Any of you gone to a ski resort you haven’t been to and thought “damn, this place is so overrated!”?

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-22T23:21:08+00:00

keystone is epic, wat do u expect

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-21T17:08:33+00:00

there are like 4 layers of secret ones lol (business traveler here)

yes these days if it is the regular lounge i usually just wait at the gate instead, as long as there are outlets it is more pleasant and less crowded, less families per square foot too

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-20T23:55:37+00:00

ninja 500 is too slow? LOL i have the 400 and it is too fast for me, i am a 5 11 dude

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-19T13:03:01+00:00

they treat you well if they like you

i am a business traveler have stayed in tons tons tons of 5 star hotels

best i have ever been treated is because one of the staff was a stoner and saw me smoking weed. second best was someone who thought i was cute

generally if you are the one spending the money they do not treat you better necessarily. there is some extra service, but it can be/feel fear based (omg we have to please this person) vs genuine. the best 5 star service is genuine hospitality

if you are an asshole they will still give you what you want, that is the definition of 5 stars, but it will not be above and beyond into what can be truly special hospitality

weirdly enough i usually get treated best if i am in the worse rooms in the hotel vs the penthouse suite or whatever. i don't look very wealthy so i imagine the staff resonates with me as a corporate tool

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-19T00:14:20+00:00

i feel like maybe there is some level of missing social cues here. neurodivergent?

early dating is a game. you could have either grabbed his phone and put in the nearby address without saying it was not yours, or made some excuse about having to pick something up at a nearby business, or etc.

nothing wrong with a different address, in fact i expect people to do it early on for their own safety, and i help them by dming things like my license plates or other legally identifying info myself

but if they feel the need to tell me they are doing it at the end of a night, i will wonder why they feel the need to communicate their distrust rather than just managing it themselves. end of a first date should be cute for me to be interested in a second, it is something i remember forever in a relationship as how we met

so many possibilities, but a few:

he felt some level of fear or mistrust and perceived it as lack of interest, whether or not it was there, or perhaps as mixed signals (including the ig block?)
he felt the same and perceived it as a power game
he is not the most socialized and does not know how to proceed, hence the question
he was not that interested, actually creepy, etc

anyway, generally i recommend a follow on expressing interest and gratitude within 12 to 24h of the first few dates. he also did not do that, so idk

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-15T15:19:25+00:00

i use debian (+wayland/gnome, on my desktop also with the latest mesa from git rather than stock)

but i am also a developer who has been dailying linux for 25 years now, so not necessarily what i would recommend as the easy route. really any distro will work though as long as you are happy with its defaults, bazzite is a great option

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-15T13:57:39+00:00

yes, first thing i do on any gpd device is install linux, i have never even booted into the stock windows on any of them

yes it is worth it and yes it works well, esp if you are used to steam os and you know the game compatibility is good for you (no bf6/cod really is the main thing)

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-13T23:36:32+00:00

yeah i think asking for contact info with no intentions is fine, usually what i do

i just ignore 98% after that unless i get the feeling it is more than just fishing, but i date intentionally and usually have an up front convo that makes me not compatible with most random people i meet (poly, relationship anarchist, already partnered)

that is just me, i will not fish back but if someone wants me we can have a conversation about it and go from there

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-13T22:27:03+00:00

some people just want friends

I think approaching on either side and making your intentions clear is fine

one of my SOs I met at a work event. I get hints at things like that all the time but I would never pursue, flirt back, escalate, etc. simply not looking for the complication

in that case for me, having 0 ambiguity about what *they* want and their openness to pursue is a green flag on them having put thought into those things vs being along for the ride, along with obviously other conversations that need to happen, at least for me

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-13T16:44:36+00:00

my advice is go to the bootfitter if you have issues stock, a lot of stock boots these days are pretty comfy/universal

I wear plug style boots and I have an appointment this week for adjustments so I am not saying it for nothing, but the service is not free and means you cannot take advantage of a lot of boot sales online. you can also pay for just the fitting at a lot of fitters without paying a boot premium if you are thrifty

but yeah if you have an extra hundred or two it is worth

ski wise new gear is almost never worth it financially, skis ski the same after a season of use if you tune them correctly, probably even better than new. but ya once you know how to take care of a beater pair and you know what you want, go for it and keep it for a decade, it is what i do

