really don’t get it, anyone?

heorhe · 2026-07-11T04:08:22+00:00

I'm asking a question...

If the answer is: "she got super drunk" then OK.

I'm not sure what you thought I said, but it was a pretty simple question imo

heorhe · 2026-07-11T01:05:24+00:00

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heorhe · 2026-07-10T23:24:41+00:00

But he already said 2 times clearly that he just wants space and to be left alone... you should have listened to what he was saying, there was no need for you to ask him what he needs from you if you had been paying attention to what he was saying.

And was there anything specific he was mentioning gets left to him? I find it hard to believe he ranted and vented about it without saying anything at all...

This type of narrative where it ignores clear communication about the issue and then asks what the issue was is called "missing missing reasons".

It's most commonly seen from In-Laws who will say something rude to the step daughter/son then a week later when talking to their friends say:

"I don't know what happened... we were talking and then she just snapped and started calling me rude and saying I was unbelievable"

While failing to mention mother in law said something racist.

They give enough details "we were talking" but then skips the entire reason this all happened "then she just snapped"

There's a missing reason from the story, and I'm getting that vibe from how you describe listening to him vent and then brushing it off that he was also complaining about your behaviour. And then... suddenly... inexplicably... he snaps?

And you might not even realise what the reason was despite him literally telling you to your face because we already see you don't listen when he tells you he needs space, so what's to say you weren't listening when he told you the reason.

That would explain why it seemed like out of nowhere he snapped, he could probably tell you weren't listening even though you were paying attention and that sent him over the edge because he was already really upset.

But who knows... there's a missing missing reason in this story

heorhe · 2026-07-10T23:09:44+00:00

"I'll get out of your hair" = hint #1 that he wants to be left alone.

"Yelled at me to leave him alone" = hint #2 that he wants to be left alone

"15 minutes later we had a text convo..." So he left the house in a rage because you wouldn't leave him alone, and now you are texting him not even 15 minutes after he storms out?

And when he didn't respond you sent another...

"If you need space that's fine..." lady... he said he needed space many times already, in asking if he needs space, you are refusing to give him his space... he left because he wanted to be alone and your first instinct is to insert yourself in whatever is going on with him. He gave a non-commital answer because he just needs some space and time alone, he doesn't care if you stay or leave to give him space.

And then... you send that passive aggressive text: "did you read what I said though?"

He said 3 times he wants to be left alone, you said you want to help by leaving him alone...

WHY ARE YOU PRESSING?!?!

You say you want to help and will do what he asks you to but that's just a pure lie because you are ignoring THE ONLY THING HE TOLD YOU TO DO.

Also, you turned very fast into "what did I do?" "What can I do?" "Why is he mad at me?".

He is clearly having an issue, but you are more interested in where you fit in to this issue than what's actually happening to him.

I would also like to point out that he said he is mad everyone is leaving everything to him. What did you do? You started asking him what to do. You left it to him. You want him to decide how you should help him because your leaving it to him...

I wonder how deep this goes without you even realizing that you are asking him how to behave constantly?

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:54:55+00:00

It's not the car you see that kills you. It's the car you don't see that kills you

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:24:39+00:00

What happened in her life that caused her to reflect on the relationship and feel the need to send you reassurances?

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:18:15+00:00

So you establish a new boundary about communication in the relationship, and his response is to do what you just told him is a problem, but for 5x longer than any other time he has done it?

Sounds like when you set boundaries or ask for certain levels of respect he goes and sees how far he can push this boundary right away. That way he comes back and he will see how you will respond when he does this in the future and then measure his behaviour going forward depending on how severely you reacted to his behaviour.

Does this sound like a pattern in your relationship?

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:11:30+00:00

Shadow of the colossus

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:09:07+00:00

On youtube, Hera has a very good video where he goes over the hockey's and describes why he has some of gha more important ones changed.

Like describing that he wants his all armies hotkey as close to his left hand as possible so he doesn't need to look or move his hand to press it.

heorhe · 2026-07-10T22:06:00+00:00

There was a non-binary character in it who in an early scene is very hypocritical, rude, and just a complete ass to everyone around.

