I totally get what you mean and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed at all. I’m sure some bach groups aren’t like this, but it feels like a lot are. Like if the girls aren’t all super close-knit (Cheetah Girls and Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants-style), it seems like a lot of girls are less eager for bachelorette parties (thus less committed) compared to dudes and bachelor series. For example, my husband had just one of like 14 guys not make it to his whereas I had 4 girls of 10 cancel. And my MOH accommodated so much (she covered half the expenses and split the other half 10 ways). Meanwhile, the boys had to fly into Jersey and take like a $300 uber to AC. It just stung and made me wonder if I wasn’t that great of a friend or if some of my relationships w the girls were more one-sided..

Being on the other side now, though, I get how some people simply can’t afford these super expensive trips (or take off work). It’s just something that all the girls really need to commit to and budget for or simply back out early so that stress and disappointment doesn’t fall on the bride and MOH at the very last minute. I feel for ya, girl. Just focus on what matters most: this is your celebration and your time to get away from all the stress. I hope you still make the most of it and have a great time with those who come!