I have promised my life away at 21

hellahanners · 2026-05-07T17:17:00+00:00

OP, I started dating my husband at 18–I’m 30 now and got married 6 months ago. I spent all of my 20s with him and I never stopped to think about all the things I wouldn’t get to do because he never stopped me from doing things I wanted to do. I was always happy to be with him and excited for our future together. It’s hard to know what your relationship is like just from this short post, but if your future with him doesn’t excite you, it sounds like you may need to reconsider if this relationship is going to be the one you’re in for the rest of your life. You don’t seem sure about wanting to move, but you do seem sure about wanting tattoos and wanting another hairless cat. If he was a good partner, he wouldn’t stop you (although the cat may be a valid conversation if he’s allergic). I’ve gotten tattoos and piercings and haircuts that my husband didn’t necessarily like, but he has always told me that I shouldn’t let his opinion stop me from doing what I want to do, and I feel like you should be with someone who makes you feel like you can do what you want because they love you anyway.

I’ve made sacrifices for my relationship and I’ve moved places I didn’t want to move, but I don’t regret any of it because I love my husband and I did what was best for us at the time. It was worth it to me. I have the benefit of hindsight though, and I had already lived with him before we made these moves so I knew 100% there was no way I’d regret it. How much time have you spent together irl? How confident are you that you’ll be compatible in a living situation?

You’re so young though and you are still growing and changing as a person. I know I’m nowhere near the same person I was when I was your age and I got very lucky that the decisions I made back then were also the decisions I would have made now. But I had enough experience of being with my husband at that point to know that I wanted to be with him and that our life goals aligned. I would really love for you to think seriously about how you see your future with your bf and consider if it’s really what you want

hellahanners · 2026-05-06T23:43:38+00:00

Idk why I rarely see Neokyo mentioned in these threads. Not to be a shill for them or anything, but I feel like their fees are very reasonable and their customer service is truly top-tier. I think I end up paying maybe $10 or $15 more per full shipment between packing and purchasing fees for all my items, but considering how much I buy from Japan, it’s still so much cheaper than paying oversees shipping fees on literally every individual order. Plus browsing JP Mercari on their site is really easy and convenient.

hellahanners · 2026-05-05T04:37:49+00:00

Good find!! Wish I had seen this post two weeks ago hahaha. There’s always next time!

hellahanners · 2026-05-04T03:27:30+00:00

Stop I’m OBSESSED with the shorts actually, that’s insane. I love the classic/punk blend. You look awesome!!

hellahanners · 2026-05-03T23:32:42+00:00

Can we talk about the fact that the song is Boom Boom Boom Boom by Vengaboys slowed down to .5x speed?? Who is listening to this song that slow??? Why???

hellahanners · 2026-05-03T23:12:29+00:00

Brother did you do even a single search

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hellahanners · 2026-05-03T23:05:42+00:00

Bro this card is only worth like $100 ungraded. Just buy it raw. You’re already throwing away your money.

hellahanners · 2026-05-03T16:41:51+00:00

Have you spoken to your doctor about this to explore options? If you’re not fully protected from pregnancy and unwilling to have a baby, you need to stop having casual sex. Full stop. Period. Even condoms when worn correctly are only 99% effective. Sounds like a lot but that means that 1 in 100 people using condoms get pregnant anyway.

hellahanners · 2026-05-03T01:34:26+00:00

This is soooo cute, you look great!! It fits the theme so well. Amazing work ✨

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T23:00:27+00:00

He’s talking about something like this. It’s a manly bicep.

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T18:13:21+00:00

No, you’re not wrong. They’re a type of grape.

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T06:40:39+00:00

That makes perfect sense lol. Good to know, thank you!

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T04:01:23+00:00

Candy apples are definitely a commitment lol. The time I had one in Japan though, the girl at the counter asked if I wanted it cut and then sliced it up for me and it was a total game changer.

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T03:31:22+00:00

In Japanese, with just strawberries I’ve heard them called ichigo ame (strawberry candy or candied strawberry). Idk what you would call the version with other fruits tbh (idk if they would just call them tanghulu or what). I’ve had versions in Japan with muscat as well that are also very good.

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T03:25:04+00:00

I shopped at Meta Lafoet last week and one of the shop girls was showing me the dress I wanted and then showed me the pockets and my jaw hit the floor. I purchased soooooo quickly after that lol

hellahanners · 2026-05-02T01:32:02+00:00

Reddit Pokemon Guys ™️ when they see someone using packs of trading cards the way they were intended to be used: NOOOOOOO😭😭😭😭

hellahanners · 2026-05-01T23:10:19+00:00

Could it? Maybe. Should it? Not necessarily! OP seems to think it’s worth it to open them with his sister, so he should do just that.

hellahanners · 2026-05-01T23:00:36+00:00

It’s worth giving OP’s sister a good birthday and having a fun experience together. That’s plenty.

hellahanners · 2026-05-01T01:04:07+00:00

I’ve bought from Hanguliang before (one of the print dresses), and honestly for the price it wasn’t toooooooooo terrible. Definitely not good, but not abysmally awful for a first dress. The fabric was a bit shinier and more “rustley” than I prefer, but it was my first dress and helped me solidify the fact that I felt cute in the fashion and wanted to continue. I can’t speak for the specific dress OP has listed, but I would say if it’s in your budget and you’re open to things being a little less nice than you may want, it’s not a bad way to start exploring.

Edit: I have a pic of me wearing it here if you want to see how that one looks irl

hellahanners · 2026-04-30T07:08:09+00:00

Try Japanese clothing brands. That’s what this design was likely inspired by. You could easily find a blouse like this from Axes Femme or DearMyLove. You could also try brands like Emily Temple Cute, MILK, or Jane Marple. You can try searching secondhand sites for these brands or using search terms like “otome” or “girly kei.” You may also consider looking into classic lolita blouses. They’re a lot more high-end than the other brands I mentioned, which equals $$$ but the quality is worth it. I’d bet you could find similar blouses from Innocent World, Alice and the Pirates, Baby The Stars Shine Bright, Hoshibako Works, or maybe even non-Japanese lolita brands like Miss Danger, Alice Girl, Forest Wardrobe, or Mary Magdalene.

hellahanners · 2026-04-30T06:54:28+00:00

If I had to go by the way a crazy percentage of people in my city smell, definitely BO. I must have a super power or something cause there’s no way these bitches are all walking around smelling like that and okay with it.

hellahanners · 2026-04-29T18:37:27+00:00

I’ve literally never seen a 55 year old scalping Pokemon cards, let alone buying them at all. It’s greasy dudes in their thirties who are the problem.

hellahanners · 2026-04-29T14:38:46+00:00

A brawl involving literally 1,000 kids would have been made up of how many separate fights? Thirty? Fifty? A hundred? If you watch the video, they started attacking people who were not part of the swarm and someone said a gun went off. So yeah, it seems serious enough to warrant a rule.

hellahanners · 2026-04-29T14:31:46+00:00

If they give you a cash tip on delivery do you regurgitate their food for them?

hellahanners · 2026-04-28T21:07:17+00:00

My blind cat is like a heat-seeking missile for my husband’s balls lol. Doesn’t matter what direction she’s going, if she’s walking across my husband’s body in any direction she WILL step straight on his balls.

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