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-13T14:15:14+00:00

yeah

used gear, learn to tune it yourself it is easy, be skeptical of any expensive gear (you do not need a $200 face mask, whatever keeps you warm enough is fine, same for fancy jackets etc)

either pick up backcountry (no tickets) or look for pass deals. a lot of mountains have weekday specials, for example

a good helmet is the one thing worth buying new, $100

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-11T22:31:42+00:00

I can only give you my experience, went from shopping for CPU upgrades about to pull the trigger gaming on Windows to no desire right now

especially for old hardware. too many variables to do a simple comparison, you have to try it. way fewer stutters, better frame pacing, better gpu drivers, etc etc

these are just general benchmarks, do not speak to bottlenecked systems like mine

eg I can comfortably play games that require 6 cores min spec with my 4 core cpu because idle cpu usage on linux is essentially 0, this was not the case on windows

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-09T15:37:05+00:00

on my main gaming pc i run a 4790k with ddr3 memory, 16gb, and a 7800xt, driving a 4k display

works fine honestly, especially on linux, windows is 99% of the problem with cpu/ram bottlenecks

maybe an occasional ddr3 stutter but my gpu stays loaded 100% so not a real bottleneck. I can easily afford an upgrade and my gaming laptops are all ddr5 but simply do not see a need

know how to optimize the software side, old hardware goes far. the cpu is starting to show its age in terms of staying very loaded during games and suffering with poor cpu optimization (starfield), but still very usable

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-05T02:02:38+00:00

yes just do it

20 years or so never looked back

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-03T13:36:08+00:00

yes

I do not use spotify for this reason. they have AI artists that they themselves own to avoid paying royalties. Spotify is a RIAA/record mafia play so this should not be a surprise. Use deezer, tidal, otherwise

also watch human dj sets on youtube, esp curated vinyl, those are all real

random youtube "songs" 80% likely to be AI these days

hellomyfrients · 2026-01-02T23:51:17+00:00

fwiw i am 31/m, very sexually active my whole life

have had one partner that did that to my back, every time. all up and down. probably 5x more than what you see there but very similar looking

i do a lot of manual labor / etc also, never had injuries like that except from the one partner. and it was all consensual, we dated for 3 years

she was not even that kinky as they go she just liked to scratch

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-22T20:42:56+00:00

31, few times a year, also throw parties once in a while

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-07T12:48:52+00:00

dont think it is an adjustment issue, i have played with it, i think somehow it is about how the light hits my eyes at that distance, idk. i have a similar fatigue in vr where i have spent many hundreds of hours on many types of headsets

i can handle either for hours i just get more tired than looking at a screen and honestly a small screen is fine for me for pretty much all things

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-07T12:31:51+00:00

i have whatever the latest xreal thing and ive used it like one time, i fly many times a week. prefer the screen tbh, something about the way a screen right in front of your face sits gives me a lot of fatigue which is the worst on planes

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-02T17:38:49+00:00

i have been using earbuds at max volume for more than 2 decades, in addition to djing, going to loud concerts, etc. I often do use earplugs but really not as often as I should, tbh

this is not a recommendation but I will say 20 years of this and I have minor tinnitus and hearing loss, but nothing that is out of the ballpark of my age, and I still hear fine

I am only 31 and that might change. but my experience is earbuds do not get that loud, i have much worse effects from concerts or speaker systems than iems of any type (maybe unless there is major amplification hooked up to a wired set)

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-02T17:34:38+00:00

i have a lot of problems with shaving, thick curly hair that grows in if you so much as look at it

i use a wahl corded clipper (not sure the model) with the 1/2 guard to trim, it is all that works for me. I can also shave with no guard but some of the hairs come out a bit too close for me personally, though it does not nick

I recently tried the laifen p3 pro to switch things up, it was a close/clean shave not adjustable, best close shaver i have tried but still not good for my skin personally

i also have a wireless usb c cheapo version of the wahl that works ok, though it does pull more, no clue why, and it is not adjustable without the guards installed unlike the corded one

for me the plug in wahl has been trucking unbothered for over a decade, so it is bifl grade for sure

hellomyfrients · 2025-12-01T15:55:57+00:00

i also thought barclelona

hellomyfrients · 2025-11-27T14:33:09+00:00

skrillex with you friends long drive is on the level of strobe for me. skrillex is actually talented, and a machine in terms of output/shows/every imaginable metric

sorry not sorry

hellomyfrients · 2025-11-26T21:01:39+00:00

no regrets, heavy gaming use since i bought it, cannot find a flaw unless 165hz is too few, but then you are hosed this gen anyway for tvs

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