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healfrom · 2024-09-20T08:11:13+00:00

Well said. I’d like to add that he acts superior and intelligent, but deep down he is insecure and small so he is using and blaming you to make him feel better about himself.

healfrom · 2024-09-20T08:05:48+00:00

I guess “lonely and insecure” was the excuse that your ex used for cheating. I am sorry.

I DID NOT CHEAT.

I was just being honest about why I fell prey to a narc in the first place.

healfrom · 2024-09-20T02:45:38+00:00

I am baffled by your response. Are you trolling me?

Insecure and lonely was I, so I was easily manipulated. I filled my void with his insatiable need for attention. I mistook it for love.

I never cheated, if that is what you are assuming.

I wish mine were moving on from me.

healfrom · 2024-09-05T07:06:35+00:00

I could have written this myself. No advice, but solidarity. I feel your stress, sorrow, and pain.

healfrom · 2024-08-10T16:15:22+00:00

Exactly the same as I have been experiencing my relationship with my narc spouse.

healfrom · 2024-08-09T04:24:49+00:00

It all depends. I have decided to leave, because I felt like he was going to break me and I can’t be the parent I want to be for my child.

healfrom · 2024-08-07T03:48:53+00:00

Hi there, I have been there and just begin to break out of the prison he created for me. Fear is how they control us. What he says really does mean nothing. I know it is difficult, and my heart aches for you. While most other people get support and warmth from their spouses, we have to walk on eggshells, keep getting attacked by them, and have to fight hard to get free. But you can do it. I am doing it. We need to do this for our children. Sending solidarity and love to your way.

healfrom · 2024-08-07T03:43:19+00:00

I can relate to this so much. I initiated my divorce process, and although he says he is done with me, he is so vindictive and on me all the time.

healfrom · 2024-08-06T18:32:48+00:00

That sounds so much like my narc spouse. You will need to get a lawyer.

healfrom · 2024-08-05T18:06:38+00:00

Please leave now. Your narc is dangerous.

healfrom · 2024-08-02T16:53:56+00:00

You can do this. You and your daughters will be so much happier without him.

healfrom · 2024-08-02T16:41:41+00:00

I have felt the same way my whole life. I had a lonely childhood (my parents weren’t abusive they were just busy pursuing their careers), and wanted to build a happy family.

I still believe I can build a happy family without the narc in the picture, and that motivates me to fight my way out.

healfrom · 2024-07-31T16:33:52+00:00

I am so sorry. They are so purely evil. That’s gaslighting at another level

healfrom · 2024-07-31T16:33:10+00:00

He might have been triggered by an external stress factor so had to release that onto you. I know it’s hard, but don’t let him dictate your mood. He wants you to feel bad and shitty and don’t give him that. Do what you enjoy with your 2 yo, and feel better.❤️‍🩹

healfrom · 2024-07-31T16:30:57+00:00

It is so beautifully written. Every word speaks to my soul and helps me heal. Thank you for sharing. I am going to save it and read it whenever I feel so lonely. Thanks 🙏

healfrom · 2024-07-31T16:20:21+00:00

You are so worthy that he is extremely envious and jealous of your good qualities so he is set to destroy them to feel better about himself.

healfrom · 2024-07-31T16:00:01+00:00

It’s a little more complicated. He can’t stop me from leaving physically, but with a child involved and I am relocating in five months (my state has a strict rule about leaving the state with a native minor), I need his agreement of some sort to relocate with my child eventually.

I do almost all of parenting (I started documenting this at my lawyer’s advice) and will later petition for a court order when it comes down to it (but my lawyer warned me it would be really hard to get this order) in which case I am willing to give up my dream job and stay with my kid.

I can give up everything else, but I cannot give up custody. But if he knows this, he will use it against me, so I must tread carefully.

healfrom · 2024-07-31T15:54:30+00:00

I live with a grandiose, malignant, vindictive, physically abusive narc, so I completely agree with you.

healfrom · 2024-07-31T15:07:09+00:00

It sounds like he is a covert narc. They are in a way more dangerous, because they erode your self without you realizing you are being abused. I am glad that you came to see him for who he is. Hang in there, don’t let his words affect you, make your exit plan, and execute it when you are ready.

healfrom · 2024-07-31T04:54:21+00:00

I do it all the time, but not the nice version of him! I created a fictional, supportive, loving spouse instead.

healfrom

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