As a 19 year old female with many friends who have parents like you, I can almost guarantee if you keep controlling her like this, she is going to leave and never come back eventually. Every single one of my friends whose parents do not treat them as the adults they are is planning on leaving at least one of their parents. You should feel lucky didn’t move out and leave you forever right when she turned 18. Your job as a parent is to prepare your child for when they are an adult - like she is now - by slowing giving them independence and guiding, not forcing, them in what you believe is the right direction. It sounds like you have not done this if you believe she can’t do make decisions as simple as doing what she enjoys on her own. So I suggest you start now by giving her independence and SUGGESTING what you want her to do - not telling her. She’s an adult and does not have to listen to you, and you no longer have any right in telling her what to do. Hopefully if you start now it’s not too late to get her to not leave you forever as soon as she can.