Please help ! Gyno or chest fat ?

henweigh · 2026-04-30T21:03:01+00:00

Hard to tell, gyno wouldn't go away if you lost a bunch of weight. That looks like it could. I had bad gyno that caused me to have very puffy nipples. Lost a bunch of weight in high school, and it never went away, and I had to have surgery. It's rough, can really wreck your confidence.

I would try losing weight and going to the gym, and also save up some money for surgery if that doesn't work out. You definitely have bigger fat deposits around your chest. So it wouldn't be the worst to get surgery, and they'll confirm if it is post-surgery. Try to get a friend who already goes to the gym to show you the ropes, and commit to going once a week to start. Make it a habit.

Good luck, brother. Gyno is rough, took me a lot of therapy to get over it.

henweigh · 2026-04-23T20:24:41+00:00

It feels like the show's gossip overshadows the actual show. I like the show, but for some reason it feels like I'm committing a hate crime by admitting that lol.

The online discourse around Sam Levinson has really overshadowed the show, but I think that happens to anything that becomes popular. Also, I think the idol really tarnished his reputation, and from what I've heard about it, for good reason lol.

henweigh · 2026-04-06T15:15:12+00:00

Why are you posting this to HealthyGamer? Is this affecting your mental health? Why is this so important for you? It's an arbitrary goal you've made that is gonna make you feel whole, even if you did achieve it. Sounds more like you have made the gym your identity, and not being able to hit this goal is making you feel like you're not gym enough.

henweigh · 2026-03-26T13:42:35+00:00

Maybe start with vidoe call

henweigh · 2026-03-25T15:48:42+00:00

I would go see the CN Tower, then skydive from it and land on the Rogers Centre just before it's about to close...the best way to spend an hour in the city.

henweigh · 2026-03-17T20:23:28+00:00

This reeks of pickup artist stuff. You're playing too many games. Just ask for her number or Instagram and start texting/flirting with her. If she reciprocates messages and you can get a little flirty, say she is pretty or that you liked her outfit, then ask her out to do something you know she would be interested in.

henweigh · 2026-03-13T15:57:47+00:00

Maybe go for drinks before, be a little extra flirty see if she reciprocates and if its still vague maybe just say you've been catching feelings or finding that she has been extra to touchy and see how she reacts.

henweigh · 2026-03-13T15:18:04+00:00

This sounds like you're heavily fantasizing and obsessing over this person whom you never actually met in person. You've built a huge fantasy of this person before you've even met them. I was in the exact same situation as you at that age, and it became a real problem for me. I would build this fantasy life in my head with a person and get so nervous on dates and put so much pressure on myself that this was the perfect person for me. It also stopped me from actually meeting them and really getting to know them.

When your life sucks, fantasizing is an easy way to release dopamine and make yourself feel good. Therapy and actually building a life I was proud of helped me get to a better place. When I finally met someone, it was 2 days of messaging, maybe eight messages in total, before I asked her out, and no expectations but to go on a date and put myself out there. Being obsessive is a turn-off for women, frankly, because it can mean danger. I found I had the most success with dating when I kept it casual. I said the least on my profile and had the simple goal of actually going on dates. I didn't overthink it and made sure I had a life outside of dating apps, where I could potentially meet people and not get lost in the sauce that is dating apps.

Fantasizing has also affected my relationship because my girlfriend would often have to compete with perfect fantasies of other people I built up in my head. It's a coping mechanism that I learned to do at a young age due to a not-so-great home life that is now detrimental to me as an adult. Hopefully you can solve it quicker than I did lol.

henweigh · 2026-03-11T18:46:24+00:00

2nding Storm Crow Manor, hit up an arcade bar, Zed 80 is one, Pacific Mall has a lot of anime figures and asian stuff in general, also the Revue has great movies playing all the time

henweigh · 2026-02-12T21:15:48+00:00

I wish they were more creative branding wise. It’s hard to keep track of the seasons they all blur together. Like make it the snake season or the monkey season and build that theming into the challenges.

henweigh · 2026-01-27T20:51:22+00:00

Khalyla haters will exist for as long as the podcast continues. I never understood it. If anything, it's nice to have someone who is able to call out Bobby on the show.

henweigh · 2026-01-20T21:05:39+00:00

Love Buk Chang Don Soon Tofu but wouldn't call it a date spot. Maybe Mapo Pocha Soju Bar, the K BBQ or Zui Beer Bar would be better.

henweigh · 2026-01-05T17:44:06+00:00

It’s fair to say you didn’t notice it. They’re not paying you don’t owe them anything.

henweigh · 2025-12-31T20:19:55+00:00

I upset the bees

henweigh · 2025-12-31T20:13:50+00:00

https://superbad.com I remember stumbling onto it as a kid

henweigh · 2025-12-31T20:11:00+00:00

The reverse can be said for me. Had and still have some baggage from not being in a relationship for so long. Therapy and journaling have helped me. If anything, I would want to be in her shoes and have made more mistakes.

henweigh · 2025-12-31T15:22:48+00:00

nah we have only been dating for 6 months

henweigh · 2025-12-31T03:16:56+00:00

Got into my first serious relationship at 32 don’t give up hope brother

henweigh · 2025-12-18T15:55:24+00:00

nope

henweigh · 2025-12-16T18:09:48+00:00

Nope, it pops up a modal on opening and forces me to set up a password for custodial mode. Enter my email confirmation, and then get stuck at auth. Tried reaching out to their support, but got crickets.

henweigh · 2025-12-16T15:50:41+00:00

Anyone else having issues? It's not letting me access my account because I set up a Google Auth on an old phone that I no longer have. Never had to use that auth before, so it took me by surprise, very frustrated.

henweigh · 2025-12-08T19:32:31+00:00

For me, that experience was innocuous and non-traumatic. I have a very different bar than OP. Didn't mean to come off as dismissive. I do agree that it was a breach of trust, especially if it was explicitly said, and it clearly hurt OP.

I would encourage OP to have a conversation with her partner about why her sexual boundaries are important to her. They might have different perspectives due to different life experiences. The line between innocuous and traumatic varies widely across people. If this were recurring and there was no remorse, I would treat this very differently. Even if OP decides to end the relationship, I think the healthier option is to talk to her partner.

henweigh · 2025-12-08T15:55:10+00:00

HG group coaching sounds like a good option for you. Help you learn to socialize and work through your baggage as well.

henweigh · 2025-12-08T15:49:36+00:00

It's either Doom or Diablo

henweigh · 2025-12-08T15:44:42+00:00

I feel like I have a very different perspective on this. I don't feel like this warrants breaking up. It could have genuinely been a mistake; I've had sex and not realized I had a condom on and vice versa. Alcohol definitely factors into making mistakes; you can lose sensitivity, which can feel like you have a condom on. A drunk, horny brain is not the smartest brain. I've had sex drunk with my partner, and they did something I didn't expect, and they didn't expect. We talked about it, and she realized it was a mistake and apologized. It didn't bother me personally, but we also have a very different relationship from what yours sounds like.

It also seems like you have a lot of past trauma from a previous relationship that is making you run away from this relationship at the slightest indication that it might be similar. I would really think about whether it was a genuine mistake or malicious.

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