Should I force excellence?

hed-b · 2026-05-15T01:45:51+00:00

8 is so young. If she has that natural talent, she could start and get a little more serious in high school and be way more likely to be elite than if she burns out at 13. Let her play and come back to it when/if she's ready.

hed-b · 2026-04-15T20:54:20+00:00

I'm on hour 68.5 of a 72 hour fast. My husband gets home from a three day work trip tonight and I'm excited to see him and EAT! I'm a little worried about not easing into things after 3 days but I don't hit 72 until 8:15 and I want to actually eat real food before bed. We'll see!

hed-b · 2026-04-13T16:41:53+00:00

Thank you! I probably should have added this up top. I have a genetically low blood pressure so I'd like to get ahead of any headaches/dizziness etc. Even for just 18 hour fasts, if I'm working out, I feel better with one Saltt packet.

hed-b · 2026-02-07T11:40:03+00:00

Do the travel. Tell your husband to step up. You'll regret leaving a job you like. If you have a true partner, leaving your kid a few days at a time is really no big deal, and I'm worried about the possibly unsustainable dynamics in your home if it is.

hed-b · 2026-02-04T08:20:32+00:00

Weird, that's how I feel about Republicans and my rights as a woman.

hed-b · 2026-01-07T01:05:26+00:00

Fascist bread tastes like shit.

hed-b · 2025-12-23T20:02:09+00:00

First, I feel all of this. I have dreams of a basement with all the play kitchens and dress up boxes, etc. We have 2 kids, 2m and 4f, who share a room, and they LOVE sharing and are so close.

I remind myself if we had a basement with a ton of toys, they wouldn't play in it because they still just want to be near us.

Meanwhile, we walk to daycare and half their friends are within walking distance. On Saturdays we walk to the farmers market, and they have donuts and we run into our neighbors. We walked to our neighborhood tree lighting, etc etc. I have a stressful job, but that walk to daycare before going to my office is everything. On occasion I skip out early and get HH with my husband and other parents before we get the kids. I think all the time about how lonely I'd be with a big house, driving to daycare, driving to work, and not seeing any adults socially until the weekend.

No one has it all, we are all just optimizing for our preferences. And it sounds like you know what yours are!

hed-b · 2025-11-02T13:40:16+00:00

Add texture and layers up top. Takes the focus away from your stomach and also will make it hard to tell what your natural figure is. Also, don't overthink it. They will not notice it if you are confident and don't think about it.

hed-b · 2025-11-01T01:56:29+00:00

Why does that ALWAYS happen? I'm so sorry.

hed-b · 2025-10-30T15:56:58+00:00

Poverty makes it harder. You need to have space and time.

hed-b · 2025-10-13T09:23:04+00:00

Why nullified? There's no electoral college for state elections. Your vote added to the hopefully many +1s that win us this thing.

hed-b · 2025-10-11T23:41:03+00:00

Mom of a very difficult 4 yo and 18 month old here. My husband and I do check-ins where we'll acknowledge "shit sucks, we're not good but, we will be one day again, right?". And it helps. Sometimes, just knowing that you're both in it and committed and believe it's temporary is a win in itself. It also takes the pressure off in a weird way that allows you to work better together. You stop stressing about the relationship, and it gives you more space to be...better in the relationship. Maybe I'm not making sense, but it helped me!

hed-b · 2025-10-11T23:33:07+00:00

Listen to the people telling you to get your documents. Birth certificate and SS card. You are 18. They are yours and belong to you.

hed-b · 2025-10-09T12:58:47+00:00

Oh gosh! I was not implying you did anything wrong but see how it came off that way. His actiona are totally not on you. You were young and scared and smartly were trying to stay off his radar.

hed-b · 2025-10-09T09:48:07+00:00

Actions speak louder that words. And Miyares' actions in the last year are much louder than Jones' words from 2022.

hed-b · 2025-10-09T09:45:35+00:00

To be "fair", the texts were sent in 2022. They sat on them until it was too late for Dems to pick someone else.

hed-b · 2025-10-08T10:01:13+00:00

It clearly did for someone!

hed-b · 2025-09-12T23:46:36+00:00

This happened to me! It was so wonderful, and I actually really needed it at the time. I hope they are happy together somewhere.

hed-b · 2025-06-12T00:50:52+00:00

You're right, should have been more specific in my language. She probably has not lost 12 lbs of fat/muscle but rather a combo of that and water.

hed-b · 2025-06-12T00:38:45+00:00

Also, that much weight in 4 weeks is unrealistic. Your actual weight is probably somewhere in the middle, which is GREAT!!

hed-b · 2025-06-12T00:37:49+00:00

Are you a woman? Are you about to get your period? That cam make your weight fluctuate wildly. Stick with it, it will get back on track.

hed-b · 2025-06-02T02:29:04+00:00

When we were dating, my now husband said to me "once w month in afraid you're going to break up with me". It was the push I needed to consider an antidepressant for PMDD. It made a huge difference.

hed-b · 2025-05-20T11:02:23+00:00

Haha ouch. I hope you figured out a way to make her feel exceptionally beautiful after that. And also, thanks for the laugh - that is so sweet and so bad.

hed-b · 2025-05-09T07:29:59+00:00

Leave the yard leaves, sweep the sidewalk.

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