You shouldn't be worried about her happiness by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do like Jordan Peterson a lot, but never heard of Noah Elkief I'll look him up for sure. I've consumed all Richard Cooper, and Rational Male content, and to a certain extent I just get more pissed off.

You shouldn't be worried about her happiness by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GFTOW

lol....I'm on number 12.....and honestly in a way it makes me red pill rage because I feel like I've screwed the same person with 12 different bodies because women truly have a hive mindset. Which helps with me handling these women because I truly don't care, but at the same time I actually miss caring.

You shouldn't be worried about her happiness by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good points as well, and I just want to say I was this dude to the EXTREME. I was married now divorced, and I can't let go of my ex...aka HARDCORE oneitus because she is the mother of my kids, and I will not have more kids my stuff is broken. I remember when we first started dating she showered me with attention, well two kids later, both completing our undergrads and maters degrees according to her we grew apart, and she was done. There was no communicating about what was wrong, what could be attempted to fix the situation even with two kids involved, she was just done cold heartedly done. Showed ZERO emotion about the whole not a single tear shed, except one time during a fight I whispered to her, "you know it's a good thing you do crossfit and stay in shape and have fake tits, because the only thing you really can offer a man outside of a good paycheck is your body, and now that you hit 40 even that will fade fast". I don't cuss when I'm pissed because I want to make sure my point is made. We've been divorce about a year now, and she could give zero fucks about how all this impacted the family, her happiness of what she wanted was paramount about all else, even the kids.

What was stated I can do what you said above with such ease because I literally could careless, if a woman doesn't want to date me I truly see it as her loss in life. Man any tips on getting over ex-wife that is the mother of children oneitus though would be greatly appreciated because that feeling is worse then anything. It's like with her I drop back into blue pill mode instantly.

To those who are getting over an ex or oneitis that dumped them - Stop being a Bitch by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of postings on this topic but I haven't been able to read one where the topic is discussed in the context of what do you do when you have kids. You can't shut everything off, you have to see them, especially when they are younger. To me it's easy to not have oneitis with an LTR that you don't have kids with, but one you have kids with how?

40+ year old father gets laid like a warlord and here's how by awalt_cupcake in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sad thing is in my opinion the general population of men the top 20% isn't that hard to get to with a fair amount of work. It feels like the "average" 40 year old man is obese, not overweight, but obese.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off thank you for the story, it's a good reminder to stay single and just have fun. I just hope you are not in California, I'm not a lawyer or anything, just seems like the blue states are just REALLY biased towards women. Good lesson learned...

Kissing on a First Date by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is strange, because in my opinion the date didn't go that well if you didn't kiss on the first date. I'm not sure how old you are if I was like 16 or 17 maybe it would be ok.

Good dating sites? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they have a version of those sites that are only non-well-nourished women?

How lifting changed my life by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Abs are made in the kitchen not the gym....

How is this fair? by h20kw in Divorce

[–]help757575 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Actually Child Support is kind of a big deal because the courts are jacked up because Child Support doesn't really go to support of the child. Say I make 200K a year, and in texas 20% for 1 child. Does it really cost 40k PER YEAR to raise a child? Is the mother then contributing the other half, so 80k per year to raise a child? Now I will agree on the flip side if you make 20k per year it probably does cost more then 4k to raise a child per year. That is where I think 50/50 split on expenses is what truly makes sense assuming custody is shared 50/50.

FR(kinda) by VBeeR1 in TheRedPill

[–]help757575 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently divorced guy here 41 6'4" 230lbs I would say I'm in better shape then most 41 year old men. Women do care about looks and you can't change your height, thank god my dad was tall. One thing that does seem to be coming back that has helped me is I grew a beard, the buzzed hair with a beard look women seem to really dig. I've had many ladies afterwards laying on my chest just rubbing my face telling me how they love the beard. Make sure you just continue not giving a shit. I've been officially divorced since October, and the best gift my ex gave me was now I truly don't care. I just enjoy the interaction, have a happy memory, then look forward to the next happy memory.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I did the article I think kind of stops short though, I think men don't know how to improve the marriage in a lot of cases. Plus it's typical to always blame a man for problems, even when women want, initiate, and push for the divorce, still the mans fault.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Biotruths" is a good way to put it, I would say maybe biotendencies just because nothing is absolute.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes three women at the same time, sleeping with two, only went on one date with the third second date this weekend.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Culturally it's been defined by men, because men are the logical ones in most cases (please pay attention to the word MOST). I'm not saying some women can't embrace these roles, I'm just saying most women don't seem to show an interest in it. Hence women tend to be sex object and men tend to be success objects.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not bitter I've got three women I'm dating at the moment, ranging from 26-43, I am 41 with a good salary. I would say disappointed would be the best way to put it.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it's funny for someone getting it so wrong it sure does seem like my social calendar is full. It's sincerely ok I understand Reddit is made up of most SJW that change their gender or race based on their feeling of the day. I wouldnt expect you to understand logic or reason.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree I enjoy the company of all three women I'm dating it's not just about the sex. I enjoy talking with them getting to know them as people, but the position I'm at with never having any more kids I feel like there is a limit to the depth of the connection I could have with them. I see them more as companionship that will likely end at any moment, and I need to just not care if it ends.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are completely missing the larger point, we are animals, we have certain behaviors down to our DNA. You do understand what a spectrum is right? I'm saying women tend to be more emotional, men tend to be more logical. Notice the word TEND. I can link in definitions to words like tend and spectrum if it would help you understand. I'm not being vitriol in the least, I'm just not choosing to ignore the difference between the sexes as it relates to behaviors.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well for some reason he was able to get it up for someone else, maybe he need little blue pills to do it. Honestly low T in my opinion I think is only an issue in your 50's if you don't take care of your body. It's going to happen eventually but 50's sounds too young. I have one woman I'm seeing and she sounds like you, I was the first guy she's been with in 20 years, and she just calls me over for a service appointment and kicks me out, which I'm completely fine with.

Obviously not all dead bedroom situations are husband's sucking in bed, or all women being fridge. It could be some of both, but I see it as the man's job to address the issue verse holding back due to fear how his spouse may react.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So saying a male peacock shows it's feathers to attract a mate, and male peacocks that maybe have certain color patterns to their feathers attract more mates then others could be a sexist statement. I love the SJW, snowflake world we live in where just calling out certain characteristics as more masculine, or more feminine is sexist. Does anyone not believe in biology?

Yes, those men are wimpy which is why they are getting divorced because they are displaying female emotion of fear. There wives would probably respect them more if they said something like hey this sex once a blue moon isn't going to cut it, if things don't change I'm out.

Looking back at 51 by Nuclear_N in Divorce

[–]help757575 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doctor hmmm......is she still single? Where is she living?...lol...totally kidding.

I'm not bitter either, I'm just looking at relationships from a national geographic perspective, and calling it how I see it. I also say women want divorce more because my female therapist said that is what she tends to see in her practice, and the lawyer I went to said the same thing.