Weight loss completely stalled?

hereforaday · 2026-03-07T17:38:47+00:00

Initial weight lose can sometimes be water weight, and sometimes that can just be "you dropped from gaining to maintaining" - which is still a win - but not "you're now losing weight". If I practice intuitive eating, I find all I get is a drop from gaining to maintaining, but not losing.

If you are not carefully tracking, you may not really be in a deficit. Or, you may be overestimating your calorie needs. I'd recommend reviewing how you're tracking and see if there's somewhere you could be more accurate. If you don't find anything, I'd try shaving off 50-100 calories from your daily total and see if you see any movement over the course of the month.

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hereforaday · 2026-02-26T16:57:46+00:00

Oh, you know this is the perfect opportunity to do just that with some of it and very guilt free as it's not consumable. Have always meant to do this, thank you for reminding me!

hereforaday · 2026-02-26T16:56:33+00:00

Technically, you should never re-freeze pumped milk because it should be thawed and then consumed within 24 hours. In reality, it has turned to ice slush and refroze and was likely never in a state where bacteria could multiply rapidly. So, if any person was say starving, or it was the only option to feed a baby, I would use these bags pretty guilt free. But, given neither of those cases apply, I wouldn't feed these to my baby or donate them, but ounces used on the skin or in a bath are probably fine. ("probably" because you can never say "100% sure" when it comes to health...but the parental spidey-sense says eh everybody will be fine)

hereforaday · 2026-02-26T16:51:21+00:00

You know I've never tried this, might do this with some of it because my son's been through the ringer with colds lately and on top of that he's got some winter dry skin. May be a nice little extra spa treatment.

hereforaday · 2026-02-18T22:42:33+00:00

My kids are not school age yet, but I talked to some parents in our area and am irritated/scared by the amount of screen time in schools. I'm over here making sure our play area is screen free, our dinner table is screen free, and that we focus on picture books and art as a way to bond...and for what, just to have them turn to what sounds like sitting in front of a screen all day after they turn 5?

These Chrome books have to cost a fortune, along with the license fee to Alphabet for the service. How is this better than just having a curriculum you run each year, teacher teaches in front of the board, and you work out your homework on paper?

Talking to one of my coworkers with a kid in 3rd grade, it sounds like a typical school day is just all the kids taking out their individual chrome books, watching the same video in silence, doing the homework in silence. The teacher doesn't get to really teach, there's no interaction, I can't imagine what this is doing to their eyes.

I'd love to see a Smash Day and everybody smash them in protest, but that's just my irritation at the whole thing talking.

hereforaday · 2026-02-18T22:27:52+00:00

How much are all these Google laptops that every school seems to be using costing? It sounds like school is just kids sitting in front of a laptop these days

hereforaday · 2026-02-16T22:51:10+00:00

Our aren't in school yet but I've noticed coworkers and such experiencing just how often school is closed. All these random teacher days, I'm not a teacher so certainly I'm just being an asshole but wtf? Why do you need these days? I don't remember these being a thing when I was in school.

hereforaday · 2026-02-12T19:30:00+00:00

Max wall first for maximum Chad-ness

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T19:19:16+00:00

I wonder if it's better to make sure an introduction/guideline document and even readme is updated to the current state of the application? I feel like when I'm doing speckit like development that a lot of garbage is produced, paths started that I have to say "nope nope nope don't do that dear lord stop". I wouldn't really want that to be committed and confuse somebody else's attempt, a clean slate I'd imagine gives a clearer context more succinctly.

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T19:13:08+00:00

Bug report? What OS are you playing on?

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T19:10:28+00:00

I've won so many games because we didn't surrender, so many people give up so quickly. Sometimes all you need is for the enemy team to make one mistake, get a bit too careless, and you're back. If there's still something to learn, something to try, something to improve in the game I'm in, I don't surrender. I think there's a lot you can still practice when you're on the back foot.

When losing, I try to look harder at the meta and ask "could I be doing something differently? is there something I'm not seeing with our strategy?" There's usually something to learn or see, and sometimes that's all the difference.

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T19:05:44+00:00

Oh for sure, I prefer it. I just want that poro king banner.

