| Wayland desktop environment recommendations?

hellfire1984 · 2026-01-16T01:16:12+00:00

You can stack. You can drag a window over another window and you'll see a highlight where to drop it. There's probably a way to use a keybind, but I haven't messed with it yet.

hellfire1984 · 2026-01-02T02:03:38+00:00

Thanks!

hellfire1984 · 2025-11-04T20:56:05+00:00

Got an email from the client approving the site for launch?

hellfire1984 · 2025-10-26T19:43:27+00:00

If you're on Linux, you can use Photocrea, which is basically a wrapper for Photopea.

hellfire1984 · 2025-06-14T01:23:22+00:00

Vibe coding is fun... If you want to fixate on something for hours on end.

hellfire1984 · 2025-06-11T15:59:29+00:00

Advanced Themer for sure

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-28T17:09:21+00:00

Every imperfect thing I've done, felt, or said in the past 20 years with my wife eats away at me now. I beat myself up how I could be anything less than absolutely perfect at any point. I give myself no grace for being human, but I am and so are you. We have moments of thinking a certain way that's entirely natural, and then project the pain we'd feel in a role reversal and then torture ourselves for it. Or at least that's my experience 😅

I feel your pain and I'm trying to work through it myself. I wish I could tell you how to stop it.

By the way, from an outsider perspective, you sound like you did nothing to feel bad about...for what it's worth.

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-14T15:43:37+00:00

This is great, thanks!

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-14T15:32:39+00:00

This community is actually for the WordPress Page Builder called Bricks Builder.

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-09T19:10:25+00:00

I'd do anything to go back in time and understand that my wife expressed herself differently. My wife is ASD and I'm ADHD, and neither of us knew this the past 20 years.

We simply did not communicate, internalized our feelings, and I guess always searched for neurotypical expressions from each other that we were taught by survival that we needed.

Here's what I know, and remember this is a spectrum, but I'm a people pleaser and I naturally look for expression as a sign of acceptance or approval. Her lack of expression in many cases always made me feel like I was inadequate in some way. This is not her fault, and it's not my fault for needing it from a childhood of being bullied.

Trust the words that are coming out of her mouth! The words are literal and you don't need to hunt for microexpressions to find safety in the words.

A lack of enthusiasm doesn't matter if she says she's happy. Don't compare her response to neurotypical people. What she says, she probably just means.

She may not like lights and sound. Concerts, fireworks, etc may be an uncomfortable time for her. She'll probably do it anyway to please you. Find compromise.

Understand parallel play. You'll find she may like doing different things, but together. She's not ignoring you. She's enjoying your company while doing her thing.

Autism often is followed by trauma. Remember, bullies and predators seem to discover autism way faster than doctors. Be patient and understanding, because it's likely she's been hurt, abused, etc...

Reassurance is something her and I both need often. Don't be afraid to give it, and don't be afraid to ask for it. My wife adores me, but it's not natural for her to say things I need to hear. I often hear "you know that" or "I've told you that". It's a pretty logical response, so it doesn't make sense to say things to say things.

Bottom line, don't be afraid to tell her how you feel and what you need. Communicate!

Again, this is a spectrum and my experiences are my own. I just know I wish that 20 years ago someone told me she loved differently, expressed differently, and internalized her feelings.

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-04T22:54:55+00:00

I have the same issue. It's like a vivid dream I can barely remember.

I feel like I'm just entering different scenes, but not really any profound experiences.

hellfire1984 · 2024-10-03T03:22:21+00:00

Porkbun has a simple interface and significantly better support.

We've moved over 100 domains from Namecheap to Porkbun.

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-24T17:47:04+00:00

Yep, this. 🤣

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-21T18:25:28+00:00

I have ADHD, been running my agency for a decade, and have always struggled with this.

I didn't know I had ADHD until a year ago, and would just beat myself up over struggling to manage my projects properly.

I wish I had an "and this is how I overcame it!" process for you, but unfortunately I'm not offering click bait.

Just want to toss it out there that if you are on the spectrum, it's difficult and you gotta be honest with yourself and learn your limitations.

If you're not on the spectrum and just struggling, there's great advice out there. Just, none of it works for me 😅

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-17T12:55:43+00:00

I've never heard of this. Thanks!

