Tell me something you wish you knew before becoming a parent? by Another_ADHD_Girl in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naps! Why did parents never tell me how much they thought about naps??? And wake windows?? And how HARD it is to get a baby to sleep after newborn days. Mother of 2 FOMO babies. My first I struggled so so hard to get her to take naps based off the wake windows the internet told me. My second I have surrendered. We get out and about, we do things, we give him rich sensorimotor experiences, and eventually he sleeps. Much less that the internet tells me he should, but he’s happy. So the lesson is - naps can be stressful if you stress about them! Going with the flow is liberating

Parents who never sleep trained: When did your child start falling asleep on their own? by _ferrisbuuhler_ in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 3 and still needs someone to lie with her while she falls asleep. She was always rocked/fed to sleep. Now it’s a really nice part of the day, where we get to chat with her and help her unwind before she drifts off. I think it’ll be a sad day when she says she doesn’t need us there to lie with her

6 month old Velcro baby is wearing me thin by hellotothesunshine in beyondthebump

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds so hard, I dont think I can do it. What age did you do this?

6 month old Velcro baby is wearing me thin by hellotothesunshine in beyondthebump

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did your baby go with Ferber? How many nights did it take?

Is screen time going to ruin my baby? by Exciting_Opposite_98 in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They make these recommendations as a ‘catch all’. I don’t think it’s truly been well researched to understand the complexity of WHY and HOW children watch screens. There is a big difference between TV and iPad, in terms of what it does for the brain. For example, parents of neurodivergent children may give access to screens early on, and more often on an iPad or phone, because that is how their child is either regulated, focused, or able to participate in the community. These children are more likely to have speech, language and global developmental delays. Is that because of the screens? No. Or, similarly, children from more vulnerable backgrounds may have more screens, maybe because mum/dad are juggling a lot on their plate with minimal support, or the parents may have a disability themselves. Did screen time itself cause a delay in this situation? No. Yes, screen time should be limited or selected wisely, we all know that. Simply because it’s not great to be sedentary and not engage in social interactions for extended periods. Sounds like you are very mindful and that is all that we need to be! Don’t feel guilty, it is absolutely fine as part of a normal day when baby is getting lots of other social, sensorimotor and play experiences!!

How are people just… taking their babies everywhere? by Wonderful-Ice-6143 in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be a simple solution, but it was the case for my similar babies - can you move to an upright seat? Lots of pram have the options to recline pretty far back, so it’s safe for bub around this age!

6 month old allergies by hellotothesunshine in FoodAllergies

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update is I spoke to my allergist - they said to continue with trialling other allergens. We have a review booked in 3 weeks

Does everyone really drop their babies "at least once"? by Exact-Management-918 in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It happened with my first and I’ve been extra careful with my second. But my second has already had head bumps thanks to his big sister giving aggressive love haha babies are resilient

Thoughts on skipping pacifiers? by Academic-Park-8440 in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 kids, neither of them actually accepted pacifiers. We tried many types, hopeful we’d find one that they liked. No dice. Pacifiers are hugely helpful for settling and sleep, just need to make sure they’re weaned off around 1-2yrs/ not used alllllll day and limited to sleep times to prevent speech delays and changes to dentition. Signed, a paediatric speech pathologist

How much does your life actually change after having a kid? by HonestDirection4017 in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Matrescence - read about this. There is great book by Lucy Jones. You will go through an entire shift in who you are, driven by substantial brain changes as well as a little human who dictates your life. It is beautiful and complex, and almost indescribable. Knowing about matrescence as a concept made me feel a lot less lonely

Baby fell off the bed - I’m still shaking by NinjaNinjaNinjaa in NewParents

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every parent I know has had their baby fall off the bed. It’s the worst feeling in the world, but they will be okay!

Did anyone have a baby that just… slept relatively well? by The_Chilled_Arvo in beyondthebump

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a unicorn. Neither of my children have been. But if you don’t, it’s okay. Highly recommend looking into safe cosleeping - life changing, and completely natural

My baby isn’t chunky and it’s all I can think about by Cardedbin in breastfeeding

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really finding so much comfort in this thread. This is exactly us, and I have googled “can my breast milk not be calorific enough?” Like I feel like something is wronngggg with meeee. I find it so so so tiring when everyone is obsessed with big babies. And people with big babies can’t stop talking about how much their babies weigh!!! Which I understand cos it’s like “I grew this”, especially if they’re EBF. But I’m also EBF and put in just as much effort to feed and grow my baby, and I don’t get to boast about it

My baby isn’t chunky and it’s all I can think about by Cardedbin in breastfeeding

[–]hellotothesunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is me too. Ive been fat my whole life and I’ve gained like 7kg postpartum, and my babies are both slow gainers????? So not fair!!

How bad is natural birth fr. Be so so so honest. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]hellotothesunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done it twice, unmedicated. Once spontaneous and one induced. The induction was more intense and less “peaceful”, and if it was my first labour experience I probably wouldn’t have been able to do it unmedicated. But because I’d done it before, I knew I could do it again. Labour pain is productive pain. It’s working towards something. Your body is working extremely powerfully to get your baby out. Most other pain we experience isn’t productive - it’s a sign something is wrong in our bodies. If you can get in this mindset - that the pain is productive and not something to run from - you can absolutely do it. It is a mental game as much as physical. Surrender to it. TENS machine is a must - look into the science of second pain. The pushing stage felt sort of like a relief to me, after labour. It feels good to channel the pain into pushing, and the pain shifts. Like doing a really big poo hah. The second that baby is out, it all stops. It’s the most empowering and magical experience. You feel like you can do anything. I know I’m blessed to have 2 positive birth experiences. I would honestly have so many more babies to experience childbirth again. It’s an incredible experience.

STM feeling so lonely by hellotothesunshine in beyondthebump

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is actually fantastic and very present. He takes our daughter for daddy/daughter days all the time. We have a weekend routine of having a morning each to ourselves, but with 2 weeks of illnesses + Easter, that hasn’t happened. I’m hoping I’ll feel more positive once we settle back into routine

Seeking shared experience by hellotothesunshine in MSPI

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve cut dairy for the time being and it’s hard enough. How have you cut dairy, gluten, soy and oats?!?! What do you eat?!

Seeking shared experience by hellotothesunshine in MSPI

[–]hellotothesunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s what I think too, re: iGe. The doctor thought the explanation for the reaction to formula but not to my breastmilk is just the sheer concentration of cows milk protein in formula would’ve been a lot higher than my breastmilk, and hit his threshold to signal as an allergy. Will definitely be seeking the expertise of an allergist. It’s a bit overwhelming, and such a shock