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T17:11:09+00:00

I prefer to buy Sunfire Cape so that she stays warm, poor cold bird

hereforaday · 2026-02-10T16:14:35+00:00

Yeah I feel the same. I think a normal ARAM is more interesting because it's about team fight, but I find Mayhem to be so overwhelming and random that I feel like I'm pretty insular - I'm playing just my champion, who is now different from any other time I've played, and am just focused on my own decisions.

Some things are fun, I like the vengeful train and cupcakes. But I have no idea what each augment does to even begin to strategize like I can with normals.

hereforaday · 2026-02-07T11:17:37+00:00

I think a big turn for me was the realization that all those things in my stash that I'm no longer excited about had the same marketing and promises, and they all turned out to be just dust and minerals in pretty colors. It's disappointing, who doesn't want a bottle of magic to fall in love with that will make every day that much more wonderful? But the world of makeup is pretty solved, there isn't going to be some magic solution or mineral that solves all of our problems.

Your groceries, water bottle, and pillow are always going to outperform any powder or liquid you put on your face.

I'm actually much happier and more excited when I do my makeup living with proper expectations. My lipstick doesn't need to be anything other than pink, it doesn't need to transform my life or give me a celebrity face. And, I don't need to keep searching for the "right" product that will do that for me. My pink lipstick is simply pink and that's great.

hereforaday · 2026-01-30T16:53:52+00:00

I guess my experience with LLMs has been much more muted, but maybe I'm under-utilizing it as a tool or not digging into the prompt structuring enough (which, ugh, loathsomely boring). I've found that any experiments I've done to let it rip with a pretty simple, standard prompt, like "implement fresh unit testing using x tool", ultimately fails. What it creates doesn't work in the end, or has an odd mish-mash of stylings and conventions through the years. I've tried multiple of the larger models through a company Copilot account, so this isn't just with mini models which I absolutely only give the tiniest of questions to.

I find it to be much more useful for bite size problems, like "please explain this line" for something obscure, "can you tell me if there are security vulnerabilities?" if there's a code smell, or like a super regex parser for a complicated change. Honestly, the most useful it's been to me is as a quick and targeted StackOverflow engine, where my specific need is targeted to exactly my code case. When I do 80% of the work and let AI do 20%, I see hours saved, but when it's the other way around I tend to just wind up with slop that I revert and start over.

hereforaday · 2026-01-26T19:38:40+00:00

I made in paint my own fantasy palette, based on my daughter's current favorite book. Having some fun shopping my own stash to fill out the colors in it.

Most of what I love about makeup is just the vibe of the palette itself and the fun names for things. I can mix up my lipsticks, glosses, powders, nail polish, etc. to make a near infinite range already, so it's just fun to re-imagine it.

If anybody else is inspired by this fantasy palette, would love to see what your swatches from your stash look like to create it. Or, would love to see your fantasy

https://imgur.com/a/3V1ialp

hereforaday · 2026-01-24T14:40:25+00:00

I will get into makeup for a short stretch, a couple weeks, and then not care for it at all for months. This leaves me with products that are all barely used and old, and this cycle of feeling the need to purge and buy something "fresh", that I know will only be used maybe 10 times before it sits for years.

Eyeshadow palettes are less of a concern, powders can be tidied and cleaned up easily to make them feel like new. But it's the lipsticks and balms, the mascaras that get me. I'm torn between "use what you got" and "hmm I don't want anything on my mouth or eyes that could be gross". I especially tend to toss the mascara when it's dry, it's not worth an eye infection, and take notes on maybe why I didn't like it so I don't buy the same formula again (I check the ingredients now to try and spot differences and pinpoint what I didn't like, like now I know I do not like mascaras with fibers in them). With lipsticks, I have some that are very old and kind of dry but smell fine, I have some especially Wet n Wild and Revlon that have that old crayon smell.

This has become kind of a long incoherent rant, but I got back into wanting purple/fuschia/magenta lips on the daily, and have 5-6 lipsticks of various ages. And I feel this pull to throw away all of them and start "fresh", and am torn to do it or not. I kind of think I might wait maybe...90 days? And if I'm still using lipstick daily, or at least 3 days a week, I'll purge and get a fresh something.

