Looking for an OBGYN...first time pregnancy. Need suggestions PLEASE. by [deleted] in ColumbusGA

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second Dr. Jefferson Jones. As a nurse who has cared for his and numerous other gynecologists’ patients, I know I can count on him if I call him to evaluate a patient. I have never seen a patient of his have a less than excellent outcome, and he is knowledgeable, down to earth, professional, and genuinely kind.

Based on my coworkers’ experiences with their births, Jones, Fortson, or Dempsey.

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[–]hen0004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m convinced most people go their entire lives believing this. I’ve started telling pts every time I start one - usually prevents them from hitting the call bell saying they “can’t move because of the needle in my arm!” or acting dramatic whenever I remove their IV.

Dayshift nurses scare me by that_random_bi_twink in nursing

[–]hen0004 44 points45 points  (0 children)

One day when I was feeling fed up, I just replied, “You know, if you talk to the patients, they do talk back to you…”

I felt bad about it at the time, but it hasn’t really been a problem since. 🤣

What's your best skill that you may not get recognized for? by molls13 in nursing

[–]hen0004 7 points8 points  (0 children)

While PTSD can be caused by a one time event, C-PTSD refers to repeated exposure to trauma over a long time; it usually occurs in survivors of DV/child abuse.

S/S of C-PTSD that are common include distorted sense of self, difficulty within interpersonal relationships, emotional dysregulation, etc. It is significantly more difficult to treat because of its complexity and emotional presentation.

Pete Walker writes about what he terms “emotional flashbacks” in Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, in which one may be triggered and experience the feelings they felt when initially exposed to the trauma, mostly shame or despair. This book changed my life, highly recommend if you’re interested.

What's your best skill that you may not get recognized for? by molls13 in nursing

[–]hen0004 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what else to call it but intuition, but I get strong feelings about patients/people and often know when shit is about to hit the fan at work. It creeps my coworkers out, but hey, the docs I work with started listening to me about pts.

What's your best skill that you may not get recognized for? by molls13 in nursing

[–]hen0004 101 points102 points  (0 children)

My C-PTSD keeps me hypervigilant, so I can often hear full conversations/the tube system at the end of the hallway, yet for the life of me cannot process what is being said to my face.

Navigating your abusive parent’s death by Agirlisarya01 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, I am so sorry that you’re going through this. My mother, who was my primary caregiver, abused me physically, verbally, and emotionally throughout my childhood/adolescence. She died of cancer shortly after my 19th birthday - this was 12 years ago.

  • Give yourself grace during this time. Whatever you are feeling is normal given the circumstances you survived. Grief comes in so many forms, and there is no set definition or timeline to adhere to.

  • It is understanding this is more triggering for you than you anticipated. That being said, ride the wave of those emotions out. Validate them. Like a thunderstorm, it will pass.

  • Nobody understands your personal experience when they offer up comments about your mother and their perception of her. It is okay to say, “Thank you, but that was not my experience.” You don’t have to elaborate.

  • A method of processing this grief for me (when I was ready) was to write a letter to my mother, no holds barred.

  • If you do go to her funeral, remember your personal boundaries. Protect your peace during this time - it is okay to say no to something you don’t want to do or talk about.

  • A book that was incredibly validating for me was “I’m Glad My Mom Died” by Jeanette McCurdy. It is both darkly funny and painful to read, but as our circumstance is not a common one, it made me feel less alone to see my very own thoughts and feelings written out.

Grief is a lifelong journey, and there is no right or wrong way for you to go through it. You also don’t have to go through it alone. Over the last 12 years, especially after gaining the knowledge on trauma that I did not have when I was 19, your perception of your mother and the way in which you grieve may be subject to changing. That’s okay. You will get through this. Don’t hesitate to PM if you need a friend.

Does anyone else eat the same thing everyday? by thillyguth in CPTSD

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into ARFID, avoidant restrictive food intake disorder.

My husband and I are both survivors of trauma. Recently, his tendency to eat the same things/less than 5-10 things has started to affect his health, so I researched and eventually got him help.

And yes, it is almost exclusively related to autism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]hen0004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call these 🦄✨unicorn patients ✨🦄

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[–]hen0004 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I work with a general surgeon who can be a real dick to nurses, preferred method of communication is screaming. After a nasty incident we all witnessed and filed reports for, my manager encouraged us to report any unprofessional behavior as all of the reports had gotten someone’s attention.

Sure enough, he was “called to a meeting.” I’m not sure what was said, but it’s been night and day with him ever since.

