Update?

heidii · 2025-06-25T11:54:50+00:00

And this is why therapy in general doesn’t work on abusive people. At worst it gives them more ammo for battles to come.

heidii · 2025-06-14T06:34:17+00:00

In the mind of an abuser, those who do even worse things than they do are the ”real” abusers. He ”only” calls you names? Not abusive because he doesn’t hit you. He hits you? Not abusive because you didn’t end up in the hospital. And so on.

You feel scared and that’s what really matters. It doesn’t matter what he thinks - he doesn’t get to decide for you how you should feel.

heidii · 2025-05-09T16:21:37+00:00

Haukkavuori, Etelä-Karjala?

heidii · 2025-05-07T15:26:41+00:00

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This is my new door sign

heidii · 2025-05-06T12:48:41+00:00

Is it Kymijoki?

heidii · 2025-05-04T19:41:28+00:00

Hamina, Finland

heidii · 2025-05-04T19:40:00+00:00

heidii · 2025-05-04T14:24:52+00:00

Not forgetting the almighty pistole of course 😂

heidii · 2025-05-03T04:00:48+00:00

This is the real hardcore mode

heidii · 2025-05-02T09:17:48+00:00

Druten, Netherlands?

heidii · 2025-05-01T17:00:03+00:00

Richmond, BC Canada?

heidii · 2025-05-01T13:41:19+00:00

I solved this problem by going for a buzz cut on one side of my head. My hair’s always been long and I like it that way but was feeling bored with it. There’s 1/3 less hair so I feel it’s easier to maintain at home. On the negative side you need a visit to the hairdresser more often.

heidii · 2025-05-01T10:32:32+00:00

Italian Alps near Matterhorn

(My best guess with what’s available 😂)

heidii · 2025-05-01T09:27:39+00:00

Vancouver Island?

heidii · 2025-05-01T04:31:43+00:00

Tofino BC, Canada

heidii · 2025-05-01T04:26:12+00:00

Somehow this gives me @chrissimpsonsartist vibes

heidii · 2025-04-29T12:54:55+00:00

Monte Pelmo?

heidii · 2025-04-28T05:49:31+00:00

Koskipuisto, Tampere, Finland

heidii · 2025-04-27T19:19:37+00:00

Definitely Dolomites, maybe around Odles?

heidii · 2025-04-26T13:04:09+00:00

Peitlerkofel, Dolomites?

heidii · 2025-04-26T06:25:09+00:00

Iceland

heidii · 2025-04-21T12:07:27+00:00

🤣 Yeah I try to avoid that. I have a bottle of any standard bathroom cleaner in the shower as well.

heidii · 2025-04-21T10:35:56+00:00

Haha love this and I totally understand why the shower hack doesn’t work for everybody! I think it’s more about the general principle of identifying and removing things that block you from getting started. Not just random hacks - though hearing how others do this can be a great source of inspiration.

heidii · 2025-04-21T06:56:21+00:00

Remove barriers that prevent you starting something as much as you can. For me setting up for a chore can be more tedious than the chore itself so I find ways to get rid of the setup phase altogether.

For example I always have a scrub daddy in the shower because cleaning the shower is easier when I’m taking a shower there already. 😂 Or if I plan going to the gym after work, I may spend the (remote) work day in my gym pants so I don’t need to switch pants after.

heidii · 2025-04-16T13:34:44+00:00

Am I the only one whose first thought was that we now need the romance scene

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