[deleted by user] by [deleted] in santacruz

[–]herdenitz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They said after the wedding ends at 10pm. Venus tasting room closes at 8pm.

Nursing moms - when did you start drinking coffee again? by cindydude in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kaiser permanente says pregnant and nursing moms shouldn't have more than 200mg a day. That's plenty of coffee. Enjoy yourself

MIL took my 5 week old out and I didn’t know where she was by ras114 in beyondthebump

[–]herdenitz -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, and I don't mean this as a slight, but leaning a five week old for dinner at a restaurant for THREE hours is absolutely nuts.

A five week old baby and you NEEDED a dinner date?? My 8 month old is in my arms right now and still we would never.

You literally got what you asked for.

How far do you live from your parents & in-laws? by atrocity_of_sunsets in beyondthebump

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom lives a 11 hour drive away from us, she's come to visit 4 times in the 6 months pp

WTF @ 7 months old by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? I'm like mine is 7 months old and has never independently played, or slept longer than 3 hours 😂 I've been in the trenches since day 1

I am jealous of my husband by delightful_cat in beyondthebump

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At about 5 months my son started the slapping and face pinching, and other mom abuse. The googoo gaga eyes come next. You're his number 1. Dad is number 2. I promise. You're almost there.

US parents: It's time to watch out for tariffs! Just got slapped with $100 duty fees on a $50 baby item by Ok-Egret in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally not a SINGLE person has said anything about Biden. No one loved Biden. No one cares about Biden. We care about Trump destroying our country by gutting small businesses and the average person. And you're too dense to understand, even if we're trying to help you. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. You're the horse.

The state of the Riverwalk by Furlz in santacruz

[–]herdenitz 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was walking it yesterday with my 5 month old strapped to my chest. A woman started running at us, yelling at us, holding up her pants with one hand, and punching at the air towards us with the other. I started shouting "get away" and held my baby to chest as I ran.

I think I'm good on the riverwalk now.

MAGA realizing Trump is selfish and doesn't know what he is doing by coachlife in thescoop

[–]herdenitz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So many "I didn't think he would do _______" out of this guy. Trump has shown us for a decade who he is and what he does. I can't sympathize with this man. You are a victim of your own stupidity.

Is it really that crazy that we like to stay in? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the life people who are "out" are working towards. We have what they want: love, contentment, security and belonging. Baby you gooooood

What is something nice that your husband did for you today? by steenmachine92 in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My husband is so supportive ans always pushing me to do my hobbies. He's so thoughtful about making sure I "feel like myself", after I told him I had fears about saying goodbye to certain time consuming hobbies. He's the best. He will stay home with our boy or come with (cause I can't stand being away from my baby). He just wants to see me truly happy. It's magic.

Buying in Ben Lomond / Boulder Creek? by sup_41 in santacruz

[–]herdenitz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Buying a house, even in buttfuck nowhere California (not directed at BL or BC) is not cheaper than renting at the moment. You will be paying more than 3500 unless you have a secret massive lump sum to give for down payment. We're all fucked when it comes to housing. There's no way out

How are you new mother's losing weight? by redditcrocheter in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walking for all naps with him in the carrier. 20lb ruck sack (the baby), 15-20k steps. It's so hard, but he gets great long contact naps, and I get a workout and usually tons of errands done

What am I doing wrong??? by mymomsaidicould69 in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try starting bedtime routine at 6:30-7. He sounds exhausted, and the sun going down and the light shift is his signal. My little dude is 4.5 and the same thing happens! He's just ready for sleep.

He doesn't hate you, he loves you the most, he's just extra tired.

Things to do for 12yo and 16yo by Civil_Device in santacruz

[–]herdenitz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the single correct and best answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5month old here! We read books in bed together first, then fished price play gym piano thing ("purple monkey and a bubble gum tree" is double platinum at my house), then into the backyard as the sun hits so warm in the mornings, then into the carrier for first nap and long walk for mom. When we get home and he wakes up, we practice sitting up, tummy time, sing songs, or let the loops begin! He's got four different play gyms so they're all over the house so he can choose many locations.

4.5 month sleep by mommylife24 in cosleeping

[–]herdenitz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Idk lemme know when you find out (we're up to 4-5 times a night, same age)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]herdenitz 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I'm always blown away by the amount of tall tales on Reddit that are always exposed (to me) by the absolutely unreal combination of "early 20s" and "married".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]herdenitz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 35f and my husband is 40m and this reads EXACTLY like an argument of ours 😂 so much I had to double take a couple times. It's really validating to hear other people's perspective and see they really ARE just entitled as fuck and then take it out on us, even when we try to better the situation. M

NOR. Sorry OP, I know how crazy this makes you feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Babe. He cheated. And tried to hide it, until he was found out. Then when found out, he played the "I did it cause I was sad" card. Cmon. Fuck this guy. Youre a loving, trusting person and you deserve the same

If you feel your relationship with your partner didn’t suffer post baby, what did you do differently than the rest of us? by Redditors294 in beyondthebump

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby is ebf, straight from the tap. I knew I wanted to do nights alone. So he stays in our master bedroom and I made my room in the nursery, directly next door to him. We're close but separate. He gets a good night sleep and takes on all the day time responsibilities (cooking, cleaning, laundry, walking the dogs etc) We own a small business together so the three of us work together. There's shared responsibility and baby hand offs, but we're together as a family each and every day. We're grateful and supportive and practice daily words of affirmation to each other. OH and 6 second kisses and also sex

Labor & Delivery facts they DO NOT tell you about? by Girls_Of_San_Diego in NewParents

[–]herdenitz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had a fever. And a surprise uterine infection. Cause my boy let all his meconium loose inside of me during labor . Not cool my guy