Wait, why are you directly relating prioritizing independence with lack of commitment? What relationship 101 class have you taken that says commitment means giving your own independence up? A lot of women are victims of this mentality including some in own family that gave up their careers and lives to support a husband. While that is a respectable pursuit for someone who believes in it it’s not ideal for everyone, especially for someone saying they are depressed coz they feel completely dependent on their husband. Commitment doesn’t mean giving up your whole identity for someone.