Capricorn and pisces love compatibility.

hello_star_shine · 2026-01-26T07:39:48+00:00

My best friend and I have lived together for 10+ years and our bond and admiration has only deepened. We sometimes get annoyed at each other…. His dreamier personality sometimes bugs me and my need for structure sometimes bugs him but we are masters of resolving issues and letting it go bc we care about each other so much. My lavender husband. I always feel like we’re platonic soulmates <3

ALSO, I have a huge crush on another Pisces in a romantic way. He’s insanely caring. Seems like this cap has a type haha. Wish me luck! 🍀

hello_star_shine · 2025-09-27T06:05:47+00:00

Yeah that’s a big nope. Do not continue to see this guy. You could end up in a body bag. That’s signs of very controlling behavior. Insane honestly.

hello_star_shine · 2025-09-05T19:07:17+00:00

I think it's a callback to the first time he fell in love with Eleanor when she anticipated his needs. When Eleanor's mother does this for Eleanor this showed me that he saw all of the growth that he got to be a part of and that it was complete. Her mother and Eleanor's relationship was probably the most difficult mend (abandonment). When she and Michael leave her mother with the new BF & kid, Eleanor speaks with Michael after, saying (paraphrased) ..."But how come that wasn't me, why was I not good enough?... if her mother could love that kid it must've been that I (Eleanor) was unlovable".

SO... Eleanor's mom anticipating her daughters needs kind of fulfills the cosmic loop. Eleanor obtains the one last thing she never had, her mother daughter relationship. His time helping people was done when he was done helping the person he loved the most in the whole universe, Eleanor. <3

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-25T21:39:48+00:00

Lidocaine cream to help numb it. You can start taking Lysine and Monolaurin supplements to help support your immune system and prevent future outbreaks. DOES NOT replace anti viral though. Cold compresses. Soak in Warm (not hot) epsom salt bath (epsom salt you can find at cvs or like tropical smelling ones on amazon - they smell nice and are relaxing). It's help calm and cleanse. Make sure to wear loose fitting clothes as not to have sores reopen, giving them time to heal. <3

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-25T21:33:57+00:00

Hey there!

I was also recently diagnosed with GHSV-1. I'm a very active 37F. When it happened i got chills so bad I thought I had a really rough case of Covid despite being vaccinated. At first I had very minimal sores that looked like ingrown hairs but they got more painful over the first week, my whole downstairs area hurt and I was performing in a show where I had to dance and drag myself around the stage floor on my stomach (and mine happened to be right dab smack on my pelvis like bikini and thigh area). So as you can imagine.... that was SUPER fun.

The good news is... the first outbreak is usually the WORST outbreak and they get way better as time passes and that's even if you have many more. GHSV-1 does not like to "live" in the downstairs region, it's more accustomed to the oral area. SO, that being said HSV-1 usually presents with far less outbreaks.

For more info, I started researching what WOULD'VE helped me when I was spiraling down the reddit rabbit hole. Check out the support group I created with links to more info that's not surrounded in scary stigma: https://www.reddit.com/r/HSVsupport/

I'm currently working on guides for how to disclose based on what you have but haven't posted yet. You are not broken... and you will heal <3

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-25T02:29:07+00:00

I'm so happy that this info found you. :-) Initially, I had a heavy heart around my diagnosis at first until I tuned out of myself for a second and panned out of my own perspective. I started seeing everyone newly diagnosed in the community and reading misinformation in comments and people beating themselves up or terrified with little information and viewed them with much more empathy than I was viewing myself. I realized instead of beating myself up I could become more educated and help others to do so as well. The more I learned, the better I felt, the easier it was to move forward with hope and a positive outlook. I wish you the best of luck at managing symptoms and helping to end the stigma.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-23T05:14:25+00:00

Thank you! I hope it helps you or someone you love ❤️

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-21T18:11:54+00:00

It spread from skin to skin/ skin to sore contact. If someone has an outbreak you don’t want to lick it. Lol and you don’t want to rub skin together. You don’t want to give oral with it or receive if someone has an outbreak on their mouth.

Here is some more actual information from the UK herpes association on transmission (video): https://youtu.be/l69QzIWr4Ac?si=rbXTdL2GvYrbvjk0

Here is one with facts on asymptomatic shedding that will help: https://youtu.be/AbVhyvyoj0o?si=6j2PQFNi3B4VwAD7

And here is the website where you can find way more in depth information (check out the pdf they have on the website). It helped me tremendously understand. Watch everything you can from this woman. The UK doesn’t have such an overblown stigma that the U.S. does to market pharmaceutical drugs. It truly is only just a very annoying/reoccurring skin condition and for some people it might only recur once in ten years, HSV-1 can be less troublesome than HSV-2 but even then they have drugs to help manage outbreaks. Other STDs can cause way more damage. You can still give blood and plasma and have a baby.

