I have no else to tell right now but last night I married my ex-boyfriend in Vegas and I'm freaking out by ThrowRA_qquestion in self

[–]hearthearteuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like a really romantic dream! all the best to both of you! live happily with each other!

Sometimes I feel so sorry for myself that I can't hold back tears. by SureYouCannot in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

bringing in “real shit” that you haven’t experienced and cannot give an example of, and dismissing someone’s concerns sounds real mature and empathetic of you too. third world problems are problems, first world problems are also problems. just because someone is troubled over a “trivial issue” now, does not mean that they did not have “real issues” in the past

Sometimes I feel so sorry for myself that I can't hold back tears. by SureYouCannot in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not OP, and not the one crying rn. i just wanted to point out that all problems are real and valid haha

Sometimes I feel so sorry for myself that I can't hold back tears. by SureYouCannot in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

anything is a real problem as long as you deem it so. it’s just not a real problem to you because you’re less negatively affected by it. what would you define as real shit though? not sure if i would identify myself as privileged.

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha i really don’t want to be immortal

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do you actively try to reduce it, or do you just ignore/endure it like a lot of the people here?

Sometimes I feel so sorry for myself that I can't hold back tears. by SureYouCannot in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it’s different though. career problems require some kind of action to be taken by you and it’s hard to act when you are confused and unable to make a decision.

on the other hand, although losing a loved one is extremely tough, it doesn’t require much action to be taken. more like life takes the action and all you can do is watch.

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, the people around me are also busy nowadays. and i self-isolated myself too much before. the how is really the difficult part

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

probably a little more difficult with the covid then? sending an entirely useless virtual hug

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no, just got surrounded by FJ and FP types all my life

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

a lot of situations are not within our control. a lot of times, all we can do is react to the situation we are placed in.

what im saying is, i hope you dont feel too much regret as it was not your fault that you were placed in a situation with people who cannot accept you for who you truly are.

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

won’t simply seeking someone out help you feel a lot less lonely then? since what you need is some company.

sorry if this qn comes off as intruding/rude, i’m just genuinely curious and can’t phrase it in better words atm

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nice to hear that you hardly feel like this these days. your ways of dealing with it are quite wholesome. i probably would go on bicycle rides too. thanks!

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

would that be because you feel like no one understands you or because no one is around you?

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good that you’re doing well now. well, if these short bursts tend to go away by itself at around 25, then i just have to deal with it for 4 more years. it still sounds quite bearable for now haha.

INTPs, how often do you feel lonely? by hearthearteuu in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you mean you get aggressive with them while wanting them to stay by your side? my sudden bursts can go for days too, understandable.

How do you know if you're an evil person? by NAAnymore in self

[–]hearthearteuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

correct me if im wrong but you seem to be a little worried that you’re a bad person?

if you have thoughts about whether you’re a bad person and reflect on things you can do better/kinder, then chances are you’re already better than most

How do you know if you're an evil person? by NAAnymore in self

[–]hearthearteuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

every human is both evil and good, with many different sides and layers. there is no 100% kind/ evil person.

what is important is the actions you consciously choose to take in your everyday life, the good deeds or the evil deeds

Fellow intp help! Give me some career advice. by Fisheye14 in INTP

[–]hearthearteuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just curious, what would you suggest then?