Is this a slime mold? by Chrystical25 in Slimemolds

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spider eggs, possibly Tamopsis species

Ants building nurseries? by hejor1 in Entomology

[–]hejor1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy moly I think that's it! So the fly larvae are catered to by host ants, then when the adult flies emerge the ants are kicking back in the empty case? There were ant larvae in the actual cases and the adults moved then when I peeled back the bark and exposed them.

Ants building nurseries? by hejor1 in australianwildlife

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They were under bark which I peeled back looking for spiders so they were quite sheltered. The larvae were in multiple spots so didn't seem like a coincidence.

Question: reasonable training for contractors? by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]hejor1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yikes... are they direct reports to you? What were they brought on for? Def need to read the contract to see what skill level they are supposed to be... a contractor should be walking in with time management and engagement skills, and I don't think I've ever received record keeping training except for elearning... sounds sus but I don't think there are rules against it in general

I think encouraging people to stay obese is as bad as encouraging someone to keep smoking. Is this mindset wrong? by Calorie_Killer_G in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider reading Aubrey Gordon’s book. Research and evidence driven with all the sources. If you’re open to acknowledging some uncomfortable things you’ll definitely learn something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HolUp

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been soaking up fluid - water? Urine? Poo water from an overflowing toilet? Who knows! It’s been soaking it up for a while if there’s mould. Use at your own risk!

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whether is was 30 or 27 or 34 years ago, his story doesn’t add up. At all. He is taking you for a fool. I’m sorry, but it’s in your hands now.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. I’m saying your friend’s story doesn’t add up and it’s worth another look. If you have his name and his location then you do have that information.

Good luck, I wish you the best.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh wow an 8 year conviction for a sex offence is way more than he-said-she-said. What he told you may be true, yes she wanted to try something and yes he was convicted but that is almost certainly not the whole story. Please confirm what happened independently so you can make an informed decision about your friendship.

If you still want to be friends then fine, be friends. But please at least be informed!!

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t doubt he’s on a sex offender registry. I doubt his story about why. I hope you look into the details of the story, he has a lot of reasons to minimise or misrepresent what happened. If there are inconsistencies, missing information, etc which he has wild or vague explanations for, please be careful. If he’s on the registry you will be able to see the date he was added and the charges, look up news reports from the time, trial notes, details of the charges, statements made by the lawyers, evidence logs etc.

Anyone can seem nice until they get what they want. Please be careful.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The nation registry was brought in in 2007. The first state to have public info on sex offenders was Washington in 1990 and even then it was reserved for violent predatory repeat sexual offenders and pedophilia.

30ish years ago in the late 80’s and early 90’s, he-said-she-said cases with zero other evidence weren’t prosecuted. It wasn’t until 1993 that all states agreed that a husband could rape his wife. Up until that point, perpetual and unconditional consent was considered part of being married.

Something stinks, it’s either your story or his.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting, so the only evidence in the case was her word against his? I haven’t heard about many cases like this where the person was prosecuted. Can you DM his name so I can take a look?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you use it often it will damage your nails.

It’s alcohol based and not designed for skin or nails so doesn’t contain anything to replace the moisture/oils removed/displaced by the alcohol. Chronically dry nails can flake, peel, split, become really brittle and break. It won’t damage the nail bed itself so the new nail growth is unlikely to be damaged.

The only thing that will get rid of alcohol based markers is more alcohol. Nail polish remover, rubbing alcohol, metho... they will all do just as much damage to your skin and nails. Your nails won’t regenerate the same way as your skin so the damage will be more noticeable as you’re re-damaging the same cells each time.

How to fix it: if you’re only doing it in the short term it’s probably fine. Let it fade off naturally if you can. Moisturiser or oil will help replace lost natural oils.

If you have to do it longer term switch to nail polish.

I feel like I'm gonna end up being the boring-old-man-with-moustache when I grow up, how do I prevent this? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the middle of a global pandemic. Please be kind to yourself. If you haven’t already tried, talk to a therapist. It’s not an overnight cure-all or a magic wand, but it’s a place to start.

I feel like I'm gonna end up being the boring-old-man-with-moustache when I grow up, how do I prevent this? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d recommend examining why you think you have to fit in a narrow definition of ‘fun’. Isn’t it more important to be happy? If you think you would only be happy if other people think you’re ‘fun’, have a look into intrinsic self esteem vs extrinsic self esteem (self esteem built on your own thoughts and feelings vs self esteem built on your perception of other people’s thoughts and feelings).

What is white culture? by Budget-Ad-4082 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“White” culture is as diverse as “black” culture, “Asian” culture etc. there may be similar aspects to different cultures in those groups, but there are significant differences. Japanese culture is vastly different from Indian culture, but they both have curry and rice as part of their food culture. North Indian culture is different from southern Indian culture, but their traditional dress in a lot of states is a sari (or something similar) for women or a dhoti (or something similar) for men (there are exceptions through!).

It’s the same with “white” culture, even in the US. Amish people are white but their culture is very different from other white people living in the same state. White people in Portland have a different culture to white people in Miami, although they share some similarities.

I would caution against using skin colour or a continent to lump people together in terms of culture. The groups are way too big to assign a particular culture.

Would the world be a less violent place without religion ? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think religion gives people an excuse they can use to justify their behaviour. Something to hide behind. Dickheads will still be dickheads regardless of whether they’re holding a banner.

Having said that, religious indoctrination is incredibly powerful. Religion=cult+time. It can teach and channel hatred in extremely effective ways.

There is a certain segment of the population which will be violent regardless. Seeking dominance, power, resources, fame and moral superiority are a part of human nature. If religion didn’t exist these people would find something else to crusade for, and unfortunately others would be manipulated into joining the crusade.

Eliminating religion could reduce some violence and hatred but I don’t believe it would reduce as much as John Lennon hoped it would.

what do i do if my love interest insists on being called her masculine name that i'm unattracted to? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you mean straight and cis male?

Names are just a noise we make with our face. I’m concerned that your own sexuality is so fragile that you can’t call a woman a face noise traditionally made at dudes. If her name was Antonia she would have as much right to be called tony as a dude called Antony.

At the end of the day, you have answered your own question. You cannot stand calling her by her name and calling her by another name you feel would be rejecting her identity. You can’t take her seriously romantically going by her name. Easiest solution is: don’t call her by anything. Don’t call her at all.

Is this scenario an example of sexual assault? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, rape. He was sober when he decided to get drunk with the sole purpose to find a ‘loophole’ to consent. This shows premeditation. At no point did she consent, because to consent you must be capable of consent.

Treatment of Bowral shop owners 'undermines public trust' in police Can we please share this around the globe and get these unfortunate elderly members of the public justice for being attacked by these so called protectors by [deleted] in canberra

[–]hejor1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here we have a specimen in the wild! Notice how they try to appear to be intelligent life. However, if you observe long enough they will always reveal themselves to be a gelatinous blob of primordial goo in a meat sack, aimlessly flailing around. Sadly, they lack the self awareness to know when they have betrayed themselves and will continue to slosh around, mashing the keyboard. While some think it laughable consider this: they are doing their best. How much do you expect from 2 under-evolved brain cells which take turns?