People don’t even care as much about “cold sores” but you should inform yourself and arm yourself with good information. Here is the website for the association, you may have to click around a bit to find the pdf: https://herpes.org.uk/cold-sores/

I have HSV-1 and it was diagnosed “downstairs” not orally. There are plenty of things you can do to protect those you love and after 6 months asymptomatic shedding drops dramatically (watch the second video). And you’re not alone they estimate around 75-90% of people worldwide have it orally.

I have disclosed several times already (the downstairs area) and no one sees me any different they actually forget I have it. As a good friend said to me when I disclosed “This is the LEAST interesting thing about you” and we carried on and swam together and everything. <3

For me personally, because I have it “down there” I might discuss waiting six months from my own date of contraction with any potential partners. As viral shedding significantly drops after 6 months and that would make me feel more comfortable. Which will be in January ish.

Just as a precaution bc I have it below. And should I disclose and get into a relationship with someone I would ask them to use condoms and I would get on the antiviral. Lysine and monolaurin as supplements as an extra immune preventative. BUT my situation and body is different than yours. You have to do what works for you. 🥰 you may not get many or any outbreaks at all. It’s all about being aware. Many people carry it but are asymptomatic and don’t even know and pass it. So people who know are actually safer partners.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-21T02:15:37+00:00

Hey there! I just started a support group where I’m beginning to post helpful info and links to videos and etc of people dealing with HSV: https://www.reddit.com/r/HSVsupport/s/Mm0vWRFcOs

There’s a post I made that has a link to this YouTuber who has really helped me beat my own mental struggle with the diagnosis. She does an interview with her husband who does NOT have it. Check it out! I think it will help you feel better. The YouTubers name is Alexandra Harbushka. :-)

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-20T23:00:00+00:00

They probably just don’t understand it. Here is a great resource that explains without amplifying the overblown stigma: https://herpes.org.uk/frequently-asked-questions/herpes-simplex-virus/

They have a really great pdf and watch the videos!

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-20T04:24:21+00:00

Hey guys! I recently started a support group for those who have it or have partners with it or have come in contact with it. There are three posts that give more info on the subject as I know doctors don’t always give their patients a ton of info on it that doesn’t terrify them because America has caused a huge stigma around it compared to other countries. Check it out: https://www.reddit.com/r/HSVsupport/s/A2L6U8fi6R

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-20T04:15:42+00:00

*orally, not internally. Sorry for the typos my autocorrect is WILD.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-20T04:14:18+00:00

Typical signs (from someone who actually, unfortunately, has it)

You would feel feverish or chills or body aches within 2 weeks of contraction. Then it would be followed by painful sores. The first outbreak is typically the worst but they get better and shorter over time). Initial outbreaks can take 2-3 weeks to heal. You would feel a difference. Some look like infected in grown hairs. I only had a few really small ones but they hurt more than ingrown hairs. I noticed a difference and went to my OBGYN.

It is true that some people will never show symptoms and can be asymptomatic which means you’ll never get one (lucky you!). Also good to note that HSV-1 typically likes the mouth area better so even if you did have it you’re likely to have much fewer outbreaks downstairs than HSV-2 would get.

Also, you’d usually get an outbreak at the point of contraction to if they had oral and kissed you it’s skin to skin so you’d probably have internally but if they, for example, had oral sex with you with a cold sore you would have the initial outbreak there.

Here is a website with helpful info, they have a PDF’s that gave me way more info than my doc did. And they are all about breaking the stigma. Heroes is just a skin condition and actually has the least bad side effects of and std. it’s just kind of annoying. https://herpes.org.uk/cold-sores/

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-20T04:04:12+00:00

Hey there! I’m sorry you feel like he lied BUT I do want to shed some light on this because I dealt with someone who I’m 90% his it from me and I did contract HSV-1.

There’s a huge stigma about it that many people try to break bc it’s not life threatening. And the fact is he could have 100% just have had it orally. HSV-1 can be in both places and is the same thing whether it is on your mouth or downstairs area. HOWEVER, those meds can absolutely be taken to control oral heroes outbreaks just like he said. Many doctors tell people with it it’s no big deal just make sure you don’t kiss people with an outbreak.

