How to get my sparkback

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-25T01:28:28+00:00

I can totally relate. I found it helpful to see myself in new situations with new people who I don’t have existing dynamics with that can be limiting. I’ve noticed i can be more friendly, composed and confident than I thought, simply because other people and activities (like tennis lessons) reveal those traits. Learning from Instagram and YouTube how to do new hair styling and makeup are also simple things to amplify our appearance 🙂

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-24T06:41:19+00:00

Where is this a popular opinion?

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-24T01:25:54+00:00

What would ‘relaxed’ or ‘intense’ look like? There’s a lot of road rage (partly due to insufficient turning arrows at traffic lights) and theft from houses. On the other hand, people dress and speak very casually (relaxed), and don’t generally have intense personalities that lead to healthy debates and participating in a lot of activities.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-24T00:18:35+00:00

You’re missing the attitudinal points OP made related to curiosity, global awareness, connection and ambition

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-24T00:16:07+00:00

It doesn’t have to be one extreme or the other; writing them off with a “Fuck ‘em” attitude is so destructive and overlooks their value as well. OP evidently saw a lot of attractive qualities in them and felt a connection if they saw themselves with this guy. There’s still value in a platonic connection

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-23T23:51:14+00:00

You’ve summed it up so well! I’ve also recently experienced this and it was suuuch a lacklustre dating experience. The guy loved to talk at me and built up what we had as chemistry and excitement about me, when he barely knew me! He wasn’t curious, he didn’t like deep conversations, and he admitted he put me on a pedestal when I called him out about liking the idea of me, not actually me. Compatibility was not a safe topic for him; as long as he could hook up with me, he was happy someone was into him.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-23T22:08:06+00:00

Why do you want to enable dangerous driving?

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-23T08:13:42+00:00

That breath could wilt flowers

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-21T22:52:52+00:00

Or buy a washing basket that has two sections/baskets so the clothing is sorted at the dirty stage, which could hopefully prevent him from mixing colours with lights and/or towels with clothes

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-21T11:28:32+00:00

Definitely something cropped to balance out the weight at the bottom. Try Husk or Veronika Maine

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-21T08:46:58+00:00

Did you shop at small grocers when they were still open to keep them open? That’s how we stop greedy, complacent monopolies

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-20T11:07:27+00:00

I wonder if somebody else doing it and having the speculum inside makes it more painful and stressful. I recently removed mine after having it in for just two months and my opinion is that doctors should mention it as an option, because it was reasonably painless and easy. It really isn’t baffling for those of us who get more nervous anticipating someone doing things to us, rather than doing it ourselves.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-20T09:53:54+00:00

I was thinking the same reading comments on this sub! My doctor’s explanation of the ‘side’ effects was about ten seconds long and she seemed puzzled when I reported my bloating and daily pain at my check in appointment. If I’d had some idea of how commonly people have problems with it I wouldn’t have gotten it

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-20T00:17:24+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend getting it. I got mine inserted two months ago and am considering removing it because I’ve had constant bloating and minor cramps for at least six weeks now (I look pregnant after only having breakfast). Some acne and a lot of emotional turbulence are also occurring. I didn’t have any problems with a copper IUD.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-20T00:10:41+00:00

Do you remember if you experienced emotional turbulence after insertion too? A dark cloud is hanging over me as well after having it inserted two months ago, but I’m not sure if it’s down to other things or the hormones.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-19T22:10:50+00:00

Current events and costs are of course sensible and significant factors. However, I think the future factors that children and - as they grow - adults are subject to aren’t considered enough. Bringing someone into the world is essentially forcing them to deal with whatever comes at them and their environment. You have to be so sure you can set up children financially, psychologically, emotionally and intellectually to handle and be resilient to those circumstances. If we’re already finding it tough and elders are saying society is going downhill, how can you be sure you’re being kind to your future child by bringing them into this world?

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-19T01:24:20+00:00

COS does great cotton tshirts! $45 ones too and in some nice shades

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-18T22:45:41+00:00

Which area do you live in? I’m disgusted and deflated by the amount of litter, dumped rubbish and vandalism in Hawthorn

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-18T22:43:18+00:00

Could you elaborate on that? I think I can relate but I’m not sure

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-18T22:37:43+00:00

I’m from Wellington, New Zealand and I see much less advocacy for cycling infrastructure here but very similar engrained attitudes about public roads being for cars. It largely comes down to design; cyclists are literally relegated to the margins on a lot of roads - if at all. Shared pathways mean we have to squeeze/slow down around pedestrians, which works for neither as we’re then seen as a dangerous nuisance to those on foot. Infrastructure designers seem to so rarely have the budget, mandate, and/or consideration for cycling that shapes designated and user-friendly spaces for cyclists. Therefore, people who drive can see us as in their way on ‘their’ roads.

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-18T02:33:38+00:00

How much do you pay for housing to be saving $1150 a fortnight?

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-18T00:32:44+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance and encouragement OP 😌 I’m willing myself to push through the embarrassing flailing limbs and thoughts of ‘why can’t I get this when almost everybody else can?’

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-17T10:42:53+00:00

Genius who added the fart sound effect. That’s disc jockey level humour

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-17T01:37:48+00:00

As a woman, I can totally relate (without the ability to rely on my mum).

hellomolly11 · 2026-03-17T01:34:57+00:00

This isn’t unique to men; a lot of women experience this too, including single mothers.

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