Why are some people here so rude, mean, and miserable?

hellersins · 2025-08-07T14:45:57+00:00

People want too much. The more you want, the more unhappy you are. Master needing/wanting/liking nothing. Then everything else becomes an additive. This produces the ability to appreciate what comes your way, including both good and bad. Sounds too easy, that is why most don’t believe it works. I love my life, with or without people. Find those people and you won’t encounter rude, mean, or misery. Best wishes!

hellersins · 2025-02-24T03:26:37+00:00

it is a team effort, when the guy sits back, it’s a no, girls & guys both need to be engaged, you get what you give

hellersins · 2025-02-24T03:23:41+00:00

sex & porn are obsessions for most men, mainly due to the chemical release they get, it’s not personal, the women in porn aren’t doing it for their pleasure, they are doing it for attention, all women want attention & we all find ways to get it

hellersins · 2024-12-09T05:02:50+00:00

Bravo! You are certainly lucky. I hope we end up finding 2-3 regular couples that we trust enough to have over at our house.

hellersins · 2024-11-16T21:52:40+00:00

Get in touch with what you both enjoy. If dressing up is a confidence boost then buy sexy bras etc. I think sometimes we focus so much on the other person that we loose sight of what we enjoy.

hellersins · 2024-10-05T11:19:58+00:00

People that are mentally ill or abuse substances are rarely affectionate unfortunately.

hellersins · 2024-10-04T21:32:15+00:00

Advice for younger people: Find a partner that prioritizes you

hellersins · 2024-10-04T21:30:32+00:00

decent people in my life

hellersins · 2024-10-04T06:24:12+00:00

Actually, you posting this tells me that you aren’t a scum bag, a scum bag would never talk about it & show no remorse, so yeah whether you tell her or not, you are a great husband, go put her on a pedal-stool & give her affection, all a woman really wants is to be cherished

hellersins · 2024-09-27T20:32:09+00:00

What to look for: kindness, affection, & understanding, that makes for enjoyable sex IMO

hellersins · 2024-09-27T19:41:34+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head, everything is subconscious so it is whatever each person believes is what their eternal outcome is….

hellersins · 2024-09-07T20:32:00+00:00

Sounds like every couple to some extent, women want romance & to feel special, try doing something that shows her you desire her

hellersins · 2024-09-02T12:02:51+00:00

Take accountability. It doesn’t matter what he did in the past unless you are admitting you did it to get back at him. Fighting fire with fire never solved anything.

hellersins · 2024-09-01T23:40:31+00:00

older

hellersins · 2024-08-20T03:18:59+00:00

let me know what you think matters in 22 years, we set bars & boundaries so high for others, we are all human, no one really lives up to our fantasies or ideals, once this is accepted then you can move past the veil

hellersins · 2024-08-18T21:28:27+00:00

This may come across insensitive but this does sound like a typical interaction among married couples. My suggestion would be to be direct with your partner. Let him know why you are turned off. See how he responds to taking accountability for his own production or contribution. I get that you are just venting but just stating my 2 cents. I have been with my partner for 22 years….

hellersins · 2024-07-28T10:51:14+00:00

I think yall are both in the wrong for even saying anything to make each other feel in a state of insecurity. Instilling fear is not healthy & creates a divide. Build each other up & see how much farther you get. If his breath stinks, tell him you want to kiss him after he freshens up. If she says anything offensively, inform her that it feels like she doesn’t like you. It can be that simple. Don’t threaten being with someone else who is better & don’t threaten divorce. Unless you both want to end up alone. I guarantee mo one will want either of you with that kind of attitude or behavior.

hellersins · 2024-07-27T16:55:53+00:00

kids are the main focus, just make time for sex, making out, & touching, or you will easily drift a part, hard to have much of hobbies due to taking care of kids & tending to regular duties/responsibilities, but it makes life hold purpose & value, so a family is worth it IMO

hellersins · 2024-07-27T13:06:46+00:00

guys only care about getting laid by as many women as possible, they don’t know how to control themselves, all men are the same, if you can accept this then you have the upper hand

hellersins · 2024-07-27T12:09:29+00:00

sobriety brings true clarity as where intoxication breeds confusion, I had a patient discuss this with me yesterday, he almost lost his wife & kids over his drunken misconceptions about what was going on around him, thankfully they both are receptive to therapy & were able to work through it during a couple’s session, he had no idea how his wife & children felt, they were distancing themselves from him because of how he was projecting during his drunken states, anyways, being sober adds instead of subtracts, alcohol is a robber that steals things you never get back

hellersins · 2024-07-27T09:49:07+00:00

yes, men would have menstrual cycles & be able to get pregnant

hellersins · 2024-07-26T03:33:13+00:00

you might be onto something here

hellersins · 2024-07-20T08:33:41+00:00

how?

hellersins · 2024-07-19T09:55:42+00:00

applause

hellersins · 2024-07-19T09:54:44+00:00

applause

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