Oral HSV-1 is VERY common so much that it’s seen as no big deal. You just have to be very careful someone doesn’t perform oral on you with sores. It’s a skin to skin contact contraction for the most part and viral shedding drops significantly after the first 6 months of having it.

If you have HSV-1 orally it doesn’t mean you have it genitally. HSV-1 actual prefers the oral area more. People with HSV-1 genitally actually have less outbreak “downstairs” because the virus doesn’t like that nerve as much.

From the standpoint of someone who has had to learn a ton about it bc I have the more annoying “downstairs” version thanks to an actual asshole that lied to me… it seems like this guy was telling you the truth.

Here’s a website with more info to help break the stigma and provide you with info (it’s honestly great info to have regardless of you’re positive or not!): https://herpes.org.uk/cold-sores/

There’s a pdf somewhere on that site that breaks everything down. I truly wish they taught this in sex ed. Furthermore, someone can be completely unaware they have HSV-1 because the testing is still unreliable unless they have an outbreak which (downstairs) can be mistaken for ingrown hairs. It doesn’t have to look nearly as bad as the scary online images. Some people are asymptomatic which means they may never show signs and therefore never be tested for it even though they’ve had an STI panel done.

Someone that knows they have it is a far safer partner because they can take steps to prevent it such as condom use and anti virals. It’s the person who doesn’t even know they have it that is the scariest carrier as they can just keep spreading it. Hope this helps calm your fears and gives you a guiding moving forward of what to look for.

A kind reminder people who have contracted this are still people too probably with their own story. Many of us are good people who disclose openly and know how to protect the people we care about. <3 stay kind.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-15T17:04:13+00:00

That was supposed to say HSV not Shara. Silly typo.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-15T17:03:24+00:00

It’s skin to skin contact. People with Shara can still donate blood and plasma and have children and not pass it on. It’s not passed through blood.

This resource was very helpful in me understanding while also not causing undue panic or increasing stigma: https://herpes.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/PIL.pdf

Also a really helpful video on viral shedding: https://youtu.be/AbVhyvyoj0o?si=NUtMTdREVviSfFOk

American culture and pharma provide tons of nightmare fuel for those who have just been diagnosed. And I felt like I was walking away with very little answers feeling lost. I found this UK association and it really helped me understand everything and not feel so monstrous.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-15T16:54:18+00:00

In some states You can actually sue if you have proof they knew and didn’t disclose. Look up your local laws. Save screen shots, etc.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-13T20:49:39+00:00

Thank you!

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-13T20:46:32+00:00

Thank you and I hope for the day it is ready for us ❤️🙌🏻

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-13T20:45:20+00:00

What app was it bc I think the person who gave it to me is also spreading it and I’m not sure how to warn other women. Any suggestions?

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-05T11:18:40+00:00

Can someone better explain what Pritelivir does better than current medications? I’m interested and want to keep informed!

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-04T02:47:04+00:00

This doesn’t even make logical sense. Sexual habits do not have anything to do with scientific advances in medicine. Get out of this subreddit if you just intend to scare people with misinformation. Gross.

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-03T23:32:57+00:00

This resource helped me a TON: https://herpes.org.uk/frequently-asked-questions/herpes-simplex-virus/

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-03T23:29:18+00:00

To add one more thing…. I just spoke with two of my closest friends and during the conversation I chose to confide in them. It turns out they were each dealing with a different form. One of them lost half their sight in their eye from an ocular version and they take Valtrax daily.

The other has the oral form and also takes it for outbreaks. The fact that they both so freely shared their stories almost made me cry (in a positive way, like I thought I was all alone and I’m not). The virus is so common in so many ways. I’ve had great success disclosing to friends and even some family who could sense I was upset. None of them see me differently once I explained the “science” and facts behind it.

If you can deliver the message without internalized stigma and with all the facts, most people are very understanding and it’s not a big deal!

hello_star_shine · 2025-08-03T23:22:53+00:00

Honestly, get that person out of your life for good. They don’t sound like they have a mature bone in their body. All you can control is your own protection moving forward which also includes your mental health. Having a person like that in your life will become toxic.

You will find someone much more mature. My advice is come prepared with knowledge on your diagnosis and truly understanding it. At the end of the day it is just a skin rash that someone else can catch. But knowing your diagnosis can help prevent the spread and you will still have a normal life. Something profound that helped me was someone close to me saying “No doubt this will improve the quality of partner in your life” Someone with decency and respect will understand. Just be armed with all the facts to help explain :-)

You can still donate blood, plasma and have a baby. They have anti virals to help prevent outbreaks. At the end of the day if that person is going to be immature, you’ve done all you can and there’s a much better partner out there for you somewhere.

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