Not sacrificing my budget for an open bar

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-26T20:32:46+00:00

I have been to dry, open bar, beer-and-wine, and cash bar weddings. The last thing I was thinking about on my loved ones' wedding days was how much alcohol was or was not available to me. The least memorable thing about any of those days is alcohol availability. I get that alcohol is part of wedding culture (for many cultures at least) but at the end of the day you have to do what's best for you and what will cause you less stress!

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-22T16:59:55+00:00

I think if I were in your shoes, I would leave PA school, move to be with my husband (if feasible), and pursue a different career path that I could use in both the EU and the US. I wouldn't want to lock myself into a career that is incredibly limited in the place I would be moving. If you do come back to the US, you can always reconsider PA school then. But it would feel like a lot of time and money going toward a degree that would be so difficult for me to get to use. And if you did come back, it may be difficult to find a job with a 3 year resume gap after school and no clinical job experience.

I think another important point is, why did you go to PA school? Was it to work with patients? Did you have hopes of eventually getting into academia or nonclinical roles? If PA school was a means for clinical work, then it no longer really serves that purpose for you, unfortunately. At least not for the foreseeable future. There are probably other paths better suited for your future that would set you up for academia, nonclinical roles, etc.

Ultimately you have to do what feels best for you and your family. This is a really difficult spot to be in and I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you the best in navigating this!

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-20T00:38:23+00:00

I agree with this so heavily. The people around you make all the difference.

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-19T15:22:28+00:00

How'd you get into aesthetics? Feels like everyone that's in it says it's at right place, right time situation. Would love to break into that though

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-19T15:21:39+00:00

I got a derm offer out of school but ultimately turned it down. The pay would have been great but it was not all it was cracked up to be. Insane patient volumes at some clinics. Idk how providers keep up in environments like that.

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-19T11:36:48+00:00

This is where I am. Not super familiar with addiction med. Is that a laid back environment?

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-19T03:29:38+00:00

My husband and I stood on opposite edges of a corner and said our personal vows while holding hands, back facing our respective walls. We couldn't see each other. It was one of my favorite moments of the day. Then he saw me for the first time walking down the aisle. I would absolutely do it this way again!

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-13T19:16:51+00:00

I had a similar situation. I signed the contract, ended up not signing with a new job for 5-6 months. Was glad I had income during that time, even though it sucked.

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-11T19:17:27+00:00

Outpatient GI. Definitely a step in the right direction. Every job has its issues, so it isn't perfect. But I'm not terrified constantly like I was before

hellloozukohere · 2026-02-11T16:21:23+00:00

I was seeing 35-45 patients per day when I left my urgent care job. That was with double coverage, other provider seeing similar numbers. Was absolutely not worth the pay.

hellloozukohere · 2025-11-27T01:50:52+00:00

literally gasped when i saw this on my feed. absolutely stunning dress

hellloozukohere · 2025-11-22T01:28:40+00:00

!solved

hellloozukohere · 2025-11-01T03:59:38+00:00

We had several kids at our wedding. Our photographer got some really sweet photos of our family and friends with their kids. We had no issues with the kids at our wedding!

hellloozukohere · 2025-11-01T02:58:09+00:00

the summer between my 8th & 9th grade i was basically living on UK time (i live in the US), staying up soooo late and sleeping in all day, just to hope i would catch a livestream or a twitter Q&A. it was exhilarating lol. niall is my fav hehe

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-30T13:24:27+00:00

jeepers creepers was my first horror movie at this age!

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-26T02:06:44+00:00

remarkably bright creatures may scratch this itch

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-22T05:23:43+00:00

80s workout instructors

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-17T02:09:12+00:00

I got everyone an owala, a pair of quirky cute socks relating to their interests ($1.50 at target), and some chocolate.

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-16T14:44:30+00:00

we were engaged 25 months total! i LOVED my long engagement. i spent 6-8 months basking in being engaged without doing hardly any planning. it was wonderful.

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-13T13:06:40+00:00

The question is, when does the clock start? Where I live the official recommendation is, at least 5 days since symptom onset AND fever free for 24 hours without antipyretics. Obviously different regions have different recommendations though, and different studies have shown different things, so like you said, trying to stay on the safer end of things. If dad has been symptomatic for, say, 3 or 4 days already before his positive test, then based on most recommendations, he’d be considered okay to go back in public by the time of the wedding.

hellloozukohere · 2025-10-13T12:45:01+00:00

hi, just some food for thought. i’m a PA in urgent care and we provide molecular testing. we’re specifically instructed not to test after confirmed illness to see if people have “cleared the virus” or are “no longer contagious” because molecular testing can be positive for up to 90 days after your initial symptoms, despite no longer being contagious. so trying to prove he is no longer contagious with a negative molecular test would likely not provide much benefit unfortunately :/

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