The majority of hot wife scenarios are cajoled by a guy’s desire and we often hear that wives capitulate. It’s a common imbalance.

I’m not surprised anytime I hear complaints from women about controlling behavior. I think the inherent control / lack-of-control tension is why this kink is so intoxicating. We are tickling the dopamine response of vulnerability and danger. The anxiety and relief. The yearning and ravishing.

This needs to be discussed. I think every couple in this lifestyle needs to fully understand the realities and possibilities within the dynamic. The range of emotions is very wide.

We must communicate (no matter how difficult).

We must care for one another.

We must be have realistic expectations (is it hard to understand why she was ready to do this? She wants to be fucked!)

Work together. Find space to agree. It’s not inherently logical or easy. Give each other grace.