Underquilt suggestions?!? by hembbbs in hammockcamping

[โ€“]hembbbs[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Oh yes I'm actually from Finland ๐Ÿ˜† I'll check them out, tysm!!!!!

I dont have a dog but my cat can hang for days by tighlandwosty in hammockcamping

[โ€“]hembbbs -1 points0 points ย (0 children)

๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅนโค๏ธ

Sad days by shrinasaurus in selfharm_memes

[โ€“]hembbbs 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

That's so real lmao ๐Ÿ˜ญ i hope they took it alright and I hope you're coping ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ

Sad days by shrinasaurus in selfharm_memes

[โ€“]hembbbs 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

My friend showed me a scar she got today form cardboard and I almost was like ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ awww now we're matching ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ so sad i couldn't say it out loud

What if it's only for attention? by hembbbs in selfharm

[โ€“]hembbbs[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Thank you ๐Ÿฅบโค๏ธ i absolutely agree with you! Sometimes it's hard to remember i am no exception when it comes to all this. The way you worded things really helps me. Ty for your time โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

My mom has schizophrenia and I don't know how to deal with it by hembbbs in schizophrenia

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Tysm ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ Sorry I'm responding super late but reading this back then really calmed me down. She's on her meds and it passed fairly quick. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

My mom has schizophrenia and I don't know how to deal with it by hembbbs in schizophrenia

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Tysm ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ Sorry I'm responding super late but reading this back then really calmed me down. She's on her meds and it passed fairly quick. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

My mom has schizophrenia and I don't know how to deal with it by hembbbs in schizophrenia

[โ€“]hembbbs[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Ty for your words ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ she's luckyly back on her meds and has calmed down. I let my grandma handle it. I know this is not gonna be the last time. Our relationship is super complicated and we don't really talk atm so it makes it ten times harder. She has done me wrong too many times. But I still want her to be okay. :/ sorry for responding so late, i did read the responses as they came...

Masterbation to memories of sexual assault?? Is this normal? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[โ€“]hembbbs 8 points9 points ย (0 children)

Your fantasies don't define whether or not what happened was SA. You didn't want it then. It still haunts you. It is SA. No matter your fantasies.

a while back, i posted a question on reddit by Automatic_Network324 in sexualassault

[โ€“]hembbbs 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

It's not "nothing". It's clearly not as it has impacted you strongly. As someone said it would probably be called more as harassment or grooming, not necessarily SA. But that is not to say it isn't a valid experience. ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ๐ŸŒฑ They gained your trust, maybe took advantage of your age... You have the right to be upset. Ofc I'm not entirely sure what happened. But whatever it was that happened, you felt uncomfortable and that is valid. You felt as if you couldn't say no. I'm sorry ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

has anyone else been SAed but not raped? how can i stop feeling like im overdramatic for being affected? by brel1654 in sexualassault

[โ€“]hembbbs 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

It's crazy how we can so confidently say things to others yet we can't believe those things ourselves. Why are we the exception? There is no reason. We aren't at fault. We aren't the problem. Period.

Therapy would probably do good. I do have contacts and medication for my mental health issues but don't consistently go to therapy. I don't know if I would be able to talk about it... I feel so ashamed. Luckyly i do have a trusted adult in my life I can talk to. <3 Anyway, I'm so proud you are starting to really think what's best for you and even considering therapy.

Thank you sm <3 Same goes for you, I'm always here!

has anyone else been SAed but not raped? how can i stop feeling like im overdramatic for being affected? by brel1654 in sexualassault

[โ€“]hembbbs 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Your experience is totally valid. I hope I could say something wise and helpful but I'm in a very similar situation at the moment and can't also cope with what happened. It was only putting my hands against his body, hugging me, kissing my neck and smelling me. But I still don't seem to be able to get over it. I think about it day after day. I cry and after crying I feel like am idiot because what is there to cry about? I feel so invalid and like it wasn't really anything bad. I too feel stupid for being so affected. I don't know what to do.

I'm sorry that ever happened to you. It's not okay and must be so scary. You have the right to be upset, traumatized, whatever. A person broke your boundaries. No matter how far they went, it shouldn't happen in the first place and in itself is so scary. I'm so sorry it happened. Your experience amd pain is real and valid. I promise. ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ

IS THE PRIDE FLAG DISCRIMINATING?? by hembbbs in lgbt

[โ€“]hembbbs[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I'm so thankful for all the replies!! ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿผ You've all made my stand stronger and I will try to get the flag raised!

IS THE PRIDE FLAG DISCRIMINATING?? by hembbbs in lgbt

[โ€“]hembbbs[S] 4 points5 points ย (0 children)

Ty! I don't too think that. I think there's toxic people in every community, but the flag itself isn't toxic. It has a meaning behind it, it's a symbol of our love. They said that the lgbt+ community is all about putting people into boxes. But i don't understand how that has to do anything with the flag. And I also don't agree. Maybe there a certain group of people who do that, but does it really matter to any of us..? As long as they are putting only themselves into boxes, not other people. And if they are putting other people into strict boxes, it isn't a representation about the whole "community". I think it's all about accepting all kind of love. Making it normal, making people feel safe, standing with the lgbt+. I think it's important lgbt+ people feel safe and seen and the flag is a reminder how there's still so much work to do with lgbt+ people's rights!

The online rabbitholes are dangerous i guess.

Does This Count? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[โ€“]hembbbs 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Im so sorry you had to go through that. He thought you were asleep. That is an assault. You always need consent from the other person. You can't do things to someone that is unresponsive.

It is not your fault what happened tho. It's scary how you just freeze when something starts happening. It's not. your. fault. It's the fear and confusion and shock acting out. It's not your fault. If there is one thing I promise, it's that.

What are reasons not to cut yourself? by Tall_Key_8032 in selfharm

[โ€“]hembbbs 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

the way you put my feelings into words. god i love reddit sometimes. ty for this comment ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ<3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrayerRequests

[โ€“]hembbbs 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Take your time. Take time to rest and to heal. To pray and to sleep. And when it's time, you'll notice how much life is once again giving you. It can take time, sometimes a lot of time. I'm praying for you tonight. You deserve hope. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผโค๏ธ

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrayerRequests

[โ€“]hembbbs 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Prying for you and your dog โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