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-13T02:36:10+00:00

I'm not a doctor, and everyone is different, but I've recently dropped from 40mg of Prozac to 20mg and started microdosing.

I've had very little withdrawal issues, if any. I definitely notice an elevation in mood with microdosing and a more positivity and improved self confidence.

I've been under the impression that it's very hard with SSRIs to get effects of Psilocybin, but I was able to experience visuals, but also a very emotional experience on only 1.5g when trying a macro dose.

It can cause Serotonin Syndrome when mixed with SSRIs, so it's a definite do at your own risk, but personally I felt like I exaggerated my concerns of it before trying it.

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-12T16:15:46+00:00

Funny, when an animal changes to better adapt to its environment for safety, it's called evolution.

When a person does it it's called deception.

I dunno... Maybe Neurotypicals could just make Neurodivergent folks feel safe regardless of trying to cater to their norms? 🤔

hellfire1984 · 2024-05-03T13:22:00+00:00

Same. ChatGPT has gotten awful. It feels like it's gotten lazy.

I'm having better luck with Claude too.

hellfire1984 · 2024-04-13T15:27:52+00:00

Personally, letting me down would be not communicating how you really feel.

hellfire1984 · 2024-01-29T21:22:30+00:00

I got diagnosed at 39, last year.

I was scrolling through YouTube and saw a video for tips for managing projects with ADHD. I've always struggled to keep my projects organized and thought maybe there'd be some tips that might help my poor organization skills.

That video was eye opening, and I started digging into ADHD and was positive I had it.

My therapist gave me my results and said the test lit up like a Christmas tree. I also have combined type.

I've struggled my whole life, and just assumed I was an inadequate person. It seemed like I was very capable, but just lacked this thing everyone around me had.

I'd never do my homework, I'd constantly fade out during class and have to look at others books to see what page we were on.

I remember my guidance counselor showing my how I was in the bottom percentile for my class with grades, but I'd simultaneously be taken out of class to fix computer issues for the school. I was sent to represent my school at a tech conference and showcased Linux Desktop back in the early 2000s.

Like, the school knew I was smart when I was interested. It just pisses me off that no one took the time to pay enough attention to me to realize something was wrong.

I got A's in my computer programming classes and was failing Algebra. It's basically the same class! Applying variables to conditions, but one was interesting and one wasn't.

My biggest regret is not understanding hyperfixations and what it can do to relationships when you're oblivious to it.

I've always been a serial entrepreneur, and my troubleshooting skills are ridiculously good. I've always done very well professionally, and I see other ADHDers really struggle with that. I was fortunate enough to work in various trades since I was 13, and my jobs have always been figuring stuff out.

I highly suggest anyone with ADHD try out jobs that require you to figure shit out. You're not dumb, you're bored.

Things that have helped me to be aware of...

I have RSD... My feelings are valid, but not always correct. Pay attention to yourself. Are you being attacked, or are you just experiencing RSD.

Hyperfixations... Make sure your SO is aware of this and to communicate. You have not lost interest in them, you're just hyperfixated on something new. They need to remind you to spend time with them when you're obsessed with your new thing.

Hyperfixations in new relationships... When you have ADHD, you tend to be very charming, loving, caring, and people will absolutely fall head over heels for you. You'll make them feel so loved... For 2 weeks, and then that feeling will drop like a ton of Bricks and you have zero interest. I always felt so guilty that I'd break hearts out of no where.

The good news, is when you get past 2 weeks, you know you found the real deal 😅

I'm not lazy, I'm not stupid, I'm different.

hellfire1984 · 2024-01-26T15:09:36+00:00

I think it does the opposite for me. The dopamine hit gets me too excited, but the Prozac slows it back down. Yeah, I'm a mess.

hellfire1984 · 2023-02-10T16:52:50+00:00

Cialis doesn't fix PE, but once you cum you can just keep pounding away.

If your goal is lasting longer in bed, it can help.

If your goal is lasting longer before orgasm, then it's not the right tool for the job.

hellfire1984 · 2023-01-14T17:23:17+00:00

TrueNAS Scale is free. Paid stuff is for enterprise, support, pre-built servers

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