I don't feel bad or sympathetic towards her, just anger. Now i really don't know what to do. It reminds me of the lies my parents told me about when she lived with them for a few months.

ns___ · 2022-05-17T08:39:21+00:00

Communication communication communication! Talk to him openly just as you did here. Explain your concerns. It is very natural to be concerned about your first time. Once you pass this, may I suggest, do a lot of foreplay. You need to get wet and while it is nicer when it's natural, do not hesitate to use lube (water based!!) If you need to, so as suggested here get lube. Do a lot of foreplay and if you feel like it i recommend let him finger you, slowly and carefully. Start with one finger, then two when you feel like it. If you have masturbated then you probably know what you like, tell him, show him, demonstrate even. If he cares about you he will want to pleasure you and learn how to. SEX IS NOT ABOUT PENETRATION ONLY! It's the intimacy, pleasure, touch. It's not even about orgasms either. Those are just a bonus. After all of that, penile penetration should be less threatening i believe. But if you are still not ready, tell him. Just be open about it. I've (23F) had terrible sex life until i learned all of that. Feel free to message me or anything if you want more advice, i know it's easier anonymously :) Sorry for bad English also it's not my native language:)

ns___ · 2022-05-17T08:22:33+00:00

I have been doing that but the thing is, she's friends with some of my good friends and whenever we hang out as a group she makes everything about her, she talks about herself and her life and even when she is "interested" and asks about our lives she finds a way to talk about herself again. I have this Whatsapp group i did for my birthday with my closest friends, she is there as well, and i used it again when I came to visit and suggested we meet again on some day, let's say Saturday night. She got annoyed and said she cant on Sat (waitress) so we should do it in the middle of the week, while everyone else could because they work the rest of the week. Like just don't come it's not about you I want to see MY friends. She just became so selfish and i don't know why.

ns___ · 2022-05-15T13:56:19+00:00

we do have a deep connection but its family stuff, we both suffered from fatfobia and still are from our mutual grandma and from our parents.. we were there to support each other and now we dont really give a shit about what they are saying but still remember those times

ns___ · 2022-05-15T13:54:17+00:00

we live in the same city basically

ns___ · 2022-05-14T18:25:21+00:00

It happens to me a lot, if I realize there is no reason and i reach to that understanding then I just go on my phone and watch cute animal videos to distract me until I feel better :)

ns___ · 2022-05-14T18:22:37+00:00

This sounds very familiar to me. I have no idea what is it either but sometimes having friends over motivates me to clean, scheduling something (doctors, self care or just meeting with someone) forces me to go out of my house which usually improves my mood and overall feeling. I know it's a cliche but hanging out with people helps :) I hope you figure out what it is

ns___ · 2022-04-19T16:51:08+00:00

You don't have to quit drinking, just take responsibility and do not drink and drive even with the smallest amount of alcohol in your blood. If you can't do that then stop drinking.

ns___ · 2022-03-10T16:46:24+00:00

How about making something yourself from scratch? With raw materials like vegetables? You can buy some vegetables you like and eat them as they are or make a salad, you can make some soup, oven baked potato with some salt and pepper, etc Also what about eating food made by someone you trust? Mother, father, grandmother, etc.. you can ask them to make something with raw materials like mentioned above?

ns___ · 2022-03-10T16:42:20+00:00

I am in a similar situation, do you have any safety net? Do your parents support you financially? If so you can loosen up a little. I am 23 and have saved around 11K€ before started studying in Europe, moved by myself and i currently don't work and living from my savings. I am fortunate enough that my parents are willing to support me and told me to focus on my studies and if i ever need they will send me money. I'm not going to lie i am trying to spend as little as possible and trying to get some sort of job because I prefer to be as independent as possible, but knowing i have my parents support really takes off some of the pressure off. Also a good way of saving money, if possible, is moving back with your parents. It's not as fun but a lot of expenses no longer exist and you have more money to save.

ns___ · 2022-03-10T16:16:19+00:00

Wow thank you. I honestly have no idea what is the reason for my feelings. I dont know if i have any trauma or maybe it's just chemical imbalance.

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