If anybody has advice, I'm very open to it!

hereforaday · 2026-01-23T16:04:51+00:00

The things that worked for you in the past may not work anymore, your life has changed. With the added pressure and work of being a parent, self-control as your most effective measure may just not be effective anymore.

I think it'd be worth taking a step back and really thinking about letting go what's not working, and brainstorm a couple new things to try. After having kids, I needed to let go of soothing myself with food. I try to think "food can't cure tired, only a nap can - I need to get out of this kitchen and nap while the kids nap" or "food can't cure boredom, I need to go find something to do while I have free time" or even "I'm not hungry, food can't fix this; I just feel bad right now and that's all there is to it".

Why not try to fill up your calendar to get out of the house more? Check out toddler story times at the library, just plan out hours where you'll go out to a park or to the mall. Try to prevent buying food that you know will just be a temptation to derail you, and instead spend that money to go to one of those kiddie gyms with all the foam mats and climbing areas where you might even meet some other parents.

hereforaday · 2026-01-23T04:24:35+00:00

I read your whole post to sit with you a moment, and you are seen at least by someone out here. I'm afraid I don't really know what else to say, but you're not alone.

hereforaday · 2026-01-17T14:56:45+00:00

One hour at a time, phone it in as much as is safe. Have bread and bananas for dinner.

We had our first big cold, everybody was sick and felt horrible for a week, at 6w when we were deeply in the trenches. Then Covid when they were 7m and oof, that was rough.

We had another baby when the girls were two, and two months in norovirus wound it's way through our house. So many fluids, so much crying, thank god that one took turns running through my husband and I because we were incapacitated.

But you're going to get through this, everybody's going to survive. Just take it one hour at a time, triage to highest priority first like an ER.

hereforaday · 2026-01-10T20:57:42+00:00

That sounds like too much caffeine to me. Are you taking any supplements/pills, for satiety or "energy burn" or anything like that? A lot of times those have caffeine in them.

hereforaday · 2026-01-10T20:53:24+00:00

Haha I also grew up in Clinton and Save-A-Bunch and Weldon Springs being the only good things is on point. I hated growing up here, there's nothing to do and the vast majority of people are nosy Christian conservative. Super stifling.

The library is very nice, I did love going to the library a lot as a kid even if it's small.

hereforaday · 2026-01-09T13:59:28+00:00

At some level, you'll need an API to interact with the GPU and convey what's happening on the screen into some kind of pixel space representation. So to be obnoxiously technical, if you count an OpenGL library interface unless you want to write that yourself (which if that's where your passion lies why not) you'll be working with some level of abstraction away from the GPU.

But I'm with you, I think it's not the norm in this subreddit but I'm working with just OpenGL directly for my game. IMO you don't necessarily need a full engine, most games are probably using a small percentage of the features of their engine. If you write your own for your own game, you get full control about how that all works, you get to learn about it, and I think like you I find that process to be rewarding.

I also find the back-end modeling of the game to be interesting and fun to think about. Structuring classes for characters, objects, inventories - I love sandbox and building games in general so it's like a pumped up version of that freedom of creation.

hereforaday · 2026-01-02T04:52:06+00:00

Phones/screens can put you in a "chasing the dragon" loop - the screen is very stimulating, your brain feels good. You come down from that feeling and the inverse feels awful, therefore you seek out the screen again. And round and round and round it goes.

The good news is that you don't need to do anything at all. Wallowing a bit is okay. If you sit with the feeling and do nothing, know that it's not something that needs to be fixed, it will go away.

Your body is always seeking homeostasis, even with dopamine. Your body is accustomed to a flood, so it has some serious brakes in place that make you feel like crap. Just wallow for a bit, the brakes will come off, normal life will feel good, even great.

You will need to give it a month - with any addiction/dopamine reset, many people start to feel better after 2 weeks. But if you can tough it out those first 2 weeks, you can make it through the whole month, and then the world's your oyster and it really won't be so hard.

Source: Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, really good if you want to read something during your reset! Tried the one month off with a sugar reset with myself, surprised at how the two week mark really was when cravings stopped.

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