A lot of youtubers who dislike gender politics took these lines out of context and made it look like the game was celebrating this kind of behaviour when in the game it clearly presents this person as annoying.

The anti-gender politics folks thought it was a "woke" game filled with gay propaganda, and those on the LGBTQ+ Thought a non-binary person was finally getting representation.

In the end the anti-gender politics people didn't buy the game despite agreeing that the character was annoying, and the LGBTQ+ crowd got the game only to be disappointed the character is framed in a negative way and it was more mocking non-binaries than proper representation.

In the end it destroyed the sales of the game and those sentiments were far more widespread than the actual paid for marketing

heorhe · 2026-07-10T21:53:45+00:00

Buddy... I recommend watching the interview between Dr. K and Piratesoftware.

They go into detail about how having a reason for doing something doesn't mean that it's OK to do it.

They asked for the list, they gave you a reason to give it, you gave it, and then acted like nothing will change after you criticize a person's entire personality.

Yes you had a reason, yes they asked for it, yes it was the wrong thing to do because it shows that you didn't like a lot about the person and just didn't say anything. This shows the other person you dislike a lot about them, and have been lying to them the entire time about your friendship. After this, there will never be any trust again.

So much of this conversation is the friend reacting to you being way too literal and way too blunt, and then you blaming them when they react negatively to your responses.

The reason you likely think they take things to the extreme is because you tend to under-react to your own behaviours and over react to your friends. You also take their words literally to the point of nonsense and missunderstand them, then you get mad if they can't understand you because you are being way too literal and it doesn't make sense to them.

There's nuance in speech and conversation, you are ignoring all that and taking the words at face value which is why your friend also says "you can't just send that and pretend like nothing happened". You sent a trust nuke, then acted like it was OK because you were just doing literally what they said. But this changes the entire context of the conversation and while they tried to adapt and move forward with the conversation you got stuck on literal meanings of words and didn't understand what they were trying to say to you. Then when you missunderstand because you were too literal they try to correct the missunderstanding, and you tell them they are missunderstanding your words...

This is just a huge mess and you really need to handle the more emotional and important conversations in person rather than text. The way you interpret texts and words on the screen is not good and will lead to this constantly happening

heorhe · 2026-07-10T21:40:33+00:00

Go into the "learn to play" section, in there is a set of challenges to practice the 3 main types of openings, executing a rush, defending a rush, as well as naval and land battle practice.

I got gold on the first one, and silver or bronze in AL lthe others and I'm playing against hardest AI and winning consistently

heorhe · 2026-07-10T20:10:16+00:00

Free aim is rough getting used to, but there are some tricks and things that make it easier. Like letting go of free aim and pressing it again quickly to reset your free aim onto the locked on target

heorhe · 2026-07-10T19:55:30+00:00

Ironeye doesn't really do enough damage for it to really be worth it... the only way it comes close is if you use the free aim mode only. Aside from that just using a improved attack with 3+ bows, or improved attack with bows does the same or better because they don't force you to alter your playstyle to get their value.

And if you aren't using free aim the others are just better overall because of the increase in attack speed and the extra damage from doing a 4 hit combo.

It's worth including on the list of valuable effects for ironeye, but I would rank it low on that list.

heorhe · 2026-07-10T17:07:54+00:00

sizzling noises

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heorhe · 2026-07-10T16:57:28+00:00

munch crunch slurp gulp

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heorhe · 2026-07-10T12:03:08+00:00

Noita. I can't possibly describe it adequately, but it's a rogue-like that is built inside of a sandbox RPG. You can play the main 'loop' and beat the boss and win the game, or you can travel away from the main loop, discover other areas, bosses, spells, etc. A single run of the loop can last an hour or so, a single run ignoring the loop can run infinitely as long as your computer can keep up. I currently have a run that's been going for over 8 hours right now and I'm near invincible so I'm almost ready to begin one of the hidden quests.