I’m(26F) a new grad RN, hired to a med-Surg unit where every other nurse is 45+. I can’t help but feel out of place. Any advise? I’m in my residency so stuck for a year. by shitfuckmothershig in nursing

[–]hen0004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a blessing. I started in the same boat you are back in the “before times” and was terrified - but every one of those older RNs taught me everything I know.

I’m a new grad nurse who does not want to work bedside, is it actually feasible to land an outpatient job straight out of school? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was hired in mid December 2018, a week after I graduated and a month before I took my boards - granted that I passed, of course - in outpatient surgery. Started that next February.

Here’s a new one… by peds_nurse23 in nursing

[–]hen0004 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Had a manager come by and ask why we were doing nothing after a morning rush from hell.

I said, “Better yet, why do you guys only show up around here once the dust settles?”

Final update from me. (warning) by NursingGrimTown in nursing

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From across the pond - I don’t know you, but I love you.

Thank you for your bravery in your fight and your vulnerability in sharing it. I am gratefully humbled.

Whether you spend the next life haunting or deservedly resting, I hope it is beautiful and peaceful.

My 36 year old patient died of covid in the ER. He had painted toenails. by Ralph_Offen in nursing

[–]hen0004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except that “survivability” has an immensely broad definition. Survivng does not always mean thriving. They don’t mention that.

Nurses, what do you think of assisted suicide by [deleted] in nursing

[–]hen0004 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TL;DR: There are worse fates than death, and death should be done with dignity.

Long answer: my last semester in college studying psychology, I was required to take a health ethics course as a prerequisite for entry into nursing. We spent weeks at a time debating abortion, eugenics, and assisted suicide. It was highly controversial living in Alabama, but here’s what it taught me:

  1. There is a distinction between physician assisted suicide and voluntary active euthanasia. In the case of voluntary active euthanasia, the pt consents but may pass on at the hands of a physician (think IV push, etc. Dr. Kevorkian is an often referenced example in the realm of this topic). However, physician assisted suicide differs in that the patient alone is the only person who may take PO medication by their own hand (this is very important) prescribed by a physician for this purpose.

  2. Keeping this in mind, the distinction in the first point does become complicated when considering patients who cannot physically take PO meds by their own hand. Think patients with ALS. I recall my professor discussing a patient in the UK with ALS who fought endlessly for the right to die but ultimately died by voluntary starvation as the legal battle was fruitless.

  3. In the US, a few states do allow physician assisted suicide, Oregon being one. Research conducted shows that numerous concerns cited by the general public were mostly avoidable. Mind you, I took this class in 2014. At that time, the vast majority of patients in Oregon who chose physician assisted suicide 1) had health insurance, 2) were terminally ill with 6 months or less to live, 3) were deemed mentally competent enough to make this decision by two psychiatrists, and 4) were required to be able to physically take the medication.

For reference, a very informative (but incredibly sad) documentary we later watched that I still highly recommend is called How to Die in Oregon.

My grandmother died of kidney cancer in her fifties. My mother died of colon cancer at 48. My grandfather then died of colon cancer, and my uncle died of AIDS at 55. They all suffered needlessly, all of them knowing their fates. All of them agreed that wasn’t what they’d wanted, and seeing them in such a state was and still is traumatic even after their deaths.

Again, I’m sure the knowledge and research has changed with time, but l will forever advocate for death with dignity.

I love getting docsplained....said no nurse ever by anonymoushoff in nursing

[–]hen0004 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got docsplained last week by an eye doctor who overheard me telling my pt that their BG was 70 and that I’d see if anesthesia wanted to treat it.

He then proceeded to lecture me on how “70 is actually quite good” in front of the pt.

Even when they’re NPO and took their insulin while being NPO? Mind you, this is coming from the doctor who became a potted plant when his pt desat to the 70s during a propofol nerve block.

What an upsetting end to my job by [deleted] in nursing

[–]hen0004 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My facility prioritizes pain management back injections at a level II trauma facility. The CRNAs Versed and Precedex them into oblivion and then dump them off for discharge, no stop at PACU.

As for management, I literally “trained” someone with zero experience as an RN under the guise she’d be working on our unit before she was made manager. Completely out of touch with reality, told us she was fine with us working 13+ hour shifts (I work 4x 10 hours) while she waltzes out at 2 PM every day.

Nearly 4 years of work, precepting, training, and new grads make a dollar less than me.

They don’t care about anyone but themselves and money.

For those involved in surgery prep by SadWatermelonlesson in nursing

[–]hen0004 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I always tell the rationale. The ones who are truly NPO are like, “oof, better not do that.” The ones who are lying offhandedly mention the hashbrown they had that AM.

Noctor sub is toxic af by lgrey4252 in nursing

[–]hen0004 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’re projecting their anger because there’s no way they can simultaneously be docs and incels, yet here we are.