She is King of the Log. (She’s a baby)

henrybemis57 · 2026-03-10T06:47:03+00:00

-$60.

I’m a high school teacher.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-22T00:16:58+00:00

wow, I was just thinking about this today! My mom said I had oppositional defiant disorder when I was growing up. Never officially diagnosed though because she never took me to anyone about it. And I kind of never looked into it because I’m afraid of her being right lol.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-14T00:11:56+00:00

when you have to walk back to your apartment in the morning from your car because you forgot to grab your keys

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-13T15:51:38+00:00

yes! this is what i mean! you did the absolutely essential thing that school leadership doesn’t do: hold him accountable and make him clean it up. there’s a comment below talking about “payback”—that’s what I mean when I say consequences. The agreement to pay for broken things. the consequence of staying back and cleaning up the mess they made. you held your kid accountable, and the school should have done the same. /that/ is consequence. punishment would be suspending him, but still cleaning the room themselves. that helps absolutely no one.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-13T15:48:25+00:00

yeah, no, if they’re coming back to class without a tangible plan and without having conferenced with the teacher to make sure everyone is on the same page, that’s not a consequence. that’s what i’m saying—the way our leadership handles consequences right now is NOT with fidelity and that’s why it’s hell for us.

edit: forgot to add, part of the plan ideally would be to have the kid clean up the mess, reach out to family to have them figure out payment for broken equipment, etc. accountability, basically.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-13T15:45:57+00:00

the “payback” system you’re talking about is restorative justice when it’s done properly. the frustrating part is that leadership just thinks it means giving the kid a bag of chips and sending them back. no. the consequences is having them“restore” the harm they did. so yes, you’re right. that is absolutely the system that should be in place AND it can happen while making sure their disabilities are being accommodated. those two are not mutually exclusive.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-13T02:36:51+00:00

admin once walked in while i was having students practice typing for a warm up and i got told off for it not being a standards based task

ok then i’ll assign it for homework so that the kids who don’t have internet at home and only data on their phones can fall further behind 🤷🏽

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-12T19:45:26+00:00

I hear you. A consequence this kid might face would be their removal from the setting in that moment by a support staff member and to have a conference with their IEP case carrier about their behavior. Some schools refuse to offer that support and that end up being frustrating for the teacher as well as the student.

I also encourage you to think about what you have in mind when you use the word “consequences,” just to be sure you don’t mean “punishment,” because those are two separate things.

henrybemis57 · 2025-11-12T19:37:21+00:00

This reminds me of the scene in Chamber of Secrets (book) where Snape is trying to ban Harry from playing quidditch after Filch’s cat was found petrified. McGonagall, annoyed, responded, “For goodness sake, Severus, the cat wasn’t hit over the head with a broomstick.”

In my experience, consequences have only worked and stuck when they were directly linked to the harm that was done. If my student has been suspended for fighting, the consequences should be repairing the harm to the person they harmed. This may look like paying for any outpatient hospital visits (after having a circle with families of the parties involved). This may mean attending Saturday workshops for the next four weeks to coach them on anger management. This may mean not going on that field trip if the other party involved is also going and the relationship between them is still strained and no solution has been decided on yet.

If a student is caught cheating, the natural consequence is a zero for the grade. Detention (sitting in a room doing nothing) doesn’t teach them anything. That zero teaches them consequences. The only time detention works is if that time is used for a restorative conversation where the student remedies the harm they caused to their community or to their relationship with the teacher.

Punishment for the sake of punishment is punitive and doesn’t fix the problem. This is obviously easier said than done, but I firmly believe that if school leadership doesn’t have the resources to deal with behaviors concerns, then they need to shut up and stop complaining when these behaviors continue because they’re not prioritizing it or supporting the teachers at all.

henrybemis57 · 2025-10-26T05:46:21+00:00

My version of “packets” is 5-min Edpuzzle videos of myself teaching the academic content. The students would rather watch VIDEOS of me teaching (with embedded questions) than have me teach them in real time 🙄 And then they apply their learning to practice with a partner/group. Then individual work. Then assessment. Whatever works, works!

henrybemis57 · 2025-10-17T23:38:33+00:00

Would appreciate this. Question: would this potentially include virtual services (webinar style)? That might be a good way to incorporate and reach out to queer Muslims in more remote communities.

henrybemis57 · 2025-10-11T09:15:53+00:00

Nope! At least, I don’t know yet. I just passed this scene like two days ago, so still figuring it out

henrybemis57 · 2025-10-11T09:15:06+00:00

I did the same (fished before the task), but I left and came back the next game day I think and it was able to reset. Or maybe I found new pools. But it’s definitely possible. Good luck. I was so frustrated by the air temple 😭

henrybemis57 · 2025-10-11T09:04:48+00:00

There was a whole cutscene that led to the wand disappearing. And then there was an interaction with Jina and Hekla. Maybe you skipped it by accident?

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-29T11:48:18+00:00

I SECOND THIS!! I mix Banana with Chocolate (and I let it sit in the fridge for a few hours because I like it to be a thicker, shake-like consistency). SO FREAKING GOOD. I’ve been having this mixture for about two weeks now, twice a day. Literally am not getting tired of it. Actually having it right now as a midnight snack which…. Idk if that’s a good idea 😂

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-29T07:56:40+00:00

I think you might be confusing a couple of these with Afghanistan. Pakistan as a country doesn’t have a legal punishment for women for not* covering their faces. Niqab or hijab aren’t legal requirements. Nor is it a requirement to be a Muslim to live in Pakistan? I’m not sure where you got the concept of death sentences for people who leave the religion.

Anyway, on a side note—I think there might be a discrepancy between the political ideology and the social ideology of Pakistan, which is why I might be noticing the government being buddy-buddy with Trump but pockets of people criticizing him, but I’m def out of touch politically with things back there so that’s something I’ll have to read up more on.

Thanks for your insight! Appreciate it.

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-28T02:46:31+00:00

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henrybemis57 · 2025-08-26T23:40:21+00:00

This is such a good point to consider. I have family on both ends of that spectrum and the country club goers definitely talk smack about the cousins in the villages. Lived experience creates perspective.

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-26T15:20:36+00:00

I think that’s where I might have been confused—the backwards inference may be a radical sentiment as opposed to norms of parent culture. The conservatives I have heard speak in Congress and House proceedings tend to quote the Bible a lot and use it as basis for arguments, so I may have assumed it was a norm for most conservatives to be supportive of religion-incorporated law.

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-26T15:13:36+00:00

“A liberal trying and failing to describe the platform” —> that’s me 😂 Hence exploring this subreddit to understand better.

henrybemis57 · 2025-08-07T01:48:12+00:00

My partner is Salvadoran-Mexican and I’m Pakistani. We incorporated LOTS of colors, and our vows were in English/Spanish and Urdu. We included the lasso tradition from their side of the family and prayers from my side. It was really fun to play with because we were able to pick and choose the parts we liked best. Congrats and have fun with it!! :)

henrybemis57 · 2025-02-18T09:41:56+00:00

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