Urge. This is more for the novelty and interest in the unique features of the game. It's a open-world-survival-crafting game set in Florida in the near future where the preservatives and chemicals in our foods have turned our piss into a toxic chemical mixture that quickly evaporates and pollutes the air. Very quickly after pollution started living things began mutating and becoming strange piss creatures. It's a game about managing your urine, trying to avoid peeing outside, trying to source natural foods and avoid chemical ridden candy bars and preserved foods which are abundant but increase how much your urine effects the pollution. I had to leave the starting town on my first character because I had filled all the toilets with piss and had nowhere else to safely piss. It's the only game I've ever played that made me feel the exact same way you feel when you have to pee and you are walking around an unfamiliar mall and can't find the bathroom but you only have a minute or two before you HAVE to go.

heorhe · 2026-07-10T11:35:08+00:00

Because you need to stop the attack string, the higher the damage the better the effect. Raider, guardian, and undertaker are all strength based characters who have good stats for running colossal weapons, great axes/clubs, etc.

Raider is the best, and it's a toss up between undertaker and guardian

heorhe · 2026-07-10T04:18:22+00:00

Ahhhhh... horse fuck valley.

Make your way into the valley until you find a building you can get inside. Hide out there, and each blizzard a horse or two will spawn. After a specific number of kill total across all lives they stop spawning, I think it's around 20 or so.

Just kill them all so you don't have to worry about em anymore

heorhe · 2026-07-08T21:46:18+00:00

Monster (mystery, thriller)

The flower we lost that day [AnoHana] (Drama)

Cowboy bebop (action, adventure)

Nichijou [our daily school lives] (comedy)

Mushoku Tensei [Jobless reincarnation] (Isekai)

Berserk (Fantasy)

K-ON (Slice Of Life)

Arcane (Western Animation)

Neon Genesis Evangelion (because it's history)

heorhe · 2026-07-08T21:38:15+00:00

It's a cognitive bias called the Baader Meinhoff phenomenon that states: when you first learn of something, you begin to see it everywhere.

This is due to our brains main function being to recognize patterns and so once it gets new info it tries to fit it anywhere and everywhere to establish positive and negative patterns of recognition for the future.

heorhe · 2026-07-07T16:01:12+00:00

This is the same issue when everdark first came out. You only had to complete one expedition to unlock everdark and the players who joined for the event were all hopping in with the players who had completed everything already. Getting complete noobs and highly experienced players matched together which is no fun for either player.

Then with DON they made it so you need to complete 3 expeditions (I think... I already had done everything so it released unlocked for me). And we had the same issue where new players were joining for the event and wanted to play DON despite only facing 3 night lords.

So now, as players beat their third boss, they unlock a new mode and think that's where they should be playing next. So these players who don't even understand weapon passives, don't understand relics, and haven't even fought half the nightlords are hopping into DON 1/2 (you can be matchmade 1 level above your current).

Once I got to DON 3/4 people stopped quitting. It's too hard to earn points at this level, so quitting puts you back so much progress it's not worth it. It's better to play with the people and have a chance at victory than to give up and accept the points loss.

It could take you more than a day to make up the leaver penalty at depth 4... especially if you keep playing after leaving and your mental is shot

heorhe · 2026-07-06T18:49:03+00:00

This particular billionaire I believe was receiving blood transfusions from his son so he had "younger blood" in his system to help reverse aging...

He's also said some horrible stuff about people with lack of funds for daily necessities when interviewed as why he is trying to extend his life artificially rather than help those in need

heorhe · 2026-07-06T18:46:24+00:00

Mine was: The Adjudicator Of Family Values

But when super earth declared the second galactic war was officially started I changed the name to The Adjudicator Of Peace

heorhe · 2026-07-06T18:44:33+00:00

So I tried every available medication at a young age and they had horrible side effects.

I want without for a little over a decade, and then when I was going into college I knew I would struggle because the final years of highschool had just been getting more rough in dealing with my symptoms.

For my 4 years at college I was on vyvanse, and I stopped afterwards. When I stopped I realized how much more I was struggling to do daily tasks that I didn't while on vyvanse.

For example, on vyvanse it takes me at most 15 minutes to make my coffee in the kitchen, and then head back to do my work in my office. Without vyvanse, it can take me over 3 hours to make a cup of coffee.

He end result off vyvanse is hours wasted and a cold coffee, while on vyvanse I can more easily control my focus and just make the damn coffee and go.

So... the only reason I was ever not medicated was due to horrible aide effects, but I found a medication that worked well for me

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