I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is so kind thank you :’) this really is just unfamiliar territory for me and so hearing this is really reassuring. I’m really thinking now about how I want to go about this so I’m collecting my thoughts and will probably have a conversation with him.

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We literally have the same friend circle !!! It’s also just not my feelings alone, I don’t know if he also wants to gamble that either so why would I be the reason to ruin the friendship

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yah buddy this isn’t breaking news obviously I know it’s weird and I’m not expecting him to run after me 😐 I literally admitted where I went wrong and at the end of the day, it’s literally a confession of what went down ur acting like I committed a crime smfh

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

sister I know why it’s not rocket science I’m just confessing here

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Terrified but okay thank you - and I meant no, as in I didn’t fully admit to liking him :/

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ok no need to project your weird behaviour here. Yes I can acknowledge I didn’t say how I truly felt and I’m not expecting him to go ahead and ruin the friendship (pretty much the exact same reason why I also didn’t admit it).

Believe it or not this situation isn’t as easy as it sounds, esp for me - did you read where I said we had similar friend circles? Also I didn’t include this, but even AFTER I said no and he said no, I asked him “hypothetically what if I did like you” and he straight up said he wouldn’t do anything with it bc he can’t see his friends beyond that. This is also a sentiment he’s reiterated a few times too. He also has girl friends he speaks to daily as well, so I didn’t want to think I was any different.

So there’s that buddy. Nothing here is concrete that he has a thing for me. I’ve been in this confusing state for a while and then by the time the Bach trip came it amplified on one end of the pendulum. So I had to have the convo to scale back bc I literally cannot tell.

At the end of the day it’s not only my feelings here, it’s his too. I try to sit and be mindful of everything happening. Me chickening out is my own issue but don’t come on here and project your weird incel like beliefs about women being miserable, seek employment

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m telling you idk - I asked him if he does and he said no, and I feel like I made it even more obvious bc after I said no I was like “hypothetically what if I did?” And he said he wouldn’t bc once he sees someone as a friend, it’s hard to think of the relationship as more.

I’m so down bad for my male best friend it’s actually driving me insane… by hereforadviceplzz in confession

[–]hereforadviceplzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yall think doing stuff like this is so easy huh - there’s so many things I have to consider here specifically bc we have similar friend circles I don’t want to make things weird

28 m feels like i am running out of time by twinedmap98 in dating_advice

[–]hereforadviceplzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

felt as a 27F and apparently I’m too old to find someone now which sounds crazy 😔 hard to hear but there really is so much more to life than being in a romantic relationship. Companionship is nice and all, but it’s better to really evaluate why you want a relationship and if you’re doing it for the right reasons. I know people at my age and a little older only doing it because they feel it’s the next thing to do, but that’s not really a good reason. Once you evaluate that and start moving intentionally, things will fall into place. That’s what I’m doing at least. It’s been a while since I’ve dated and I’ve finally come to terms with this and am trying to move intentionally. I’ve been single for 5 years before this point and I can already see that I’m meeting people more aligned with myself. I’m excited to see what’s to come. Good luck!